I slpit with her 3 months ago, as she was going through a messy divorce and selling her house. She said she loved me but needed to get all her mess sorted for the sake of her child, so I agreed and have not contacted her for three months. I know we can be together again, as she has since removed the house that she had with her ex husband out of the equation. She had to do this as when he found out about us, and as he is a jealous type was giving her hell. The house is now sold thus the main stranglehold he had on her has too. I want to get in touch with her, I'm going to call her at home, but I dont want to screw it up. Can any of you girls out there help me do it properly. I really care for her and her child, I love her and have'nt thought of anything else since we split up, and I dearly want her back. Help please!!!!!
2006-10-23 05:00:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she loved you she would have been in touch with you as soon as the house was gone. Face facts, she isn't interested so go and find someone else.
2006-10-23 05:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 23:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and ask to see her in a neutral place, like for coffee. Tell you that you have missed her and still care and her and the child. Ask her how she feels. Keep in mind she is under a great deal of pressure and emotional strain with divorce, move, etc. You might have just been a rebound relationship and you should start bracing yourself of that now. If she says she does not want to be back together tell her that the option is open to her, but in the meantime can you stay in touch as friends. That way if she does get throgh her stuff you are still in the picture. If you fall out of touch then that is it, which might be want you want or need. Right now it sounds to be like she needs the support of a friend and if you like her be that friend to her and hope for the best. I think that is what true love is...
2006-10-23 05:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, I think all you can do is gently remind her you're still there.If you're absolutely certain she and her husband are not together, then why not send her a card that says simply "I miss you" or an email? That's letting her know you care, but not being pushy, still giving her whatever space she needs. I'd try that first before calling. Follow up with a call maybe a week or so later. That will let her know you're really not pressuring her. Good luck to you!
2006-10-23 05:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-26 02:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by brenda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call her and ask how her and her child are ,ask if she would like to get together for a day out child included.Don't put any pressure on that will make her run,take it slow,after a day out you will know whether she is ready to start again.
2006-10-23 05:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of us would like to know the answer to this one. But when you've achieved your aim you will regret it. Find a new girlfriend. It seems that going back in life nearly always turns out to be a mistake. Good luck though.
2006-10-23 05:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by David S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's half term so call her to arrange a day out for the three of you. Say you've got tickets for a theme park or something, she won't want to turn down something that her kid will enjoy.
2006-10-23 05:29:02 · answer #8 · answered by amanning60 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mean to sound harsh, but she knows where you are, you obviously made your feelings clear if she wanted to resume your relationship she would have contacted you. You need to move on and find someone new. Good luck with that.
2006-10-23 05:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by L B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a call to ask her out to lunch and tell her your feelings but be sure to ask her how she has been doing dont just rush in about what you wantGood Luck
2006-10-23 05:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by luckiestarrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋