Met this guy. 3 dates in, had a great time. 3rd date went back to my place. Since then it's been pretty hot & cold. Got different stories about what he was doing this weekend - asked me out for Sat and then the next day told me he was busy. I haven't been clingy - if anything, it's the other way around, b/c even after we slept together he called me every day (except for this weekend when he was so "busy." Guys, why do you do this?? What is up with this??
2006-10-23 04:39:37 · 19 answers · asked by M K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And no, I wasn't irritated b/c he didn't call....I am suspicious b/c of the different stories. if you're going to lie at least lie consistently....right?
2006-10-23 04:48:39 · update #1
I hate to say this, but it sounds like he used you, it's the guys like him that make it difficult for guys like me to find a nice girl, I'm sure you'll find someone thats right for you, he probably doesn't deserve you anyways.
2006-10-23 04:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by John H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me. I didn't like this guy very much, so I slept with him sooner than I normally would sleep with a guy. Then after that, he started calling me everyday, and pursuing me very persistently. So I thought I should give him more of a chance, and started to develop more interest in him. A couple weeks later though, he just cooled off. For some guys I don't think it is always JUST sex they are after. They want to know - for their ego's sake - that they can get you under their spell. Then when they sense that you sincerely like them, they aren't as interested. Lose him - if he doesn't want to make things fun for you, he's out. He'll come back eventually if you toss him to the curb - they always do. But by then you won't be interested.
2006-10-23 04:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've only been on 3 dates and you guys haven't talked about not seeing other people then he's probably seeing other people. Maybe he likes you but doesn't want a serious relationship with you. He could just be playing the field, not necessarily playing you. You've been played if he never speaks to you again.
2006-10-23 04:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by Beach bum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, take his word for it. Remember friends are more important and give him the benefit of the doubt. I say give him a week if things dont go back to normal then question him about it. Guys will be guys and they need to hang out with their friends as much as we need our girls to gossip with. Give him a couple of days. You have no reason to believe that he is lying about going out, no reason to believe that he wasnt busy all weekend between family and friends. I hope this is the case good luck to you hun.
2006-10-23 04:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ashlee K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is too soon to imply anything at this point you should sit back and go with the flow and see what happens, relax and ride it out, don't stop living, and you don't have to wait around or put life on hold. If he comes around he does, if he doesn't he don't, you haven't lost anything and you aren't wasting time, be happy for the time you had and move on with graditude when it is over. Go with the flow!!!!! Wait for the out come to reveal itself, don't analize, you'll drive yourself crazy!
2006-10-23 04:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a bit early in the relationship for you to be worried about that.
I mean whatever happens is gonna happen. It is not like you guys are engaged. Let him have his moments and he will figure out if he is into you.
You can't take the sex to mean that he is into you. As you should know by now sex is not emotional for men.
2006-10-23 04:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first step is to returned off. perchance shell see that your no longer attempting to smother her and shell come to you. i don't get the finished complicated to get stuff. it messes with the pinnacle and heart. in case you comprehend any of her buddies given which you flow to the comparable college, see if any of them have any interior documents. different than that given which you notice her standard in simple terms act no longer so fascinated. nevertheless communicate along with her and say hi once you pass and all that yet don't be giving "the attention" or "the look". in simple terms play it cool and see what happens while she knows you're no longer likely to play her sport! desire it quite works. sturdy good fortune!
2016-10-16 07:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should not have take him to your place, why can't you go to his. check him out. You make it too easy for him, you have to make him respect you, if not he should be out the door! You never even got to be friends with him, you do not know him. he may just be a player, next time fool him, say I can't take you back to my place, see what he say"s?
2006-10-23 04:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be a sleaze. Just wait to make sure though. he might be just busy on weekends and every other day is for you.
2006-10-23 04:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by steve w 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it sounds like he's playing the field. Don't pin your hopes on this guy.
2006-10-23 04:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋