Ok how do I stop this guy from harassing me its been 6 months since I stoped talking to him and about 9 months since I saw him we dated for just a short time about 2 months.
He will not leave me alone for the first couple of months he harassed me non stop writing me emails,texts, calls, and trying to show up at my work and house. He finally stoped and now all of the sudden he's doing it again. He sends me emails at work and textes me. I want him to stop. I want to know how to? I dont want to go to court cause then we would be in the same room together but I want him to know Im serious and he needs to stop. Can a police officer go to his house and tell him to stop with out a court order? How do I block his emails at work?
I know this is alot but Im scared that he will try to hurt me!
2006-10-23 04:36:37 · 29 answers · asked by Blondie<3 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
If i get a retraining order do I have to go to court?
2006-10-23 05:01:41 · update #1
There's a lot of good advice so far, but first and foremost you absolutely have to tell him to stop contacting you. You need to be clear, to the point, and document it. Do it with a witness and/or send a letter registered mail and keep a copy. If you do not he can always defend himself by saying he wasn't sure or you were not clear about what you wanted.
2006-10-23 05:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Judge Dredd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to let others know what has been going on in your life just in case something terrible happens the police would know who to look for. Tell a close friend or family member because situations like this has to be taken seriously you don't know what that psycho might do. Second you HAVE to go and report him to the proper authorities, go to the police station and show them proof that this man has been harassing you and they will tell you what you should be doing. I'm not sure but I think there is a way where he can be served without you being in the same room as him. If you don't report him and he does something to you there will be no proof and he will get off free. If you decide to get a restraining order the judge will order him to cease all communication with you ands if he sends one text or e-mail CALL THE POLICE. NO EXCEPTIONS. This is not the time to be afraid because that psycho feeds on your fear. Stay with a friend a couple of nights when he is served his subpoena, stay with family, get a dog, get extra security, pray and be confident that you will be OK and you will.
2006-10-23 04:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by jamocha_1700 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make copies of all the emails, including the ones you send or sent telling him to stop. Keep a journal of every time he calls you or comes by work with date/time. Take this to the police and they can get a protection order against him for you. That's if you live in Louisiana. You local laws may differ but follow everything above and the police will tell what they can and can't do and what you can do. Suck it up and going to court might have to happen.
2006-10-23 12:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by Liam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a cell phone that he is calling you on, contact the telephone company and get a print out of the incoming calls on your line as well as the text messages for proof that his is going on, I believe all states have a stalking law if not most do,do go to the police they can advise you on what avenue you should pursue but this is serious,he is harrassing you and stalking you and you should be scared these people are a danger.go to the yahoo messenger or whatever you use and there is a place to block who can see if you are on line and block them from sending you email,if you have any emails from him print off and save them with your telephone information. Let all your friends and family as well as the security guard at your work place know what is going on ,give them his telephone number,his address,his email address and try not to be in a position where you are walking alone. YOu will probably have to take him to court but you have to so there is a record on him stalking is serious and sometimes deadly. notify the postal dept at your local post office it is an offense to harrass someone with the federal mail
2006-10-23 04:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by g m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save the emails and texts as evidence and then take him to court to get a restraining order. I know you don't want to be in the same room with him, but bring a family member or friend with you for support, and most likely he won't bother you too much in front of a judge and police officers. See if you can get your work email address changed. It shouldn't be a problem if you explain the situation.
2006-10-23 04:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Niecy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is make it patently clear that you have no interest in him. Email him one time and so, in clear terms, that you have no interest in him are not attracted to him, feel he is harrasing you and want it to stop. Do not make threats or talk about police since that will just further this because all he wants is your attention.
After you send this e-mail never respond again..NEVER. If you ever call or email again it will just start the cycle over. Collect all his email and phone calls and go to the Police and register a compaint. Even if nothing comes from it you have started the paper trail that could be used to justify a restraining order or harrasment charge, if need be.
The bottom line is all he wants is your attention, in whatever form, so the most important thing is that you make it perfectly clear you want nothing to do from him and never deal with him again. Block his emails and call the phone company to see if you can block his number so he never gets your answering machine.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 04:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he works for the same company, then contact your Human Resources department and they will assist you in preventing him from harassing you at work, including termination of his employment. Harassment is against state and federal laws. You need to contact an attorney to see what legal options you have to get a restraining order to stop him. If you have kept the emails he has sent you, print them and show them to the lawyer. If not, start keeping them and anything else he sends to you for evidence. You can contact the police, but other than talking to him, I deally doubt that if they can do much without a court order. You can report him anytime he starts harassing you to the police and then you have more proof if you need to file for a restraining order, which put him in jail if he violates it.
Good Luck
2006-10-23 04:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by handyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your IT department block him or switch your email address; change your phone number(s), call the police -- make a report (document everything), and get a restraining order. He will not be there for that part. Someone will serve it on him and then notify the police every time he violates that order. I've been thru this before and this is how to end it.
2006-10-23 04:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Document all calls, visits, emails, ect.
2. File charges against him, its just as easy as telling an officer your story while he types it.
3. Ask for an order of protection, chances are you dont both have to be in court at the same time.
4. Follow through with the order if he violates it. Violate him the first chance you get and every chance there after.
5. Consider personal protection, pepper spray, cell phone, quick opening pocket knife .
6 Out him, make sure everyone around him and you knows hes stalking you. Friends, co-workers, restaurant employees, anyone who is around you the same time he is. Just say "please keep an eye out for that man over there, he is following and stalking me."
2006-10-23 05:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by Rob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everytime he tests you anc calls you call the police and report him. they keep that stuff on record and if it gets worse you will have to get a restraining order from him. If you can change you email at work do it. or you can copy and paste an email error everytime he sends you an email just reply back with the error to make him think you have changed you email. Change your phone number too. I know it sucks but it is what needs to be done too.
2006-10-23 04:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋