Boyfriend and i have been together for five months and things have been going great. He had quite a reputation really but all has been well. Recently he got in touch with his ex about her helping him get a job at the place thy both used to work and he said he loves her but as a friend yet i have seen e-mails in which he puts i love you and calls her sexy. Should i get rid?He said nothing is going on he tells me when he has spoke to her but just feel something not quite right. Do you think he will get back with her. She lives away too so thought he might just stay with me cos of that but he said it snot and that he loves me and is in love with me. Not sure what to do.
2006-10-23 03:46:49 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have spoken to him about it and he said he loves me and they are just good friends but just feels bit wierd aybe i am just jealous.
2006-10-23 03:55:12 · update #1
you're being stupid!
2006-10-23 03:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always follow your instincts regardless if it may not be what you want to feel or do. Trust me from experience you would save yourself alot of headaches if you do. Especially if you have seen email with certain comments, never take them likely. Especially since you guys have not been together yet for too long. However if you truly love him then confront him bout how you feel and how this situation is making you feel uneasy. Hear him out see what his response is. If you haven't told him bout you reading the emails don't. Because that would give him reason to change his password or avoid writing certain things. Personally always follow you inner voice. Even though it is easier said than done. Good luck!
2006-10-23 03:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by h0n3y_l1ps_27 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HE contacted his ex gf to help him get a job in a place that neither one of them works at anymore. And HOW can she help get him a job? Is she the hiring manager? HE worked there as well - why does he need her help? He's telling her that he loves her. He's calling her sexy. Do you need someone to hit you over the head with a hammer? He is looking for someone else - either his ex or someone closer. DUMP HIM. He's a liar and a potential cheat - if he hasn't done so already. Trust your instincts and move on from this loser.
2006-10-23 03:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's my rule of thumb- If you feel like you make excuses for his behavior, if you feel in your gut that something's wrong, if you're unhappy in any way, just end it. It's not worth the worry, the stress and the effects it's having on you.
I think that you're paranoid that he's not going to change his bad habits and guess what? You're probably right. Men will grow up and mature but if he's younger than about 30 years old, he's no where near making the kind of changes you probably want. I say move on and find a more healthy and stable relationship with a guy who doesn't have a rep.
2006-10-23 03:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on before more feelings get involved. Use your woman instinct. If he is telling her he loves her and calling her sexy then there should be nothing else said move on. You will save your self from a brokenheart. If he loves you then he wouldn't do things like that. He is a man he don't need help getting a job. THAT IS AN EXCUSE.
2006-10-23 03:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust your instincts
I have to be honest with you here, i was with my ex for 5 months also and we seemed happy, but i had a feeling things were not right but i just pushed them to the back of my mind.
We went on holiday to Dubai and whilst we was on holiday we had a talk i told him how i feel about him and his ex and he assured me that he loved me and would never hurt or lie to me.
The day after we returned he dumped me using excess like we are not compatible and i want more than what he can give me at the moment.
The next day i received a nasty email telling me never to contact him or his friends again!
The week after that i had found out that his ex girlfriend had moved her stuff back into his place while we was in Dubai!
I just wish that i had listened to my instincts as they turned out to be right
just be care full and also i would try talking to him about the way that you feel.
good luck and i hope you have better luck than what i did.
2006-10-23 03:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know the answer to this one yourself - deep down in your gut! It is not right for someone to be calling their ex 'sexy' when they're in a new relationship. People do stay friends with their ex sometimes but I think he is over stepping the mark and wants more than just friendship with her. Sorry I know this isn't the answer that you want!
2006-10-23 03:57:12 · answer #7 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I always trust my gut feeling. If you feel that he is cheating on you with her, that might be true. I'd say give yourself some space apart from each other. Maybe don't call him every day. If it's meant to be, you'll both realize it. But if not, things probably wouldn't have worked out anyway. Wish you the best of luck!
2006-10-23 03:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to give him the benefit of the doubt.
Tell him it upsets you if he calls his ex sexy and if he still does it you have a reason to get angry. But a lot of people put love on emails and texts to friends and it doesn't mean anything
2006-10-23 03:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should trust your instincts, they are usually right, especially in women!! lol!!
it seems to me that the relationship is going to end soon anyway, and tah may be a good thing, apart from thepossibility of him playing away, there seems to be some quite big trust issues on your end, even if they are subconscious.
and relationships musthave trust or they dont work.
i say you should get rid of him, before things get quite messy.
good luck
2006-10-23 03:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by hayhed_2k6 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump him. He's still in love with her and uses the job thing as an excuse to talk to her. He shouldnt be telling other girls they are sexy/ loves them..tht's inappropriate and disreespectful to you. Dump him before he dumps you. No worht the hassle. Go with your instincts..you already know the answer to your question. Your heart knows wha'ts right. Good luck!!
2006-10-23 03:56:08 · answer #11 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋