How is it to see a psychologist?

Question

My mom died back in November of 2005. I have been taking care of my dad and he is an alcoholic. He won't pay bills complains when money that is spent on bills is spent. He won't eat when I cook. Even if I bring in food he won't he. All he does is drink. He hasn't been to work in two months. He went into the hospital and tried to fight the doctors and nurses. Now he is in alcohol rehab. I work and my paycheck every two weeks isn't enough to pay the mortgage. I pay all the utilites. I sometimes talk to my cousin and so-called friends, but this past weekend I found out that they are all talking were talking behind my back and I almost lost my friendship with my cousin because of it. I am tried, worn out and I need to talk to someone. I really miss my mom. What is it like to talk to a psychologist before I make the appointment. I hope I don't regret this. Need advice please help!

Answer 1

if the therapist is good it may be a life changing experience :) u feel free, u feel like talking to someone u trust, who will never share your deeper thoughts and feelings with anyone, who will be there just for u, all his or attention draw to u, it feels like loving yourself more beause for one hour u are there for yourself, because this hour is dedicated to U. it feels like having someone to share the burdain, someone who knows how to help u. sometimes it may be boring, sometimes u may get angry, sometimes u may adore him or her and sometimes hate him. but it is all part of the process, just like in any other relationship. only that this one is "true", no need to hide, no need to play, no need to seem nice, because there is no criticism.
try chose a therapist from one of these backgrounds: humanistic, existentialist, gestalt, i believe this style would be better for you :)

it is all right to miss your mum, it is ok to feel like a child at times :) u have already proved u are too strong perhaps that is why u are worn out, because u forgot about this child for a while and it may is screaming for some attention :) sometimes all we need is a warm hug, two arms wraped around and cry till there are no more tears left :) take care

Answer 2

If you have a broken arm or a bad cold, you go to the doctor for help and to feel better, right? Well, sometimes kids and adults have problems that can't be seen as easily as a broken bone or a runny nose.

When people have troubles with their emotions, their feelings, or the way they act, sometimes they see a psychologist (say: suh-kah-loh-jist), psychiatrist (say: suh-kye-uh-trist), or therapist. These are people who have gone to school for special training in the way people think and feel and know how to help people feel better.

The ones that see kids know a lot about kid stuff, like how kids think, how they grow up, and how they see the world. They are all experts who specialize in helping kids solve problems and deal with tough situations. They do their work mainly by talking with kids and helping them figure out what is causing the problems at school or at home. A therapist can help kids figure stuff out so they can feel better.

Why Would a Kid Get This Kind of Help?
There are many reasons to see a therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist, but the biggest reason is so that you can start feeling better. Maybe you're having trouble getting along with your classmates, your brothers or sisters, or your mom or dad. Or maybe you're having problems learning or paying attention in class, or your homework and your grades aren't as good as your mom or dad think they could be.

Other reasons to go see a therapist could be that you're very shy and have trouble making friends or that you feel sad, afraid, or anxious a lot. If your parents get divorced, or if someone who is close to you dies, seeing a therapist is a great way to talk about your feelings.

Sometimes kids can be the victims of abuse, and some kids your age can even have problems eating. These are all types of problems that can often get better if you get care from a psychologist, therapist, or psychiatrist.

What Happens There?
During an appointment, you won't be examined on a table like you are at a typical doctor visit. You'll sit in a comfortable chair and just talk, play games, or sometimes draw pictures. There are no needles or shots. If you're having problems with schoolwork, the therapist may ask you to answer some questions or solve some puzzles. This can provide clues to how you think and learn.

You should always feel comfortable during these visits. That means you don't have to do anything you don't want to do or talk about anything you don't want to talk about. On your first visit, your mom or dad might come in with you. The three of you could talk together about your feelings, the problem or situation, and anything else that is bothering you. After you feel comfortable, your mom or dad can wait for you outside.

The first visit is about understanding the problem that you need help with and is a chance for the psychologist, therapist, or psychiatrist to get to know you a little bit. At future visits, the two of you can work on solving the problems. You may have regular appointments every week, every month, or less often.

You might be asked to set goals for yourself or to keep a notebook describing your feelings between visits. Bringing this notebook to your appointments can help you track your progress.

You can choose to tell people that you are going to these appointments, or you can decide not to share this information. Who you tell, or if you tell, is your decision.

Getting Help Is No Big Deal
Some kids feel that getting this kind of help makes them weak or means they are "crazy." But that is not true. If you need help, seeing a psychologist, psychiatrist, or therapist is the right thing to do. Everyone has problems sometimes, and it's smart to take charge and work them out.

Answer 3

First, make an appointment TODAY to see a therapist/psychologist. You have way too much on your plate. You are NOT responsible for your father. You will not change him. You need to take care of yourself first. This may sound selfish but you will grow up (I don't know your age) mentally troubled if you don't intervene now. Your father needs help also, but he needs to do it when he is ready, you cannot make that decision for him. To continue in this pattern will only enable him to get worse and cause you to go through life always trying to FIX everyone's troubles but your own. Remember, nothing you do will satisfy him, so stop trying. He is an adult and can make his own decisions. You CAN help by telling him your honest feelings and how it is affecting you and that he needs help. Don't worry what other people say, if your family just stands there and allows this to happen to you, then they are part of the problem. The solution is within you. Someone just needs to help you connect with it. See a professional now. You will be very amazed at the strength you have within you to deal with this and have a happy future. You are also dealing with grief issues and have not allowed yourself to deal with that properly. This has to be done before you can go on. TODAY, ok??!!

Answer 4

You need to talk to a good psychologist. It will be a great help they can also direct you as to where you can get aid and help on the bills. Your Father is blowing it completely. He is not being a father. It's his fault not yours. As far as your cousins the fact that they did not come to your aid and do something to help speaks lowly of them. They should be ashamed.
Go see the psychologist and you will be glad you did. You will need to keep going for a while.

Answer 5

Talking to a psychologist can be great relief. Its a third party that won't judge you, or tell you what to do. You would probably feel great after you spoke with them, and they might be able to motivate you and give you some tips on dealing with the stress and the loss.

Answer 6

It can be a very good experience. For one thing, you are getting someone who can look at you and your life and give you a completely impartial opinion about what you need to do to correct destructive patterns you might have fallen into. They are, also, able to see things in you that you, yourself, are blind to. The best thing I ever did was decide to seek help from a psychologist.

Answer 7

my heart is with you sweetheart, you could see your local doctor and talk to him about your self, money wise ... you could see you social services, im sure that they can help you seeing that you are looking after a sick dad, you might even be intitled to a helper in your home... worth a try huh? hope everything works out for you , keep your chin up and smile at the idiots that talk about you... they dont know what you are going through ... good luck babes.

Answer 8

They are pros. They will probably have you fill out forms so the Dr will know about you before they see you. They ask how you feel, can you change the situation, they help you with depression and other ailments. It sounds like you need serious help. Get it soon.

Answer 9

boring at first but it helpful sometimes

Answer 10

sometimes it helps to talk to someone, they wont judge you for your thoughts.