how can one enjoy sex if they can't stand their hubby?

Question

with out have a bit on the side

Answer 1

I went thru this myself, thought if he touched me I would scream. If he wont go to a counselor you go alone either way go talk to someone. Like me it sounds like you are restless and justifying the affairs by convincing yourself it is him. I was very depressed and didnt realize that was the problem to start with.If you have tried to see what the problem is and you just hate the guy do him a favor and let him find someone else. A bit on the side as you said was my way of making myself feel good and assuring me I could get someone else if I wanted to, which was just prolonging the problem.

Answer 2

Truthfully and realistic you can't. Sex is more than a physical thing. Its an emotional connection with somebody. If your mind is repelled then your body will follow suit. I advise you to think long and hard as to why you feel that way. Talk to a coounsellor about the problem, also talk to your partner ion a calm,dignified and truthful manner. Try methods to add spice to your realationship. If these don't wotk then all you can do for your own sanity is move on; but not until you've exhausted all avenues! Good luck let me know what happens.
PS: YOU DON'T NEED ANYTHING ON THE SIDE UNLESS YOU ARE LEGALLY FREE OF YOUR HUBBY. REMEMBER THOSE VOWS!

Answer 3

Maybe one should work on being able to get along with their husband.
If there are problems in the marriage, so bad that they're disrupting the sex, then it's quite possible the marriage needs help. I would suggest counseling so that the two can communicate better and then the sex will be better as well.

Answer 4

Have you considered marriage counseling? Could you get your husband to agree to that? I know it stinks if you feel that he's not meeting your emotional needs. If he won't agree to counseling maybe you should start thinking about getting out of the relationship. That may be hard to do but the best thing in the long run for your own personal happiness.

Also, most of us women can't enjoy sex if they can't stand their husbands. I know, believe me, I know!

Answer 5

Don't have a bit on the side; share your bit with him and tell him you love him. To get a bit on the side are you wearing, if any, sexy clothes--well do the same for hubby.

Answer 6

If the situation is that bad there's no chance of enjoying being intimate with him. The solution would be to get away from such an awful situation as soon as possible and find someone that it's good to be with.

Answer 7

I wish I had an answer. Maybe close your eyes and think of someone you do like. I would joke and say; I can send you a picture of me. But, really, I feel for you, as I do know a few women in this same situation. Wish I knew what to tell you.

Answer 8

Well, here is the thing. That happens because you have a week libido or whatever that is, sometimes thinking of another woman that you fantasise about will help but if it does not, best try the medication, stuff like Viagra and Male boost.

Answer 9

I can't understand why anyone would stay in a relationship with someone they can't stand to begin with. What difference does it make if you screw around at this point. Does he know you can't stand him? Maybe you should fantisize about someone else when you're having sex?

Answer 10

You shouldn't have married him in the first place!(my god,why don't you people THINK of that at the time-surely something must have attracted you to him in the beginning?)And having a bit on the side is only going to add to your problems.