Should I wait for him to ask me for us to be an official couple or should I ask him? He has said that he is not ready for a relationship yet in his life, I do and I love him and want to ask him, but I don't want to scare him away.
2006-10-23 05:36:15 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he said he's not ready, then you'll scare him away.
If you cannot wait, then move on. Some people are never ready to commit and you have to keep this in mind.
Remember the old saying: Why buy the cow if you get the milk for free.
Try not giving him all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment - just a suggestion.
2006-10-23 05:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he told you he's not ready for a relationship then that means your not the right person. Most definitely do not ask him to be an official couple. If you want to wait around then make sure you dont wait too long. Men seem to never want what they can actually have. Pull away and she if that changes things. If not then you should walk.
2006-10-23 05:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has already stated that he is not ready, yes, you will scare him away by putting pressure on him. He is not ready and you are, if you need more than he can give you have to find someone who can give you what you want.
Who knows maybe he will realize what a good thing he had, once you are gone.
2006-10-23 05:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's not ready for it, then yes, it will scare him away. What is it with some women, the man blatently tells you he's not wanting a relationship, but you continue to be with him, thinking you are going to change him. Then when you start to fall for him you get all offended and feel rejected when he doesn't feel the same way...hello...he told you that from the beginning, so why are you letting yourself fall for him??? All it's going to cause is heart ache...for YOU.
2006-10-23 05:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him to ask you. He already told you that he is not ready for a relationship in his life yet. If you can not take that as a hint than you have problems!
2006-10-23 05:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by 2hot2handle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not ready, and he has told you he is not ready, then you might scare him off. Did he tell you why he is not ready. If you really do love him and think he is the one for you, then maybe you should wait and give him time to realize that you are the one for him. If it is truly meant to be then it will happen just give it time.
2006-10-23 05:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by The Answer Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't state on how long the 2 of ya'll been going out....Anyhow, if it's of great concern for you, then you can somehow ease the question in there without sounding anxious. But since he told you he's not ready for a relationship then most likely he will not committ himself to you. Then in this case, you both will not continue to waste each other's time & you can move on & eventually can meet someone else who has the same mind-set as yourself in regards to be in a committed relationship.
Peace*****************
2006-10-23 05:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by LuvlyOne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drea,
Would you want to be pressured? NO? Then he probably doesn't either. If you want a DTR date, you simply sit him down and say, "Look I don't know what to tell people, I want to commit to you if you think we have a future together. However, if you think there is another out there. Tell me now as there are others that are asking. Are we headed to a serious relationship or not? I'll wait, but don't string me along!!"
That's not pressure. You want to know his intentions. Is he saying, "YOU may be the one that I want to marry." Then again he may say, "You are just Ms. Right Now.."
It's a fair question.
2006-10-23 05:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you had to ask you already know the answer. You have to wait for him to be ready or he'll run fast but don't let him take advantage of that either..don't waste your life waiting for that..make sure he knows how you feel by the way you act and all but don't push him to say or do things he isn't ready to ...and if he keeps stringing you along for a loooooooooooooong time then just be straight forward and tell him you have lasting feelings for him and if he doesn't feel that this going to go somewhere he needs to be honest with you because men have a tendency to play with our hearts and they don't repair as easily as they think..so i say wait for now but don't wait forever ....it is not unusual this day and age for the woman to ask for a commitment..years ago it was improper for a woman to ask for commitment but now it is normal many woman do ..follow you instinct
2006-10-23 05:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are scared away at the mere suggestion of commitment others are not. It all depends on the man (and in many cases, his past experiences). So you will have to judge for yourself if you think he is (or isnt) ready for exclusivity.
2006-10-23 05:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋