On friday, I was suppose to go see my boyfriend. He ended up not being able to see me because he had to help his sister with her new baby. He and I had a talk about me calming down when it comes to our relationship. I tend to over think things and then i get horrible anxiety attacks. He told me to call him satruday morning so i could come over then. I called him and his mom said she wasn't sure where he was. I called later in the day, and she told me that he was helping his dad fix a pipe. I ended up hanging with my parents for the rest of the day and stayed the night at their house. On sunday morning, I tried calling again, but the phone was busy. Well my phone rang and it was my boyfriend calling me. He said he got busy the night before and didn't finish till late so he didn't call. I asked what he was doing that day and he said that he was going to his grandparents house to watch the foot ball game. I asked if i could come over tonight and he said yeah. He didn't call me last night.
2006-10-23 02:53:18 · 7 answers · asked by Just a girl... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you need to evaluate your relationship with him (as opposed to his relationship with you). The difference being that you sound too highly-strung, and need to examine your approach, instead of worrying about what he's doing or what he's thinking.
At least you can spell and punctuate, so at least you've got some brains (which is better than I've seen of many posters here). I know it's kinda hard to be objective, but you'll find you're only helping yourself if you can step back from it all. I must say I think if this were the 'real thing', then you'd be more than incidental in his life (which is how it sounds here). Then again, you sound like you're still young enough to simply enjoy dating and the acquaintance process. Don't rush in - enjoy the friendship first! My wife's first marriage was a disaster because she rushed into a relationship. Do yourself a favor and don't repeat her mistake.
Here's another approach - do you and he have a mutual friend you can rely on? Advice from strangers (especially in black + white) can be pretty hard to take when it's something you don't want to hear. If you can speak with a friend of his whom you trust, said friend might be able to give you some pointers.
2006-10-23 03:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by warped_factor_ten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're trying to hard. Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean you have to spend every waking moment together. Enjoy your time together, but enjoy the time apart. Spend time with your friends. Call him once, leave a message if he is not there and that's it. If he has plans, tell him that if he wants to stop by after or call later, cool but you are going to spend time with friends or family that day as well so you will talk with him later. Trust him unless he has given you a reason not to. Communication is the key as well as trust.
2006-10-23 03:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get busy... stuff happens. Hey Ive had it happen before, you plan something then life gets in the way. No biggie. give him time to catch up with you.
If he hasnt called by today or tomorrow call him later this week for lunch to catch up. Dont spazz.
2006-10-23 02:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Bre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got tired of your drama and he's just not that into you any more. Move on. It's over.
2006-10-23 02:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
should you or should you not WHAT exactly? Don't call him again, please, it smacks of desperation. Let him call you, sometimes men need a little "breathing space", don't suffocate him, let him come to you.
2006-10-23 02:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you because you allow it! Get away from him!
2006-10-23 02:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you ever give him some space . time to move on
2006-10-23 02:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by szfr8l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋