when your kid gets on your nerves and you feel like you just wanna pack thier bags and kick them out?

Question

does your kid make you repeat yourself 8 times before you have to get up and do what youve been telling them to do over and over again how do you fix this problem my kid is 3 years old and i cant control him he does what he wants theres certain times where we will be going out and i dont want him to tear all his toys out and he does it anyway the other day he punch me in the mouth because i wouldnt let him have a taffy he doesnt listen to anything ive tried time outs ive taken his toys away i didnt let him out to play and ive beat him but he does nothing but laugh he doesnt care i still repeat myself over and over again help i dont know what to do how do you discipline your kid

Answer 1

This could be your pennance for what you were like as a child

Answer 2

Your child is at a point in his life where he knows what will happen if he doesn't do what you say. He can listen and reason. He has control over you because you let him. The best thing is to stick to a discipline routine. If you decide to take his toys away when he is bad, do so but be sure you do it every time. Do not give any toys back until he has redeamed himself. When he does something good give him the option to pick a toy to have back. Another thing you can do is talk to him like an adult. Adults have consequences for their actions and he should too. Explain to him that you would like to take him someplace nice to eat but you can't go if the room isn't cleaned up. An allowance is another good way, kids REALLY respond to money. They say money can't buy happiness but you would be surprised what it does to little kids. If you do the money trick besure that when he is bad and you have to pick up his toys he will have to pay you for doing it. Let us know how it goes!

Answer 3

Belive me, there is such a thing as terrible threes, I think they are worse than terrible two's. What has always worked for me is asking my kids to help me rather than make them do it them selfs, three is a little young still. As hard as it may be, try to stay calm, the worst thing you can do is get angry because that may be where he is learning it from. The old trick counting to 10 works wonders, though sometimes you might have to go as high as 20-30. LOL. Patients is one thing you HAVE to have as a parent. As far as the hitting, he is learning that from some where, You NEED to stop that right away. When ever my kids went through the hitting stage, what ever they did to me I did back to show them how it felt. I also explained to them hitting a girl was NEVER exceptable. How ever this may be a job for his father. Most boys listen better to males. If his dad isn't around, try your dad, or cousin, brother, uncle, someone. If you don't put your foot down now, it will only get worse. As far as his attitude, one of the most often mistakes I've seen parents make with an "out of control" child is they want to punnish them, more often than not, if you are not giving your son attention for the positive things he is doing, he will act out to get attention in a negative way. Any attention, EVEN negative, is better than none. Try to let go of the bad things he does, and focus on the good. This may give him the insentive he needs to be better. Try (I know it's hard) not to yell. If you ask him to do something ONLY ASK ONCE!!!!! Then get up and make him. He knows you won't that is why he does't listen!!! Good Luck Mom!!!!

Answer 4

First, do not beat your child. You will not really get anywhere with this negative reinforcement if it is used all of the time.

Second, you have to remember that he is 3, at this age he still doesn't fully understand everything that is going on, he is at an age where he is really testing his limits.

Try positive reinforcement. Praise the good that he does. Give him positive options to what he is doing wrong. Tell him what you expect, show him how to achieve it, and when he does it praise him with everything you have and let him know that you really like when he behaves. When he does wrong, sit him down and just tell him that you are not happy about it, don't yell or beat him it will not help. He is at a very important age in learning, and you don't want it to be negative.

Answer 5

Welcome to the life of parenting. My kid is five and she makes me feel this way sometimes, but you just need to sit back, take a few deep breaths, look at your son and tell yourself he is ONLY THREE YEARS OLD and he needs you to show him the correct way to behave. Kids this young don't understand right from wrong. He's three. You need to stop beating him because that's why he punched you in the mouth. You've shown him it's okay to hit. It's NOT okay to hit. You need to find a better way to punish him, and praise him non-stop when you see him doing good things, such as picking up his toys without being asked, or being nice to you, or to other people. You should try watching Super Nanny on NBC on Monday nights....that woman is a genius when it comes to discipline techniques.

Answer 6

Well it sounds like you are spending a lot of time being negative and saying no over nad over, maybe you should try to praise him whenever he does something good even if its just little like he eats his meal or puts away a toy, gradually you can build up as he responds to the positive praise, if the attention you give him is all negative than he will continue to do naughty things just to get your attention, any attention is better than none to a kid. Just try to ignore him or distract him when he is being naugghty so he sees he wont get attention that way

Answer 7

watch super nanny, it's full of great constructive ideas towards disciplining difficult children. Remember, the child is only 3, as difficult as it is to accept, the only way he knows how to behave is through seeing how others act. Any bad influences? If you beat him, then he'll learn how to be violent, so try not to do that. Have you tried a reward scheme for good behaviour? Give him star stickers when he is good, remove them when he is bad. When many stars, give him rewards. Try to do something nice together once a week - go out to zoo, park, etc. Feed him wholesome food, try to cut out high sugary things, to help him concentrate. Do not give him special attention for bad behaviour. Very difficult situation though, i don't envy you. All the best

Answer 8

Okay, I am 14 years old. And your question reminded me of myseld when I was a little kid. I never used to listen and I would always cry until I got what I wanted. My parents had a lot of trouble with me. I was always in trouble in school, and I just was a troublesome kid. Well now I listen and never get in trouble. It is because my parents started to punish me. Like when I got in trouble at scholl I got put in my "special corner" and had to stand their, until they thought it was neccisary to get out. Or when I didn't listen they would count to 10, and if I hadn't done what they had asked, they would give me a spanking, and depending on the severioty of it, I might of been put in the corner. After many times of me testing them out. I eventually gave up, and did what they asked. No matter how bad I didn't want to. I didn't like it then. But I respect my parents now, and understand thier decisions. I suggest you use their method. It really worked on me, and I was a realy bad kid. Lol. I hope this works for you just as well.

Answer 9

Please don't take any of this as critisizm. I really am trying to help. Believe me, I did all of the "wrong" things too, but I have become much older & wiser, & I get to try these techniques on my Grandaughter now, & they work.
1st thing, kids need consistant parenting. You can't say you'll punish them, & then not follow through, & you can't come down hard on him one day, & go soft the next. Dr Phil says that what kids need is to be able to predict the consequenses of their actions with 100% predictability. So he needs to know that if you tell him to do something, that if he waits for you to say it again, that he's going to have a consequence that he doesn't like, & he's going to know exactly what it is.
The problem that you are experiencing is probably caused by you giving in. You let him wear you out, & he knows your breaking point. So once you have chosen to take a stand, & punish him for bad behaviour, you will be in for a battle the 1st few times. But again I quote Dr Phil, he says that once you enter into a battle with your kid, you must NEVER lose. Because when you let him win, you have taught him where your breaking point is, & he knows that all he has to do is keep it up until he wins.
So now you must be determined to find HIS breaking point & never give up until he reaches it.
For time outs it's the same thing. There are techniques. 1st of all, don't send him to his room, it's just a playland, & he won't feel punished there. Find a place where there is little stimulation for him, where all he gets to look at is a blank wall, & can't be involved with the activity of others in the home. For example, if you put him in a chair in the corner, get down to his level, make eye contact, & in a calm voice (kids tune out loud & angry voices) tell him why he's going in the "Naughty Chair" & then leave him there for as many minutes as he is old in years, (so in your case 3 minutes) If he gets off before you come to get him, explain to him once that it is wrong & he will have to start his time over each time he gets off the chair. If he gets off again, just take him by the hand without another word, & keep putting him back until he stays there on his own. If he does the dead flop on you just move him to a position as close to the chair as possible & walk away, & leave him alone as long as he stays put, ignore ANYTHING he says. Eventually, (relatively quick in fact) he will learn that he can shorten his time outs by co-operating & listening to you. After his time out is finished, get down to his eye level again & review with him why he had a time out, & then ask for an appology. If he gives you one, then reward him with a loving hug.
If you stay the course & be rigidly consitant, you will soon be seeing good behaviour. The 1st time he gives you some good behaviour, even if it's just a matter of sitting & playing nicely, reward him with all of the praise that you can muster up. Let him know that good behaviour is truly appreciated.
Another favourite Dr Phil saying is "It takes about 100 "atta-boys", to undo the damage of one, "you're not good enough""

I know it sounds like all I do is watch Dr Phil & Super Nanny, but I really wish I had the valuable information that they provide when we were raising our son.
We can't control our kids remotely. Your son is demanding your attention the only way he knows how. You can tell him to do something 8 times, but if it's from you at the kitchen counter, while he's in another room, he's going to force you to get in there with him, & give him the attention he needs. So make a point to give him some extra "mom time", by getting down in his space, & playing a game or two with him, it will pay off because then he won't be demanding your attention quite as much in the negative ways he's using now.

Hope that helps a bit. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Maybe you should try asking him to help mommy instead of demanding he do it. Children learn by example.