Please help me...?

Question

i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 months all i have done is treat him bad & he kept forgiving me now hes finally turned on me and treating me the same. He said that if i dont give him a proper reason why i treated him like that then its over i cant bear to loose him but i know its my fault im meeting him at work at 3.25 this afternoon for a talk , the thing is i dont know why i treated him bad i wish is knew i really do and if i could turn the clock back then i would never have done it in the first place. Please help me with a good reason so i dont loose the love of my life i know you all think i deserve to but i cnt bear it please please help

Answer 1

tell him you never wanna be without him, tell him you've grown since then,realize what is important now, learned alot from him, etc ya know,that kind of fluff
use finesse...be irresistable
blame it on yourself like i do... "you know how difficult i can be...but i love you the most (coy smile)"
it works everytime

and one more thing....
why haven't you shown him he can't live without you??
better get on that, girl! the secret to keeping your man is take VERY GOOD care of him!! good luck

Answer 2

Wow, Staci, I am going through the same thing right now.
We have been dating for a year, but I recently left for 6 months over seas and all we've been doing is fighting, and I've been treating him like ****. So, he's finally fed up and doing it back to me, and it hurts.

The best thing you can do, is tell him the truth why you've been acting that way. I know I acted that way, because I was stressed and he was being really needy and clingy and it just bothered me. Once you find that reason, you just have to apologize and tell him you're going to change. Ask him to help you change, there must of been something he did to make you treat him that way? You need to find the real reason, because you really do need to change if you want to make it work! You won't find the reason from yahoo answers. And lying about it, will just make it worse. Good luck with everything, I know how hard it is.



P.S.
I actually think we treat guys bad that let us walk all over them. It almost became so habit forming, that I didn't even notice I was treating him bad. I just wish guys would stand up for themselves, that way I could be like...wow, i'm not a good person and i need to change.

Answer 3

Tell him the truth. Maybe also add that you are very sorry but that you were worried about getting hurt by him and so you hurt him before he could hurt you. You see the error of your ways and you really wish you could turn the clock back. Promise that from today onwards you will never treat him like that ever again.
Good luck and i hope he forgives you again.

Answer 4

You can keep sayin ur sorry til ur blue in the face..if u dont know y u tret him badly, how is any1 else s'pose 2 know...No-one can giv u any excuses really, theres only u that can figure that 1 out. Just b truthful & apologetic but its gota come from the heart & say it like u mean it. If u really love each other, then u'l b able 2 work something out 2geva..Hope evrything works out 4 u both this aft'noon wen u meet him..Good luck chic

Answer 5

All you can do is to keep apologising and swearing that whatever it is will never happen again. Tell him that you have no good reason and that he doesn't deserve the way you've been treating him, ask him can you draw a line under the whole episode and try again. You know you've got a lot to prove but can he please give you the opportunity to do it.

Only by throwing yourself on his mercy can he decide whether or not to forgive you. Good luck and behave yourself if he gives you another chance.

Answer 6

Obviously you didnt care enough to treat him well the first time. Did you have a reason for treating him so bad? If you get him to stay you cant go back to your old ways.

Only you know why u did what you did. And if you truely love him you will figure out a way to get him to stay if he's feeling the same way.

Answer 7

Well it depends what you mean by "treated him bad". If you have cheated on each other, then you will have to work hard in order to regain trust. I think you're probably quite young, and I know you probably feel like this is the end of the world right now, but it's really, really not. One day you will look back on all this and laugh.

Answer 8

Staci, if you have been treating your boyfriend badly since you met, then you might have personal issues that you need to deal with. Have you always treated men this way? To ask anybody to help you find a reason is a cop out, you need to take a look deep inside yourself for this answer. Were you treated badly by your father for instance?

Answer 9

You can just tell him that the reason you treated him the way you did was because you were afraid to lose him and you really wanted to know if he really loves you! I believe you love, dont let him escape or push him away from you! Good Luck, I hope things work out!

Answer 10

It's funny how reality kicks in once the tables are turned! You haven't done anything to deserve another chance so be grateful if he doesn't walk away. If you get another chance don't ruin it! Be honest and just apologise. Make sure he knows you mean it.

Answer 11

I use to do the same thing and it cost me to loose my b/f it was a long time ago but i still think that i did him wrong, i try to figure out what made me do it, but i think that i took him for granted, so if u love him then u need be careful.