Okay..it was brought to may attention that my mil found fault with me. She asked me not to call her house anymore. I do not think I did anything wrong but i sent her a letter asking for her forgiveness. She still has absolutely nothing to do with me. Do i keep trying or leave it alone since i have apologized...i want to do what is right....
2006-10-23 03:01:28 · 18 answers · asked by careful 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If someone wants nothing to do with you and you care about that person, honor their request and leave them alone.
2006-10-23 03:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you took the right step by asking her forgiveness, (as long as it was sincere and not a "well I didn't do anything wrong but I guess it's my job to fix this" type of thing), then it is up to her. Keep your heart open and try not to hold a grudge, and be as kind as possible when you have contact with her, and maybe she will soften. Time will tell. You cannot control the actions of other people, but if you do what you truly feel is right, you can answer for yourself at the end of the day, and that is what is important.
2006-10-23 03:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by wv mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've apologized without knowing what you did wrong, then you didn't apologize -- you said nice words. Apologies require a specific admission of wrong-doing.
Perhaps one more letter is in order, something along the lines of,
"It is clear that in some way I have offended, slighted, or wronged you. If I have, that was not my intention. This silence does not build family; it only strains it. Despite my best efforts, I cannot think of what I've done to offend you so. Would you please let me know so that I can make amends and correct myself in the future? Your being in my family is very important to me."
After that, leave it entirely alone. She may have decided that you simply aren't right for her daughter and hope that by making life hell for you, you'll leave. Unfortunately, some humans on this planet lack the simple courtesies in life and she may never tell you or let you right your wrong.
2006-10-23 03:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that since you apologized to her that perhaps you should give her time, to calm down, and think calmly about the situation. Sometimes a little space to breath is all people need to be able to forgive someone. After you give her a little time to calm down, try to approach her again and stress how sorry you are, and perhaps she will be willing to accept your apology then. But remember some people never forgive others and you have to walk away, but just remember that it leaves an opening for someone new to come into your life.
2006-10-23 03:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by txtia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sounds like you've done all you can. All you can do is appologize after that the ball is in her court. So just wait and see what happens... This might just be something she won't get over and at some point you'll just have to accept that and stop worrying. It'll be ok, don't worry.
As my mother says: Words are like a tube of toothpaste, they come out easily but you can never take them all back.
2006-10-23 03:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your girl friend you called her mil, what is that, but if so blow her out and never dail her number again, if she is treating you like that she has a new guy and is done with you, so dont torture your self she is evil like most women looking for a bigger better deal! Free your self!
2006-10-23 03:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by bungyow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did your part the rest is on her. Don't feel bad because if it wasn't this it would have probably been something else. It seems like she wants to be mad at you but doesn't have anything so she is using this. Good luck and keep on smiling.
2006-10-23 03:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...in these cases I have stepped back and allowed God to work out the situation. Let her come to you, you have done your part your conscience should be cleared if you have apologized and if you have not done anything to your rememberence
2006-10-23 03:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by rzblossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have already apologized and there is not much more you can do so just leave her alone and she might come around but if she dont then shes not worth your time and effort
2006-10-23 03:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She ask you not to call then don't call if you really respect her wishes then leave her alone
2006-10-23 03:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by jamnjims 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋