My boyfriend's two closest friends are girls. I noticed that every time he sees them, he gives them a present of some sort. It may just be something small and silly....but he still has to give them something every time.
I am a typical jealous, insecure girl and already have a hard time accepting the fact that his two best friends are female. (My ex-husband cheated on me with a female friend). I am trying really hard to be accepting of the two girls, but find it over the top that he feels the need to give them gifts, or pay for them when they go out.
Am I overreacting or is his behavior odd? I confronted him about it and told him it make me uncomfortable and took away from the specialness I felt when he gave me a gift. He did not really understand where I was coming from.
What do you think?
2006-10-23 05:35:36 · 11 answers · asked by Trixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh no! I dont think he should be doing that! Not only that, but when you told him how upset it makes you, the fact that he did not understand makes me think he did not want to understand. Im sorry but thats not very nice. My feelings would be hurt too. Does he give you presents? As an aside, try not to let your jealousy/insecurity get the better of you. I hate to even say this, but what if you got a gift from a cute male friend of yours? Would he like it?
Maggie
2006-10-23 05:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. There should be other signs besides gift-giving though that you should look for when trying to determine whether or not they'd be more than friends. Physical contact? Is he open about his relationship with you around them? Of course no man is 100% trustworthy, but if you want to keep the relationship strong, you should trust him until he does something that raises a serious red flag, otherwise he'll feel like you're smothering him. People like to have their friends too. I broke up with my ex because he was jealous of my best friends (and they were guys).
(By the way. If I were you, I'd definitely be jealous. Presents each time? Is he ridiculously rich? Okay.)
2006-10-23 05:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason for him to have to give them gifts each time he sees them, especially if he is not giving you a better gift everytime he sees you!!!
The whole situation sounds silly and immature to me. What is a man doing hanging out with two women anyway? He understands exactly where you are coming from, he just doesn't appear to care. I know we all want to give our men the benefit of the doubt, but a guy who does not consider your feelings and tries to pull one over on you by telling you he doesn't "get it" is not worth your time. Let him have his two "girlfriends" and find someone more mature and worthy of you.
You were on one bad relationship don't set yourself up for another. You are setting a pattern here of the type of men you see. Find a guy who thinks you are number one and lets you know it.
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2016-12-05 03:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your boyfriend of your concerns. Tell him that it makes you feel insecure that he gives them a gift every time he sees them. If he really cares for you, he should at least listen.
When you've been cheated on, it's hard to trust again. Especially when your guy is gifting other girls!
2006-10-23 05:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by his_scarlett_ohara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset about the whole situation as well. Of course talk more to him about the situation, tell him exactly how you feel with much more information that you are willing to share on yahoo!answers, come on he is you man be comfortable. Tell him you are not totally insecure you know that you whatever these two females have you have and better of so chill out but inform him that its desrespectful and stuff...
good luck and take it easy...
2006-10-23 05:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he likes his female friends a little bit too much. You need to find out more information on what he is doing? You should ask him why does he always give his female friends presents. I think it is a award or something
2006-10-23 05:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Pumpkin Nickel Bread 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are over reacting.. my best friends is a male. i am female.
i am not, or never was sexually attracted to him.
we hang out, go shopping together, go out to eat together. my daughter thinks he is cool.
for a while there people thought we were actually married and dating.... at his company christmas party one year, they set a name card out of me next to him at the table.. and when I never went they asked why they did not bring his gf....
i can see where you might get the wrong ideal from your bf.... but there is nothing wrong with him having friends as females...
my best friend is a male and he is single and we would never be more then friends...
so calm down before your bf leaves you.
2006-10-23 05:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you know i was like that but i changed, because if his friends knows you get jealous because of that, they will keep on doing it, like call your husband, visit him,etc. and guys like to get girls jealous, thats what my ex told me once. if you know he loves you, you shouldn't be insecure. and if he goes out with them i guess you go with him, right??? if not you should star going with him and the friends
2006-10-23 05:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by crazygirl123 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs to stop that too. How old are you guys? He sounds a little immature.
2006-10-23 05:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Joe Somebody 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋