Some bad stuff happened to me a few years ago. Now I am married, living a different life, and I have no idea what has triggered this, but I am having nightmares about the bad stuff that used to happen to me. I am afraid to tell my husband because he doesn't know about my past and probably would not tolerate it. Besides, i told him just a little once. From his reaction, I am afraid to tell him more. So what do I do to get rid of the nightmares so I can get some rest? I can't function like this.
2006-10-23 02:50:17 · 9 answers · asked by Lila 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have your past bottled up in you & this is its only release. You're going to need to talk to a professional about whats bothering you. Whether you do this behind your husbands back or be up front & tell him is up to you...but if my wife had issues like this & I really loved her, I would want her to get help. Maybe even if you could just tell him the whole story (I know it's easy for me to say) & get it off of your chest, the nightmares would end.
Good luck!
2006-10-23 02:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Edward J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your nightmares are being triggered because you weren't honest with your husband about your past. You started off your marriage with a bit of a lie going on. To me, not telling the entire truth or hinding the truth is just like living a lie. If he can't accept what was in the PAST, then you two have no right to a future. You need to seek couseling alone and with your husband. If he loves you, he will accept you, no matter what. If he can't accept it, then he doesn't deserve you. Good luck, hun.
2006-10-23 03:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband. Keeping it from him is surely bothering you & subconsciously it's coming out in your dreams. If you talked it through with him you'd probably feel a big weight has been lifted & feel a lot better. Right now it seems like you're keeping a huge secret, a major part of your life, from the man you love, the man who loves you.
2006-10-23 03:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey there. Look don't freak out. I had a similar problem like yours from watching the movie "the omen" it really gave me nightmares all the time. But you know what you can do. You can just clear out your mind from all the nightmares & relax. If that doesn't work. It could be something else. You might want to visit a therapist or something. I hope it helps. :) sweet dreams ;) lol
xxx RuThiE xxx
2006-10-23 02:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Nirvana FREAK! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is your body and mind's way of telling you that you need to work through you past; the alternative is that it will come and remind you over and over again until you do. It watched it happen to someone close to me. My advise is get professional help from a social worker to help you through this. Always remind yourself of how far you have come, and that you can get through this. Good luck:)
2006-10-23 03:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a counselor or clergy. You might be suffering from Post Traumatic Stress disorder.
2006-10-23 02:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by ginger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please get some counseling for your self, when your stronger have him join you in your counseling then you can move on with your life good luck, p.s. nothing will go away until you seek help they will help you with your husband if thats what you want.
2006-10-23 03:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a therapist
2006-10-23 02:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell me Sweety I won't judge or put ya down! I've been through crap myself!
2006-10-23 03:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋