I've been dating this young lady for a little over 7 months now. we have had a few break ups in the past two. A few months ago she told me that she didn't love me anymore and that she did not want to be in a relationship with me. I thought we were over but she is always calling me and asking me to do things for her. I do them and I always feel like I'm being used afterward, but I might not be. It's funny, but I think she does love me. I'm just not sure anymore. Should I call it over and move on or should I give it more time to see what she does?
2006-10-23 02:44:52 · 15 answers · asked by DanoMD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason you feel like you are being used by her is because you are. It's a simple and straightforward as that. Although the evidence points to the contrary you are still trying to get her back. This is why you put up with her treating you this way. She doesn't love you and if that isn't hard enough to deal with you now have something else to consider. When she broke up with you she told you very honestly that she didn't love you and didn't want to be in a relationship with you anymore. That was a sign of respect. Now that you're at her beck and call and don't seem to mind that she's using you she has just left the state of having respect for you to now having no respect for you at all. Sorry, but I only tell the truth like it is no matter how much it hurts. Why? Because I want to help you to help yourself. That's the only way you'll get through this. She's not going to love you again. Just by letting her use you like this you have already helped her to make that decision. It's time to delete her from your speed dial, block her number if you can. At the very least don't take her calls when you know it's her and if she still manages to catch you off guard in person just walk away as if you've never seen her before in your life. If she does get through to you on the phone, hang up and do not say even one word to her. The same thing goes for if you run into her in person. Vow to yourself that for the rest of your life you will not say one word to her or about her ever again. You CAN do this!!! It's the only way.
2006-10-23 02:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Dhara 6 · 16⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely move on.. if she says she don't love you and has the heart to tell you that then she probably doesn't! I was with a guy for little over a year and after about a year i met this guy and it made me realize that i really didn't love him anymore! I was just with him b/c i wanted someone there! After i broke up with my old b/f and started talking to the other guy i fell in love with him and we have been dating for about 8 months now and im so glad i ended it with my old b/f or i would have missed out big time! You could be missing out on someone really special.. it sounds like she is just using you anyway!
2006-10-23 09:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by --Br0oklYn-- 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't see how she still loves you if she's using you. You ever heard the saying "love is blind"? I think that saying fits perfectly here. There is no way for us to confirm if she really loves you or not. I think she might care for you, but I don't know about love. If you really want to clarify things, why don't you ask her if she still loves you. If she says no, I would reconsider accepting her phone calls. Does she even call just to say Hi or to see how you are doing? That should be the answer to your question. You know she's using you. But if she has no feelings for you, then unfortunately you have to move on. If she does have feelings for you, then continue being her friend but don't jump at every chance she asks you to do something. Make yourself seem unavailable. She'll appreciate the friendship more and might think twice about taking you for granted.
2006-10-23 09:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If she told you that she doesn't love you anymore and you have already had a few break-ups but is still calling you to do things for her - it sounds like she is just using you as you are to nice to say no and she knows this. Kick her to the curb and find another woman who will appreciate you! Don't do her any more favors and I bet she will quit calling .
2006-10-23 09:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by me 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Depending on how old you are, games are normal. But if your over the age of 23 at least, your too old for the games and its time to find a more mature women. True enough if you've been with somebody for a certain period of time you like them more, and more, but for real, that arguin and fightin that **** is depressing. So I would let her know that its time for her to grow up and once she does, there might be a chance with you too, if not, that was a lesson for you to carry on into your next relationship.
2006-10-23 09:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by cbaby 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well mate I guess you are mature enough to understand your young lady all i can tell you is to talk to her and to find out where the two of you are standing from now on...if she loves you well the two of you need to sort out your relationship otherwise you need to move on with your life and do things you like..try to ask her to do things for you and see her reaction
2006-10-23 09:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lord Glyde 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Move on bud. She tells you that she doens't love you anymore and that she doesn't want to be with you. I mean if somebody told me that I would be like dang fa real? And move on. I believe that she is using you. You need to stop doing things for her and remind her that she doesn't love you and that she doesn't want to be with you, that should ring a bell in her head and she will see that you serious about the situation too.
2006-10-23 09:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Tia 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It would appear as though she demoted you to "Personal Asistant". It sounds like the only thing she loves is getting someone else to run her errands.
Time to move on. Tell her to call only if she wants to get together socially not for you to run errands.
2006-10-23 09:50:17 · answer #8 · answered by ishootpix 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
What part of 'Didn't love me anymore' did you not understand?
Stop letting her use you and move on with your life, without her in it.
2006-10-23 09:59:50 · answer #9 · answered by Axeman 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Tell her the friend thing isn't cutting it for you, you're tired of being used....& cut it off completely. See what her reaction is to that & you'll have your answer.
2006-10-23 09:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by Edward J 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋