like who he slept with, where he's been, etc? i get really jealous just thinking about this...
hes not a player at all, hes down t earth and has had few selected partners (no diseases)... but it annoys me to think about this because i am a virgin..
2006-10-23 03:40:57 · 21 answers · asked by wendysmmrs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how do you know he's not a player? how do you know he's free from diseases? time will tell what he's like..don't rush things in the bedroom department....if he wants you for sure he will wait until your ready.
2006-10-23 03:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've always had a problem with this and trust me - it causes a lot of problems in the relationship. As hard as it is, you need to let it go. The last guy I was with - he and I lived together for a year. I have always been a jealous person and would never let him forget his past. It really bothered me and I just couldn't get past it. This wound up being the main reason he ended our relationship. It was my inability to let the past go and move on. He is with you now and that is all that matters. Don't lose someone you care about over things that don't matter anymore. I know this is hard, trust me, but it will be even harder when you lose him because of it.
2006-10-23 10:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. It is a very hard thing, but don't settle for anyone. If he has been with ten women, you must wonder 'what makes me so special?'. Unfortunately, there are those people in the world that do not think of the one they are going to spend the rest of their life with...when they should because sooner or later it must be explained. Make sure you are comfortable with his past and present before giving up you virginity. People who say the past is nothing to worry about are usually those who settle or really don't care who they are with. Care who you are with especially if you are thinking something long term. Best regards.
2006-10-27 10:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by KAM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either accept him the way he is now, or stress yourself out over something you have ABSOLUTELY NO control over. The past is the past and it should stay there. The only concern you should have is IF, and I say IF you choose to give him your virginity, make him get tested for STD's if he hasn't already done so. Would be great if you stayed a virgin until you got married too, there is NOTHING wrong with that!! God Bless!
2006-10-23 10:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to worry about it a lot too, cause i was a virgin and my husband had a very EXTENSE past (he is much older too). Anyway in my case, it was more because he would always tell me I was not satisfying him so I would really feel inferior to the 'others'. I think when it comes to disease if you not comfortable ask a test (it is a delicate issue!) or use condoms. It is your right. Anyway, if he is kind to you dont worry about the others. It is you who he wants to be with.
2006-10-23 10:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely ask about it if you feel that you might sleep with him at some point. There is nothing wrong with you asking and discussing past relationships. It might actually give you some insight. However, you cannot be jealous - or at least do not let him see that this makes you jealous. It happened before he met you and he will not continue to share that part of his life with you if you react negatively.
2006-10-23 10:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no STD's. just past sex partners? No you shouldn't care about his past. and he will resent you if you do. Everyone has a past, weather it's a past with sex, or a past with just other relationships. Just swallow your jealousy and move on with your relationship, if he's such a great guy to you, then it shouldn't matter what he's done... I mean would you want to loose someone who you loved or be unliked just because of your past? and you don't have to give him your virginity, it is the most awesome feeling to get married and know that your husband is and will always be your first and last.
2006-10-23 10:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it comes down to a pros/cons situation. If you love him and know he is a healthy choice get over it, if you know the jealousy wont waiver then it becomes not fair to him. Guys hate jealous chics and eventually the green eyed monster will eat away at anything good you two have.
2006-10-23 10:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt worry about it but you are. You should deal with your own insecurities. You knew this info & shouldn't be with him if you can't deal with it. It's not fair to him, it's in the past and you can't do anything about it. All you can do is live in the here and now. Is he giving you are reason to worry/care? If so..run away as fast as you can. You should never ignore your instincts! Good luck. Maybe you should find someone who is just as inexperienced as you.
2006-10-23 10:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever he slept with, you are sleeping with, disease-wise, so you have a right to question who he slept with. Just be happy in who you are, and in the fact that you know once you guys have sex, he won't want to have it with anyone else ever again! Good luck, honey!
2006-10-23 10:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by daj11551 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its the past. I wouldnt let it bother you because it happened before you were in the picture. You made your choice to remain a virgin and he made the choice not to and you cannot fault him for that. If you cant accept that then you should move on.
2006-10-23 10:51:18 · answer #11 · answered by DaRkViXeN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋