Am I a friend or more?

Question

I can't figure him out. I feel like if I say 'where do we stand?' that would be pushy.

- He has introduced me to his child and two of his family members (niece & nephew) as a 'friend'.

- He says he talks to his brother about how nice I am.

- He has a small beanie baby ghost that I gave him for his birthday on his desk.

- He called me 'adorable' in front of his buddies.

- He tells me things that he isn't suppose to tell me, deep-thoughtful things.

- Even though he doesn't like to talk on the phone, he will spend over 45 minutes per call with me; and will call me.

- He says to tell any guy I am interested in dating that he will be coming around so they won't be jealous.

Can you guys give me some opinions? Anything else I should watch for?

Answer 1

sounds like he likes you but isn't in the state of mind for a relationship right now. Or maybe he thinks that you are just not interested in him. He obviously takes you seriously as a friend with the possibilities for more by opening himself up to you in ways he can't talk to the guys about. I'd be very guarded about his because you could get hurt. Try talking to him about his love life and see where that goes. Next time he says that about other guys just hint that you might not want other guys to come around. Feel him out and be sure before you bring up the question because he seems very unsure of what he wants or needs right now.

Answer 2

If you think you are confussed, wow! I am totally confused after hearing everything listed here, I do not want to tell you that you are his "girlfriend" at this point but, on the other hand you are someone who is important enough to be introduced to people in his life, so I will say at this point you are his special little friend.
I will be honest with you, at this point you really need to sit down and disciss your relationship, freindship or what ever he want to call it at his moment. See the thing with guys is like this: If a guy can take up your time and have you as a special friend, you know what I am talking about, if he can get the milk with out buying the cow sort-ta-say they will, that is just their nature, If he can spend time with you when he wants and if he can chase away other guys that may be interested in you, and sit on the phone and things like that, then he need to make sure that you & he has an understanding to rather you are a couple or not, if he can get all of this out of you and still not say "This is my girlfreind" then he will, So it's up to you to let him know "Hey, I really like you, you really like me, so where does this leave us?" No it is not being "pushy" asking this guy, what is really going on between the two of you, just let me say this and then I am done, If this guy tells you that you and he are not a couple then you let him know that you want more, so if he is not going to step up to the plate then you must start seeing someone who will, watch how fast he comes around when you put your foot down.
Good Luck.......I hope this has helped more then hurt....................

Answer 3

Honestly it does seem like he's interested but if thats the case something seems to be holding him back. Maybe you should ask him "where do you stand". That way you'll know for sure. People can give off so many signs that in the end can be very contradicting. Its hard to actually draw a conclusion so I say have it out with him.

Answer 4

Well, the one thing you left out is: do you want to be more than friends? It sounds like you have a very close friendship, and he may be interested in taking it further, or maybe he just thinks of you as a close friend and confidant, and is protective of you in a big brother kinda way.

I don't know if I'd put it as "Where do we stand". Try something less confrontational like "I really like you, and I think our friendship is going great, what do you think about us being more than friends or dating?" Or you could just simply try to kiss him the next time the opportunity presents itself.
Good Luck

Answer 5

I would definitely say you're more than a friend to him. Guys are really hard to figure out sometimes. Whatever you do don't smother him, just let things flow. I don't think asking "where do we stand?" would be pushy. You're just curious. Him telling you to tell other guys that he's around is a clue that he's into you more than a friend. Good luck!!

Answer 6

Sorry, but you're just a friend. He says that you are "nice" and "adorable" not beautiful and the woman he wants to be with. Has he asked you out on a date? Has he kissed you? Notice how he says to tell any guy you'll date that he'll be around--if he was interested in you, he'd ask you not to date anyone but him.

Answer 7

It sounds as though he likes you and would like to be more than friends, if that's how you feel about him why don't you ask him out. Of course you have to ask yourself if you think going out with him will ruin your friendship, and if you think it might it could be best to stay friends. But you know the old saying, best friends make the best lovers.

Answer 8

well it doesnt seem like you are together but does seem like he likes you. do you like him?? if so then maybe you need to have a talk with him. its not being pushy if you like him go for it. no harm in talking. i no people say dont date your best friend. well for me that was the best hting i did. i dated my best friend weve been going out for almost 2 years now and are engaged and so much in love with each other. i say just talk to him. just be honest with him. see how things go. the worst that will come out of it is him saying he doesnt like you like that..

Answer 9

its hard to say... he might just be like BEST friend or a crush and isnt afraid to admit it..... just ask him where you two stand. i know it sounds pushy but it should work... he'll give u the answer or tell u if he likes u as anymore than a friend

Answer 10

You are just a friend. he likes you don't get me wrong but just as a buddy. Later something might happen with you but right now you are just a friend. have you expressed that you like him more than just friends??