I met him in August. We had only gone on 2 dates, but talked on the phone daily. I invited him over to my house about a month ago(for the first time). While he was there, we discussed going on date #3 the next day. Also, while we were there we heard a noise, like someone tapping at my living room window. The rest of the evening went well, and before he left, he said it would call the next day and discuss the time that we would get together. I never heard from him again until last night.
He called wanting to apologize for not contacting me in a month and he said the reason that he didn't call was because of the noise at the window. He said he thought it was my son's father stalking me or something. I had previously told him that we hadn't been together in a year and a half. I feel his excuse was lame but because we haven't been intimate and haven't completely gotten aquainted, I feel I should give him another chance. What do you think?
2006-10-23 04:16:18 · 20 answers · asked by 2Blessed2BStressed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetheart, if you feel you should give him another chance...then give him one...you never know he maybe telling the truth...and he did call you...I mean, what could it hurt really?...Like you said, you haven't been intimate yet (so keep it that way for a while)...give him a chance to plea his case face to face...maybe then you can get a better reading and will be able to tell if you would want date four...
Just for the record...he should have called and told you before how he felt (and call him on that)...but maybe he was scared, who knows...I know someone said that he should have stuck it out...but maybe he thought that your ex would hurt you or something...these days you can't be to careful
Trust your instincts honey...you will know what to do...good luck :)
2006-10-23 04:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Luv_bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you thinking of only now or is the long run in your plans as well? If the latter is true, then this guy is not the one for you. A noise at the window is not a reason for no contact in over a month. Look for someone who will be there for you even if things get rough. Those are the ones who are worthwhile. If a little noise scares him off, what are you to expect if things get to the point where you need someone to back you up?
2006-10-23 04:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost the same thing happened when I was dating my husband. Except for there was no tapping on the windows. :) But, we had been out a few times, and then he didn't call me for awhile, and I just wrote it off as though he didn't like me. It turns out that he was scared to go out with me again, because he really liked me and didn't want to get tied down too quickly. So we took a break during my first semester at college, and got together at Christmastime. We've been together for almost 4 years now, married for 2 of them. I'd give him a second chance, because you never really know, he could definitely be The One. :) Good luck!
2006-10-23 04:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. A month goes by and he just decides to give you a call..What did he just get the bright idea to pick up the phone and call? He had his chance to be with you and he blew it.. Don't chase after him if he wants to be with you let him prove it to you.. until then find another guy that's not giving you some lame excuse why he hasn't called in a month..
2006-10-23 04:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by xcura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is lame, but so many strange things happen when exes stalk the current flame that maybe he has a point. I don't think you will find him to be too brave though. At least next time make him take you out to dinner, at least then you will be able to say you got something out of the relationship.
2006-10-23 04:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a WIMP he was scared to call becuase he heard a noise at the window. What would he have done had it really been someone. Cut your loses now before it's to late. Get a real MAN.
2006-10-23 04:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree Scoundrel. you're able to be able to offer a minute or 2 for a poorly wound watch, yet 7 minutes in no longer appropriate. And your good judgment is stable on aim. by way of the 4th date this is going to ba an hour you would be waiting finding like the twerp. stable call my pal. I easily tend to be very stingy while it includes 2d possibilities. If it develop into significant to her she could have been there 10 minutes early, no longer 7 minutes previous due. i does no longer supply this female yet another hazard to depart you status there. depart her the place she is.... dumped.
2016-12-08 19:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should get to know him more. Don't go out with somebody that you think you don't know him well enough. Give him some time. Maybe go on another date with and and then see how it goes. Most guys just want to get in your pants but you never know. This guy can be a good catch:)
2006-10-23 04:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should give another chance. that noise cud have been your ex-husband you never know. just be sure that you get a flood light put on the side of your house just incase its a pervert or something. and good luck with your relationship hope every thing goes well
2006-10-23 04:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooooooo
2006-10-23 04:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋