i think m goin crazy..cz of my moms death... i cant take it anymore...i feel lonely n depressed...what i shoul i do?Do i deserve to live? whats gonna happen to me?
2006-10-23 04:56:19 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Seek proffessional help. Look in the yellow pages under mental health.
2006-10-23 04:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grieving for the loss of your mother is a natural process and will be filled with a lot of pain over the course of a very long time. It is up to you to be able to convert your depression and pain into other outlets to get over your loss. A good solution to start with is talking with your family and close friends. My fiancee lost her father several years ago and she still gets down in the dumps from time to time, especially when she has had a few too many drinks. What you need to do is find an outlet that enables you to vent your emotions and relieve some stress. Try working out or signing up for local community sports. Another good one would be to try a new job in collections. You get to yell at people all day to pay their bills and you go home feeling content that you are getting paid to yell at people all day. This process will take a long time to get over her death but you will survive. You will also learn a lot about yourself and how you handle loss. This way, you will be more prepared for a future loss and how to handle it when you restart the grieving process. Bottom line...you'll come out just fine. Make sure that you have a lot of friends and family to support you emotionally. Sorry about your loss.
2006-10-23 05:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I lost my mom, I felt the same way. Surround yourself w/friends, family, children, and talk about it!!!! You may feel that no one wants to hear it, but continue to talk to anyone who will listen. Seek professional help if talking is not helping you feel at least a little better. Don't feel guilty about anything you may not have done, but dwell on the things you did do for your mother. Losing Mom is not easy, I know. I lost my granddad, grandmother (who raised me) and mother within 18 months of each other. This doesn't say that it makes losing only your Mom any easier. If you believe that God exist, talk to Him. Go in your "closet" and talk to Him and read His Word. You'll be amazed at the revelation. Trust me, you will be OK. You do deserve to live. Remember, you are a gift from God. You are here on this earth for a reason and a season. You haven't finished your work here (reason) and He is not ready for you yet (season). Hope all works out for you. Want to talk, email me at desstan@yahoo.com. with subject line being "I Need To Talk", I will listen! Have a wonderful day.
2006-10-23 05:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by desstan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom died three years ago. I was only 24. It was the hardest time of my life. Being with family really helped. Keeping her memory alive is also helpfull. You could also try writing a letter to your mom and tell her everything that has been going on and how you feel. I still write to my mom when things are rough. It helps clear my head. Surround yourself with loved ones and take special care of yourself, because yes, you do deserve to live. After time it will become less painful.
2006-10-23 05:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by Keri B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing. You should keep living. I'm not sure what will happen to you, but what will be will be and you'll need to roll with the punches for awhile.
The most important thing right now is that you grieve so that you may move on eventually. If you don't grieve, you'll carry a chip forever.
If you want to talk, talk. If you want to be alone, be alone. The important thing right now is that you come to terms with what has happened - that you realize even though you've suffered an extraordinary loss, one day it won't hurt as bad...there are still things to live for (marriage, children, et cetera)
You're sad now, but you won't be sad forever - and that's the important thing to remember.
Here's a link I suggest:
http://www.greaterswiss.com/mourning.htm
http://www.coping.org/grief/death.htm
2006-10-23 04:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See a professional right away, or talk to someone.
I lost my Dad, 6 months a go, I know what its like...but it gets better, it really does. Its a slow process...heck I am not even close to be over it, and don't think I will ever but it does get better.
Talk to someone, grief couselling is a good idea.
2006-10-23 05:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by mcgag29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are depressed. It is normal. You need to talk to someone about how you feel. Of course you deserve to live. How would your mom feel if she knew your were thinking like that.
2006-10-23 04:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry to hear that...even though i dont know u...i feel your pain...
i feel you should go for therapy ... it really does help..dont be afraid to try it...it doesnt mean theres something wrong with u..it just means u need to figure some stuff out and they're professionals..they do help..!
YES u deserve to live. im going to pray that everything u want comes to u and u're always happy.
i hope u can find happiness again,
xoxo
2006-10-23 05:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by sacred_90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are depressed in time you will get over it but for now it hurts. make some friends and talk to them about it and move on. you will never forget her as she will live on inside of you. yes you deserve to live as that is what she would want you to do and you will go on to live another day. ask yourself what do you want in life and learn to deal with her passing
2006-10-23 05:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, this is a normal human reaction. It is very traumatic to lose your Mom. I did also.
Please see your family doctor, and also talk about how you feel with your close friends or family.
If you need medication for awhile, use it, it can help.
good luck to you
2006-10-23 05:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋