I am pregnant for the second time(moral support needed)?

Question

I just found out I am pregnant again my current child is only 12 months old, I would like to hear form other people who went through this, like how did the partner react when you told them, how it turned out, do they like each other, so they share rooms etc?

*do they share rooms, not so.
It will be a 20 month old and a newborn I believe

Answer 1

Congratulations of the upcomming bundle of joy! I have two that are a little farther apart than yours, but yes, they are each other's buddies, they always have someone to play with (Which is nice, because it is heartbreaking when no other kids at the park want to play with yours for whatever reason) My hubby was fine when I told him, I think that he was more worried about putting me through all of this again so soon, he was happy about the pregnancy after I told him not to worry. Right now, my two share a bedroom (they are 3 and almost 2) and it all works out just fine. So, chin up! Your babies will have someone to lean on their whole lives in each other.

Answer 2

Hello there I am pleased to have come across your Question, I am a 26 yr old mother of 6 yes 6 and I have been in your situation more than once,My partner along with my friend who was also going through this took it hard at first then said to late to turn back now kinda thing, If your partner is Angry keep your calm but also let him know you didnt do this on your own, Then the fun part, Figuring out what your going to do you have a child in Diapers a new one on the way all the expenses what are you going to do, Well, You sit down write it out and make sure that one of you can stick to the Budget or find someone that can it does really work, After the initial shock wears off they will either except it or they wont and if they don't that I Love you he said to you this morning was a Lie..And about sharing rooms that all goes on what you have as for space, But with your child being that much older I suggest keeping baby with you for the first month or so tell baby develops a good sleep pattern.. Hope this helps a little, good luck and Congrats.

Answer 3

My first two children (both boys) were 23 months apart. They are now 11 and 9 years old and have always been best friends. Of course they have their moments when they fight, but I really enjoy that they are so close in age and do have a good relationship. They shared a room until just recently. I also have a 13 month old daughter and am due mid January with another girl. They will be 16 months apart and will share a room. All of my pregnancies were planned as I wanted my children to have someone to grow up with. These last two are so close because of my age (I will be 38 in April) and didn't want to worry about birth defects as the risk goes up substantially every year after age 35.

There is a lot of work involved having two little ones at the same time, but in the long run you will really love it. I wouldn't have it any other way.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

I have a 23 month old and a 4.5 month old. I also have a 6 year old. All my children are boys and they love each other. The 6 year old is great at "taking care" of his little brothers and the 23 month old loves the baby, he thinks it's his baby. We were not planning on having the third as soon as we did, but although it was a shock my husband and I are both happy and proud to have such beautiful and healthy children.

Just remember that you need to give lots of hugs and kisses to the older child, and make sure you get him a present from the baby when you bring the baby home.
When you are playing with the toddler and the baby gets upset, for something minor, tell the baby "sorry, baby you will have to wait one second, mommy is busy playing with ______." The reason I say this is because your toddler is going to hear tthat line in reverse so much he or she may feel that he's not as special as the baby. Even if you only play for 30 more seconds it shows the toddler that he is important.
Try to make sure you get one on one time with your Toddler everyday, both you and your husband. Even if it's 15 minutes a day helps.
If a stranger or family member comment on how cute the new baby is in front of your toddler and doesn't say anything right away to the toddler say "yes, that's ________new brother, _________ is so proud of his brother." That usually diverts the attention given to the baby to the toddler and makes the toddler feel special.
My youngest share a room...well shared a room. The baby is having health problems that have arisen in the last month so he is now sleeping in my room. But we will most likely be moving him back to his room if he continues to stay healthy.


Regardless of how great a parent you are, there will be some jelousy from your toddler. Just try to give him as much attention as possible. Good luck

Answer 5

My children are 15 months apart and both girls. They share a room and get along quit well. I was very blessed having them so close together, because they always have a friend close by. It may be hard at first, because your going to have two in diapers and your 12 month old may not understand, why their not the baby anymore. But Patience and guidance will make for a happy outcome. Your partner should take this time to bond with your older child, this will help make up for mommy being busy with the new baby. My husband was gone when I had my second and I thought I would never get through, having two babies, but it worked out. Oh Did it ever. Hang in there!!! The best is still to come!!

Answer 6

my husband and I accidently go pregnant when our daughter was only 12 weeks old. They are only 12 months apart. It was pretty upsetting when I found out b/c I felt like I was going to cheat my daughter out of being the baby; which I did. It was hard when they were babies. 2 diapers, sometimes 2 bottles, 2 kids waking up at night...etc. Also, when my son-the baby- was born Mmy step son was only 3. So, I had a 3 year old, a 12 month, and a newborn. But, now they are 6, 4, and 3. I wouldn't have it any other way. My 3 and 4 year olds are so close. They don't like to even be apart during school! They play together, laugh together, cry together, sleep together....they do everything together. They love each other so much. So, don't worry...it will work out! congrats!

Answer 7

I recently found out that we were unexpectedly expecting again. My son is only 10 1/2 months at present and will be 15 months when the new baby's born.

I came back from the docs after some tests and my hubby was in the restroom. So, I sat down to feed my son and when my hubby was through, he came in the main room and I was all doe-eyed and said, "I love you." He said, "You're pregnant again, aren't you?" I nodded, and he was really frightened at first, but both him and I warmed up to the idea over time.

We figure, maybe it's for the best that our kids are so close together. They'll learn to share and hopefully become good friends :) We may, hopefully, be getting a council flat pretty soon, so we may not need to have them share rooms. We don't even know what we're having at the moment!

Answer 8

My brother and I are ten months apart. Wisely, from the nappy point of view, my own children are much further apart.
Often, you're so in love with your first child, that your second child is a pleasure.
My brother and I were extremely close - we adored each other. In all our photos, there we are, holding hands and kissing. Didn't last beyond 6 or 7, but by then, we were just normal kids. We shared a bedroom. We've grown apart over the years - it's a long story - but we were close as children.
My own are 3 - 4 years apart. First two were boys and they were very close,. Second two are girls and the older one resents the younger.
It's the luck of the draw, their characters and their personalities are what will make it difficult.
Good luck!

Answer 9

I have a brother who is just a little over 13 months younger than I am so he was always there when I was small, I honestly felt like a twin because we did everything together, he started nursery the day I started school so we were never apart until I left to go to senior school, Admittedly we fought like cat & dog sometimes but on my 1st overnight trip away from home with the school he was the one I missed the most! We are great friends now and I can tell him anything.. he is like an extension of me, the best friend I could ever have.

Answer 10

my kids are 16 months apart. My husband was very excited. My kids don't share a room. We're lucky to have the space I guess. Isabella is now 23 mos and Joey is 7 mos. Isabella has her moments at times but for the most part she loves him and shares toys with him. She also brings me his bib when I am going to feed him and rips it off of him when he is finished eating. Sometimes she sits on him sometimes she smothers him with kisses. He pretty much laughs at everything. but in the beginning he would cry if she approached him. she was a little bit of a brute, I suppose.

It's hard at first but it's awesome having them close together. They won't ever remember being the only child and watching them grow and play together is great.

You'll need a double stroller! :) I like the Maclren's ...but my double is actually a mountain buggy since I live in Costa Rica. But my single is a maclren techno XT and if I still lived in the US I would simply by that double.