scared about death?

Question

in the past 5 years i have lost sooo many people,most all of them were close to my own age(under 40) i believe that when you are born you are already in the writ as to when your time is up.every time someone ealse leaves this world it makes death some much more evolved in my head.i just found happiness in my life and im so afraid of losing it.how do i get over this feeling that i get whenever someboby ealse i care about dies.it hits me sooo HARD that its so scary.is there an easier way to say good-bye without so much thought into whos next.(ME OR SOMEBODY SO MUCH MORE CLOSER) please help me !!!!!

Answer 1

don't be scared, every day bring everyone one day closer to the end.

Answer 2

It is always those left behind you suffer any meaning full consequences of the death of someone they know. As for you, once you die, it is over. You just have to cope with the tricky part, actually dying. You can obsess about it and waste what little time you do have in life or , equally as foolish, waste time preparing for an afterlife that doesn't exist. Either of those choices takes away from the experience of life. Chose to make a positive contribution while you live and try to get a few people who will remember you fondly after you die. In the end we all end up as nothing but worm-poop, a smudge on an O-bit page and a few scratches on a chunk of stone.

Answer 3

The feeling is shared... when the fear of being "the next" apporaches you, what you must to do is to be really grateful that you are in fact still there, the gone gone is... sorry, no return. but when you face back to remember them is like trying to pull back someone you can't bring.

Focus instead on your plans, your goals, on your own shiny "wannados", enjoy on the life of the living ones and bury the dead ones, even when it hurts to forget. So you'll appreciate every second of life that your loved ones hadn't. You'll appreciate life so when death comes you will have filled every cavity of time with something you would want to remember. Try harder!

Cheers UP!

Answer 4

We had 5 people die in our family quite quickly, it is quite a shock, we had the funeral of my aunt on the day i was induced to have my son. It can be a very traumatic time in a persons life dealing with the death of people.
We all know that we have to die sometime but we must live everyday until then as living people not people waiting to die. Why be sad for that length of time?
Share all the happiness you can with people and make the most of what you have. Don't be afraid to love just because they wont be here one day. If we remember things about people thats what keeps them alive in our hearts.
Those sad feelings wont go away but they will be put to the back of your mind. If they do become overwhelming go to your GP and ask to speak to some one about them.

My grandad once said to me before he died... it is better to smile and forget than to cry and remember. i didn't understand at the time but i do now.

Answer 5

There is no real soothing way to answer this question. it seems that you have accepted that people are going to die eventually. I think that you should stop worrying about what will happen, worry also deteriorates the body faster, and live in the now. I can not tell you that the people around you won't die, just love them now, and don't be worried if they will die. Poe had this same problem, but he made it a personal problem, and turned to drugs. I think you should go into counseling for this fear

Answer 6

Death is not the loss of happiness. At death, your soul rejoins the great spirit of the creator. That's pure bliss...euphoria...whatever you want to call it. You become one with all that is good and all that is love. Also, the souls of those before you will have also joined with the God-force, so you will be with them again too. Don't be scared. Just do everything you can to live your life well, and enjoy the beauty of the world. God will take care of you.

Answer 7

I'm sorry i can't really help as i've never had too many people pass away on me. However when i was little my brothers and sisters, mother and father were all asleep and i was the only one awake i was scared they all went to another world and left me behind. When i eventually fell asleep we were all together in the same world. Wherever we end up might be more peaceful than this world.

Answer 8

I think the worst problem is that you are grieving. In the community where I live many people are old. Same problem. I say, "Live as though you're dying." Love everyone and every minute passionately. Don't Leave Anything Important Undone. If you can find God and commit to Him, you will find that very comforting. Just ask, in your heart. You'll see.

Answer 9

You need counseling. You are obsessing about death instead of looking around and seeing the other side. How many babies have you known to be born during the past five years?
You are looking at a half empty glass, instead of one half full. Seek professional guidance.

Answer 10

The bible says to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord! So if the person is a christian he is being promoted and have no reason to fear, but if they dont know christ Jesu, they should have a fear of death because if you dont know Jesus before they go they are probably going to hell , so God says do not fear, but read the bible and you will get vision of the next world the eternal world and were wer e going and it will not scare you anymore ,you will look foward to it!and go read john its all there.

Answer 11

Worry not about the things you have no control over, for worries keep you going round and round in negative maddening circles whilst Concern, which is ok, helps you concentrate on the positive aspects of the same scenario.