we have been goin out 4 4 months n me n my bff have been friends 4 5 years. last nigt i asked my bf 4 a break cuz he has been really stressed n so have i cuz my bf n bff hate each other n i dont no y but he thinks that my bff wants to break us up i asked er n se said no but my bf always gets mad if me n my bff r 2geter cuz e says i ignore him but i dont my bff says i do that to her n last night she called y i was talkin to him n i aswered n he got mad i did not go to scool today cuz i felt so bad said if we took a break then he would join the military so we r not takin a break. but he asked me to choose between him n my bff i told hiim i could not do that but should i i just feel like i am in te middle n i cant get out i told my bf that they should try to b friends but he said no so wat should i do about everyting.
2006-10-23 05:20:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry on my keyboard my h's n i's r messed up but its hate ok
2006-10-23 05:27:39 · update #1
wen my bff is at my house on weekends should i not talk to my bf or should i?
2006-10-23 05:48:22 · update #2
ate each other?
2006-10-23 05:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by The FFX Blitz ™ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, whos life is this? And for another, if he is your b/f isnt he suppsed to care about you? He sounds extremely selfish and insecure. You never and I mean never ask someone you care about to give up their best friend. Call his bluff, break up with the jerk. I would put money down that he doesnt go into the military and if he does maybe they can whip his *** into shape. GET RID OF HIM!!!!! Any choice he makes is his own, do not let him try to make you feel guilty because he's a jackass.
2006-10-23 05:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Val 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all dont choose. They dont have to like each other. Just talk to both of them together. And tell them that you dont want to be in the middle anymore, That you love both of them and that they will just have to live with it. When you go out with your best friend, dont take your boyfriend, and Viseversa. And you also try to pay attention to both of them, Sometimes without us knowing we tend to ignore one or the other. Dont take a break but sit him down also and let him know that you are not breaking up with him, that you love them both but that his love is a different special love. He might be feeling insecure just reasure him that he and you are not going anywhere. But that she is your friend and he needs to respect that also.
2006-10-23 05:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell both of them that you will not speak to them about the other party. Make it very clear that if they continue to put you in the middle that you will cut ties with them.
I would simply say, "I know you don't like him/her but I'm tired of being in the middle. I refuse to listen to you drone on about how much you hate him/her. It's becoming unpleasant to be around you. I will not give up my friendship with him/her so if you cannot stop talking about him/her, I will stop hanging out with you."
2006-10-23 05:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you learn to clarify your thoughts, and to write in proper English.
What you ask over several lines could probably be said, in an intelligible manner, in two or three.
me n me brain like dont no cause well if u c u dont say things so that i see what u mean n i cant c what u mean so i cant help so then when u ask for help u wont get any n thats too bad
2006-10-23 05:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by AntoineBachmann 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all the letter next to the 'j' is an 'h' you need to find it. second dont you ever miss another day of school especially english composition classes. oh girl.... but third it sounds like your boyfriend is insecure in himself and wants to have you all to his self. word to the wise dont ever choose a man over your friend cause he will only get worse.
2006-10-23 05:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by Laprincessa1182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How a lot do you and your bf's bff and his fiance dangle out mutually? in case you spot one yet another plenty, then definite, she is rude now to not carry close you and contain you in the bachelorette social gathering. notwithstanding, in case you 2 do not see one yet another plenty, then possibly she isn't as rude as you would possibly want to assume - possibly she is in basic terms being shy until eventually she receives to carry close you extra constructive. some anybody is in basic terms no longer gregarious and outgoing. also, you do not say how lengthy you and your bf were mutually. if you're actually not an engaged couple or a minimum of were mutually for countless years (no longer countless months), then this is truly as a lot as you to attend to this woman by technique of being the sweet, solid natured gal you're. for sure you ought to flow to the marriage. do not assume to be doted on notwithstanding - in spite of each and every thing, you're a shopper - and the bride/groom will be very busy being "hosts." in basic terms smile and be sweet and gracious. you ought to, notwithstanding, ask your bf - who's in the marriage - even if you and he will be seated mutually - even if on the top table. it does no longer do so that you'll wait this wedding ceremony and to ought to sit down down on my own. make particular it is spelled out in a number of of time. also, locate out what you ought to positioned on - like a slinky club-dress can make you seem as if a stunner - yet do not attempt to outshine the bride (undesirable flavor). So make particular what you're donning is appropriately impressive - yet doesn't make you seem as if a bridesmaid wannabe or a siren in warmth. only a conservatively exceptionally dress - yet verify first. After the marriage notwithstanding, you ought to talk the finished difficulty consisting of your bf. this is HIS bff/bride in spite of each and every thing - and if she's truly ugly to you, he needs to talk mutually with his bff about it. yet wait until eventually after the marriage - and once you both are in an outstanding mood. it is once you are able to raise a criticism - no longer before. ok so that you'll element out casually that the bride appears type of prickly - no longer a delightful woman in any respect. yet it is about all you are able to say. As for you - you be sweet and delightful and gracious and enable Ms Prickly-bride dangle herself.
2016-12-05 03:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she means "hate" each other. I'm usually pretty good at figuring out what all of the gobbledygook people like her are actually writing, but I wish people like her would make it easy on us since, if they are asking for our advice, then they should want to make sure we understand what they are asking. I really was hoping that she meant "ate" as I had some nice thoughts going through my mind envisioning that.
Okay, what both of your friends (boyfriend and best friend) need to understand is that you are only one person and there are two of them. Naturally when you bring someone else into your life then you have to make room for them. When you got yourself a boyfriend then you had to take some time away from spending just with you best friend to make room for him. But you can't take all the time you used to reserve to be with your best friend and give it to your boyfriend because there wouldn't be any time left for her. Both of them need to understand that you only have a limited amount of time that you can spend with either or both of them, and that demanding that each of them get all of it is selfish and unfair. You aren't neglecting either of them because you are trying to include them both in your life, but they are neglecting you because they are each demanding all of you.
What your boyfriend or best friend decide to do with their lives should you choose to take a break from either of them isn't your doing no matter how much you may feel you are responsible. You've tried to be straight with them, so any choices they may make aren't done in ignorance and end up being their responsibility. Since neither of them seem to be concerned with your welfare overly much, then you need to be.
I think you should tell them both that you need to take a break from being around them (this includes talking on the phone and IMing each other). Tell them that you still like them both but that you can't be around them if they aren't willing to share you and are going to place so much pressure on you. If they are truly your friends then they should be adding something to your life, not taking away from it.
Edit: By the way, zoey_love2, if you are going to criticize somebody's use of grammar, then you should try to make certain there is no fault to be found with your own. Like many people, you need to learn the difference between "your" and "you're".
Edit 2: As to your question about your bff being over on the weekend, if they aren't willing to share you then they shouldn't be in your life right now. You should be able to talk to either of them whenever you wish as long as you aren't ignoring the other completely.
2006-10-23 05:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i had to chose between the chick and the dick...i would chose the chick. you can always find a better guy out there. you shouldnt have to be put through that!
2006-10-23 05:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by blahblahblah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your bf to go and join the military and keep you best friend, this guy is no good because he wants to control you and chose who your friend will be!
2006-10-23 05:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She said hates in her question, read it all people. Pick your best friend over a guy.
2006-10-23 05:29:33 · answer #11 · answered by John H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋