If your child(who is now an adult) went to jail for VOP and called you collect, would you accept the call? Not wanting to be bailed out either, just wanting to talk. They haven't talked in two months and I think it's wrong. Not to mention the fact that they haven't called their grandson in two months either. Aren't you always supposed to be there for your children no matter what? I know I would. After all, the parents are the ones who brought them into this world and raised them. Just wanting to know what everyone else thinks....
2006-10-23 03:09:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
VOP is violation of probation. The parents have NEVER accepted a collect call before. He has no bail and has almost done his time, but they don't know this because they wouldn't accept the call. To me, it doesn't matter if they violated the law, they still have parents regardless what they do, right? Would you throw your child down if they violated the law? That's how I see it, as throwing him down. It would make someone feel like "if your parents won't be there for you, then who will?"
2006-10-23 03:30:06 · update #1
He went to jail two months ago. One week before he went to jail, he was visiting them at their house. So, this is why it's such a shock. It's not like they have been having an ongoing feud.
2006-10-23 03:32:06 · update #2
FYI the calls are 15 minutes long are $2 a call. So, what would accepting one phone call hurt? This was before he got out for work release, so he has no need for someone to accept a call now. These calls don't charge by the minute like regular collect calls.
2006-10-23 04:09:04 · update #3
Ok..I've lived thru this first hand for 5 yrs. when my boy went jail. He had to be a man, face what he did & do his time. Thankfully he's home & has grown and become a better person today.
Yes, I've accepted many collect calls, went on many visitation days & sent many care packages.
Family should be there no matter what-right or wrong!
Jail is a lonely,long, hard, cold rough callus place to be & the only sense of peace in there is knowing that they can call home....Why would anyone want to take that away? Isn't the punishment of being in there enough? Isn't your child worth a 30 min. phone call to make his day pass easier?
Don't they have A Heart or A Conscience as "parents'????
2006-10-23 04:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by puddee_catz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not accept any collect call from any of my kids if they get put in jail for anything.It shows them that being in jail is a miserble,lonely life.Im raising my kids to be good people and if the get on probation or go to jail then they must learn the hard way.Do you have any idea how much collect calls cost? Im looking at a $1300.00 phone bill right now because my husband is a truck driver and his cell phone was cut off so he was calling collect everyday for 5-10 minutes a day for 2 weeks.There is no way I will be willing to pay for collect calls from my kid that messed up in life out of stupidity.I do love my kids no matter what but not doing as I taught them as they was growing up not only would hurt me but why would they expect me to fork out money on calls when all they had to do was be good,decent citizens?
2006-10-23 10:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sory, but that adult child has a problem obeying the laws and knew what will happen if they broke their parole violation. Collect calls cost. Write a letter, it's cheaper.
2006-10-23 10:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what VOP is, but maybe they have accepted too many collect calls already. Tough love.
2006-10-23 10:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suppose that if my son called me from jail i would talk to him but i would not bail him out. my attitude is and will always be "you do the crime you do the time." besides in a lot of cases the family is what helps rehabilitate the person in jail.
2006-10-23 10:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if the kid wants to accept what they did and not be bailed out,that's great ,their are learning a good lesson ! Condoning what your childs done and supporting them are two very diffrent things. you need to back away...not your child. they will deal with it the best way 'their family' knows how.
2006-10-23 10:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by vanislandwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would accept the call. It's my child good or bad, I would love my child regardless.
2006-10-23 10:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by razzyrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course i would accept. Its not like its a co-worker or long lost friend, this is your child, someone who comes first regardles of how much time passes and we havent talked.
2006-10-23 10:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by mizz_toree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your contradicting yourself I dont understand what your asking you think its wrong to accept the call but then you go on to say be there no matter what your the parent
2006-10-23 10:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by cameron b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would. children should always come first no matter their age or what theyve done
2006-10-23 10:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋