we have a 10 month old and I feel ready to have another I don't want my son to be an only child. but my husband says no he does not want anymore what can I doI love him dearly but he knew I wanted two children when we got married. He can't give me any good reasons infact he hasn't given me any reasons for not wanting anymore kids
2006-10-23 03:44:01 · 16 answers · asked by Carolyn R 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would NEVER force my husband to do anything he didn't want to do did you not read the part about I love him dearly.
2006-10-23 04:03:25 · update #1
I believe I will stick with my husband Eddovey lol
2006-10-23 04:04:43 · update #2
Kenhallon I obey no-one but myself my husband and I are a team and make decisions together but it doesn't change how I feel I also think you can share love between children I'm sure there are a lot of others that agree with this also
2006-10-23 04:07:26 · update #3
in answer to all the sleep deprivation comments I have to say i'm quite lucky that my son started sleeping through when he was two weeks old we have the odd night where he will wake but that has been through teething pains he sleeps on average 12 hours every night bed at 8 up at 8
2006-10-23 22:18:11 · update #4
Did he want more than one child when you 1st got together.
It comes down to this, You obviously love your husband very much, what do you want more, your husband or another child, If I were you I would personally choose him (which im sure you will) because the chances are in a few years he will change his mind, I have 4 kids and after each one my hubbie says RIGHT THATS IT, but as soon as the youngests get to 2 he always wants another.
My youngest is 2 on friday and hubbie had already ssuggested we start trying.
GOODLUCK xx
2006-10-23 05:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your wanting to have another baby. Kids are great. I had my first 2 right after one another and in a way they felt like twins. I waited 2 and a half years between the second and third and that was a good time for me. Your husband might feel overwhelmed. I am sure with a 10 month old you aren't getting a lot of sleep and when you are sleep deprived you think that things will never get any better and the idea of adding another baby into the mix is not something he can deal with right now. Wait and things might change.
2006-10-23 04:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by samlevine05667 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something ideally you would have discussed before but I admire your respect for your husband and the fact your not going to 'trap' him and just go ahead and have another baby without his full knowledge.
Your son is only 10 months, another baby at this stage would be a lot of work. Wait until he is older and your husband might start to realise he has lost his 'baby' maybe a visit from some friends with a newborn might get him broody.
He is probably still 'reeling' from having one baby - give him a chance to get his head round that before you plan another! But well done for being honest!
2006-10-23 06:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is adamant about not wanting more children its up to you to decide whether you'll respect that. Having another when he's not ready will make him resent you very much which won't make for a nurturing atmosphere at home for the kids. Pushing him on the issue is also not going to help your case. Give him some more time to enjoy his first child without another word of more kids for another 6 months - 1 year and then try gently bringing it up again.
2006-10-23 04:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a 2 year difference between my brother and I. We get on well, so don't worry about the age gap being too much. You've only just got past the initial part of parenthood. Surely you can wait until your husband is ready? You don't need to have another child so soon do you? Give it another 6 months and bring it up again.
I'm sure your husband will be fine with having another child, but he's only just got past the sleepless nights, so give him a (little) break.
2006-10-23 04:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by genghis41f 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
experts say you should wait till your first child is 2 years old before planning another.. I am testimony to that fact..
my mom had my sister when I was 18 months.. I HATE babies now because at 18 months I was very needy still but was constantly told "Not now the baby needs me" or "you must be quiet so the baby can sleep" etc.. I became second rate.. mom was exhausted with 2 young kids and the "BABY" always came first (or at least thats how it would have seemed)
I had my tubes tied after 1 kid becuase I NEVER wanted my kid to grow up feeling unloved as I did... she is a single child and I dont regret it
the world is grossly overpopulated... 6.5 BILLION and growing - we dont need more people on the planet - the United Nations has warned that population growth will be our own ultimate demise - pollution, weather pattern changes, loss of farm land... stress of overcrowing.. etc.. it goes on and on... in 30 years the world will not be as "open" as it is now, and every body who has kids will be to blame
so if you want your kid to have a good world to grow up in - dont contribute to the problem
2006-10-23 04:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband insisted that he didn't want a baby at the time i had an IUD i had it removed which my husband knew he was upset but still insisted on having unprotected sex with me so in a way he had a choice and he chose to get me pregnant so i got what i wanted in the end now he is the proudest farther around.
Now he wants more children
2006-10-23 11:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by Gossip81 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a little while longer. Your 10 month old is still a baby. Your husband is Just getting over whelemed! Wait another year and ask him again!
2006-10-23 03:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe 10 months is not long enough for him to get used to being a dad. He is having to share you with a baby, maybe he doesn't want to share you with 2.
Leave it till spring time and see if you can talk him round then.
2006-10-23 03:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably too soon for him.
have a night where you both can sit down and discuss the pros and cons of having another baby, even better go somewhere quiet and write them down separately and then get together and dicuss why. and that way you will know why he doesn't want another baby. and it will put ur mind at rest.
hope you sort everything out. good luck
2006-10-23 03:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by tigerlilytillie2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋