I'm 19 and still a virgin. My boyfriend told me he would wait for me until I was ready. No pressure. But could he just be saying that to make me eventually fall for him and give it up? Or does he really mean what he says? Guys I need your advice...
2006-10-23 03:33:53 · 10 answers · asked by nessmae2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
quit trying to second guess your boyfriend and take what he says at face value. unless he has proven himself untrustworthy in the past, you need to put faith in his devotion to you.
2006-10-23 03:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by tampico 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test out your relationship, give it a little time. See if he changes in his behavior, and attitude about your virginity. Really it is your choice in this matter. Don't just please someone because you don't want to lose them. It could have a detrimental effect on you. Virginity is a treasure, as I have always said, "guard it with all your might". Until you are ready to give it to someone you love, and respect. Someone who truly feels the same about you. You cannot replace it ever. If he does love you, he will wait for you, even until marriage. That would be a truly wonderful gift to give someone, your virginity. It is a gift from God to. Please cherish it. There is to many problems out there because girls or guys succumbed to this worlds pressures, and gave in for a few minutes of pleasure. Then later regret showed up.
2006-10-23 03:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really all depends on your relationship and what it has been based on. More than likely he knew you were a virgin before you got with him so he has known ever since. Look it doesnt matter what he says or what he wants you to think its about you and your body and if he wants to wait more power to him for hanging in there and being there for you and your beliefs but if he just saying that then you will find that out soon enough because he will either leave or cheat, but for some reason I dont think that will happen to you.
2006-10-23 03:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by raylenejade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be telling the truth. However, if he is not a virgin, I hate to inform you he will be seeing another girl on the side for his needs but keep you because you are the one he wants to be with and cares for the most!
2006-10-23 03:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Cowgirl Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you know him, then trust him! Only you know when the time is right, and if he doesn't want to wait for that (however long that might take) then it's his loss!
2006-10-23 03:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by Karoline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your boyfriend. If he's already had sex than I'd say be a little cautious.
2006-10-23 03:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by MM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure he'll wait--but he's also going to be screwing other women in the meantime. Sorry, but it's a fact.
2006-10-23 03:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me babe, men are always looking to bed you. He is probably trying 'being considerate' technique.
2006-10-23 03:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear nessmae2,
First I would like to say how refreshing it is to know that some young people are still concerned about this topic!!! I would encourage any young person not to have pre-maritial sex. There are many reasons to not have sex before marriage.
1.) No commitment.
no obligation to you. Having sex with someone does not mean they will love you forever. In the heat of passion, a guy might say, "oh I love you baby," and then the next day he is talking to his "pals" about what he did last night. Most young men are just looking to get their needs met.
2.) Unwanted Pregnancy.
how many young girls have given in, just because they wanted that someone that they thought was special to stay, and they thought if they gave in, that he might love them enough to stay. Many find out that they have become pregnant, and upon confronting their boyfriend, who nine times out of ten, has moved on to the next affair, will laugh in their face. "hey, you wanted it." "you figure it out." the young woman left holding the bag. "What am I going to do!!!"
3) Afraid of losing "him"
What young women want most is to have someone special in their life, someone who genuinely cares for them. Many girls think If I don't give it up, he is going to leave me. This is a trap. young women need to think more highly. If "he" does tell you he will leave if you won't give it up, tell him to leave, he wasn't worth it. Before the day is out he will be looking elswere for someone who will give it up. That was real love? He loved you how much? Sex is no gurantee that someone will stay around.
4.) STD's
sexually transmitted disease. One out of every four teens gets STD's before they are 21!!!
Once you've got it, what are you going to do. No one want to get STD. Who will want you now?
5.) Sex is not the only game in town!!!
Young people need to enjoy their youth!!! Spend time with friends just hanging out, enjoying their freedom. Building friendships, discovering what they want to be, and what they want to do with their lives.
If your boyfriend loves you, he will stand by you and respect your decision to wait to have sex. He will be patient with you, and like you said, not put any pressure on you to give in!!! Part of the answer, is how faithful are you going to be. How committed are you to stand firm on your decision?
Girls that give it up are the girls the guys are talking about in the locker room. Bragging about what they did the night before. another "notch in their belt" so to speak. Then, the next thing is that those girls who are giving it up have made a reputation for themselves, they are "easy".
When a guy finally decides he wants to settle down, and wants to find that person he wants to spend the rest of his life with, He is looking for "someone special".
When you go to look at jewelery, what jewelery do you ooh and ahh over? The "real" diamonds, or the cubic zarconia? The pure gold, or gold plated? The "real" stuff of course!! We all want to have things that are of value. No one wants a cheap immitation.
Be determined to be "something special" in someones life. Save yourself for someone who wants to commit themselves to you. Someone who wants to spend the rest of their life with you.
The exchange of rings in a marriage symbolizes the sacred bond between a man and a woman. As the circle of these rings knows no end, so may the love declared in marriage, never end and be forever renewed.
I would like to share with you a couple of verses in the Bible that have to do with love.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek it's own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
May God Richly Bless You!!!
2006-10-23 08:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by katherinewymer@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be either way
2006-10-23 03:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by James R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋