she has opinion for everything right from selecting her dress for school to her dinner to what medicine we should give for what!!! & she rarely takes no for an answer. starts shouting/ crying whatever she thinks is best at that time. we have tried to dicipline her but to no vain. any suggestions will be appriciated
2006-10-23 05:41:07 · 18 answers · asked by shorams 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
FIRST OF ALL TACKLE HER IN A POLITE WAY. LISTEN HER TALK 100%. SOMETIMES PARENTS LISTEN HALF AND SAY YES OR NO THIS MAKES CHILD IRRITATE. SHOW HER BEST SOCIOLOGIST
2006-10-23 15:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere along the line, it sounds like she gained the top position with you. You need to change it...now. As the mother of an 18 year old who had a bad temper, I understand where you're at. Consistency is the key. Sit her down and tell her what's going to stop. Tell her if she acts a certain way again, what the consequences are going to be and DON'T back down from that threat or she'll have you where she wants you again. You're the parent, remember. She's the child. It's up to YOU to teach her. You aren't teaching her anything by allowing her to be in charge. If you're being consistent, she'll learn. If you're not, which I tend to think this is the case, then you'll have hell to pay for the next several years into her teen years. And yes, a hefty rear end busting now and then will never hurt her emotionally. Just do it when you're not mad. Good luck to you!! Be strong! It worked for me.
2006-10-23 06:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lorie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a professional doctor type person who specializes in children.
Someone I know threw a glass of water on her kid whenever she would start to shout or cry for no reason.
James Dobson has some good books out too:
The Strong-Willed Child: Birth Through Adolescence
The New Dare to Discipline
Parenting Isn't for Cowards: The 'You Can Do It' Guide for
Hassled Parents from America's Best-Loved Family Advocate
Temper Your Child's Tantrums
Discipline With Love
2006-10-23 05:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not argue with her!!!! Let her pick out her own clothes (who cares if she doesn't match). Let her chose what she eats, even let her help you make dinner. You may need to compromise a little here because you need to be sure she is healthy. But, if she wants ice cream for breakfast, or cookies for dinner...compromise. Give her ice cream, just tell her that she has to agree to have something healthy also. If you allow yourself to get into the power struggle with her, you will be sorry. When it comes to bigger things, such as the medicine, you will need to come up with a plan. Obviously you can't give her Pepto Bismol for a headache. In this situation, you can CALMY explain that you want to make her feel better, but if she is going to argue with you, she is going to go to her room and suffer through whatever is ailing her. She has a strong will, and this IS NOT a bad thing! It can be frustrating, I know, but you need to make her feel important and validated as much as you can. She could someday grow up to be President!! It is that strong will that will help her acheive her goals as she grows older! Don't shoot it down! Find a way to allow her to express herself and have some control in her life. It will pay off in the long run! Good Luck!! Discipline is important, just choose your battles wisely!!
2006-10-23 05:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does something bad don't go too soft but don't go to hard. Kneel down look into her eyes and say in a gentle yet firm voice to stop now or she will not be able to _____ whatever you say.
But might I add you need to dicipline her to not get her way all the time because when she grows up there is no way to change it!
2006-10-23 06:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by misssparkles2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Sounds familiar. Seriously, better nip that in the bud before she gets older. Be consistant in what you say and do. If you say you are going to send her to her room or take away a favorite cartoon or book, Follow through. No matter how much she screams and yells. With my son? I would pick him up bodily and take him in his room. Told him that when he stopped having a tantrum he could come back out with the rest of us. And each time he ran out of his room screaming I would just pick him up and take him back to his room.
Seriously.... turn the radio or tv up. Or just totally pretend that you dont hear her. Whatever you do, don't give in. If your in a public place and the drama starts. Well, remove her from the public place and follow through, Eventually she will learn that she is not going to get her way.
For her though, Try to make situations where she can make minor decisions. This way she still feels as if her opinions count. If ya don't agree with her ideas, explain why..... When I was a lil girl i was such a tomboy. Didnt care what i wore or how I looked, my mom let me dress however I chose but she always told me how she felt about it, Well, I remember coming home from school in tears the one day because I was picked on for my clothes and rightly so! Seriously, plaid pants and a striped shirt with bright yellow socks! LOL! And I remember it to this day as a lesson learned, So that when my mom gave me advice I normally listened afterwards. Sometimes ya have to let them make a wrong choice so that they can learn a lesson. It would be great if we could make life very easy on our kids and take away all the hard parts in life. But we cant. So, give her a lil bit of freedom but be firm when its a decision that you are not going to budge on
2006-10-23 05:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by smilingeyes_976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make her know that you love her so much without telling her. It is good if she has opinion on everything. That means she is intelligent.Dont force anything on her .let her choose the right one . You be a guide only. You can also take the help of her teachers and friends to give her right direction but dont complain about her.
2006-10-27 00:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by mohandas m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking away privileges works, but you have to be a strong mother! Taking no from a child proves how wrong we are when we are the adult. You have to take control of it NOW, other wise you get run over by her when She reaches 13-15. She'll run away, do things you never thought about! Get pregnant! But above all if religious prey! You have to take control. Don't let her get out of hand. If she starts acting like a baby treat her like a baby, give her baby food, make her wear dippers, and feed her a bottle! If she wants to act like one treat her like one. If she hast to wear dippers to school let her. She must know who's in charge! Don't let her tell you (mother) what to DO! Please!
2006-10-23 05:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by deadgrl6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk out of the room and ignore the tantrum. Ignore her.
When my grown daughter was around 2-3 years old, if she didn't get her way, she'd hold her breath. She thought I would panic and do anything to get her to stop. I'd make sure she wouldn't hit something and hurt herself--if she held her breath too long and passed out. Then, I left the room. I walked out on her maybe 6 times, and she stopped doing it. No more troubles------------------------.
2006-10-23 06:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by Shossi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find a way to disipline her that gets to her. Try taking privelages away when she talks back. If spanking doesn't work then she needs to understand you are the adult and she is the child. take away toys, tv, playing outside, whatever she loves most until she can show you some respect.
2006-10-23 05:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dream angel is right .. don't give into her, if you do she knows what makes you give in ..keep doing the same thing time outs, take something away ..never resort to hitting ...but be firm and never back down in your decision. sounds like shes been getting her way far to long
2006-10-23 05:47:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋