she does not have a good relationship with her mom, Her dad lives out of state and her brother and her are just now trying to rekindle thier relationship. She and her boyfriend (who has not always been very gentle...if you get my drift)are living with us.
2006-10-23 03:31:01 · 6 answers · asked by Annie Omis 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have depression and used to cut myself. Badly.
All you can honnestly do is be there for her, try and understand her and why she is feeling the need to cut herself. Dont patrinise her, nor say you understand her as no-one does. Just be a good friend to her and give her your advice when she needs it, other than that, its up to her, i know its hard to watch someone doing that but its all you can do. Good luck and take care :)
2006-10-23 04:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is you need to be nothing but supportive. She is using the cutting as an outlet for all of her pain and needs to find another way to do so. I am 99% sure that you will not be able to do this for her. She definitly needs to see a professional and get rid of her boyfriend. It may cause her immediate pain, but for her to get better and for you to feel like you are doing something for her, the negative effect that this Abusive guy is is giving her needsd to stop. http://www.selfinjury.com/ is a website that deals directly with cutting and other self injury. There are other people who have gone through this.
2006-10-23 06:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sean T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Get her to talk about what is happening. Convince her to talk to a professional.
Don't push. Just let her tell you what is going on with her. She needs to figure that out, and telling you will help her tell herself.
This kind of thing doesn't have a quick fix. It took a long time to get broken, and it takes a long time to get right. Professional help would be best, but might not be an option due to money or her willingness to get help.
2006-10-23 03:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Dentata 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to her. She is crying out for help if she is cutting and she may need support.
As her if she still wants to be with her boyfriend, if the situation is untenable then ask him to leave. If he cares about her then he will do this for her safety as much as for himself.
Try to talk her into speaking to a doctor or counsellor about her problems.
2006-10-23 07:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really help people like that. If you fix one of her problem she will find another somewhere else. Some people just have depressive tendencies. Just remember that mood is very contagious and remove yourself from the situation if you are getting too involved or you will start hating life along with her.
2006-10-23 03:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by pp 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell her to call 1800 lifenet, try 1800 dont cut. seriously i'm still deasling with depression. if you need advice try me dogmicjoe@yahoo.com and leave ur email. try telling her life will get better. try beliefnet.com. it has prayers that can help her.
2006-10-23 11:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋