for some reason, in the past few months or so i felt just plain down and out. i can seem to get sincerely happy about things all that much anymore. i feel like im walking around with a 100 ton weight on my shoulders for no reason. i know ive been 'depressed' but im not really, because i know i shouldnt be and its stupid of me. whether im lonley or confused, i just cant stand it anymore. i want to just let go. and my birthday is tomorrow!! how can i lighten up??
2006-10-23 02:29:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Depression is the most horrible pain,Get a paper and write a Hugh list of birthday wishes, then read it ,see how much of
that you already have.Something about the written word,It
seems to override thoughts .Someone cares, Me.I wish you a very Happy Birthday.
2006-10-23 02:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply talk to those you feel closest to, it may not necessarily be a famliy member, maybe a friend or other relative. Depression doesn't just go away overnight as I've learned.I took a year out of college due to it and had to come back home from London due to it. It's your body's way of telling you to slow down. Spend some time with those you love and don;t be afraid to say what you feel coz it's not stupid to feel a certain way at all. In fact depression is one of the healthiest things that a human can go through. It's great to be happy but I believe that people who are constantly happy are really trying to cover up their emotions. So go ahead and speak your mind and cry if that helps too
2006-10-23 02:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by D8411 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, darlin it's NOT stupid of ya. Sometimes depression's not characterized by a constant sad feeling. Think of it as yer brain getting "stuck" in the depressed mode. Just like when we're hungry for long enough, that we stop FEELING hungry. The secondary symptoms like physical weak/fatigue, lethargy, listless, etc. stay, while the "blue" feeling fades. Could it be your upcoming birthday? I know that my 30th (last april) sucked. If it's a longtime deal, medication/counseling can help. No shame in it. it's just that we miss stuff in ourselves that others can spot like a strobe-light. Or, the age old excercise can work miracles. The endorphines are GREAT. You'll notice a boost in energy and vitality pretty quick.
2006-10-23 03:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Sarah, I'm not sure how old you are but I don't think that you are old enought to have created all of that weight on your shoulders for yourself. It sure sounds like you are carrying some of your ancestry traits that creates negative energy which controls a persons mood. Look at youself, look at the relatives and observe what they are doing wrong (habits) what are you doing wrong. Your issues are deep down within yourself. Life is simple, there's right and wrong, if it doesn't look right, it's not. Choose right and you gain positive energy, the quickest way to restore good energy is to help others. When you help others, they will be most gratefull of your kindest and lend you that powerful energy whick will move you in the upper relms of life. Because of Christ Victory.
2006-10-23 03:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by ken-k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need a reason?
Perhaps you're focusing too strongly on reason.
There is this little concept which some Nihilists like myself seem to appreciate known as Fabricated Self-Esteem. It depends on the realisation that life quality is dependant on self-esteem, and thus one can consciously attempt to maintain said self-esteem for its own sake.
In other words... if you know that being in a positive mood will actually increase the quality of your life and keep you healthy... that you will attempt to maintain a positive mood and self-opinion for its own sake and not dependant on any outside stimuli. In other words... being "happy" for its own sake... without any other cause.
Of course, there is another related way to deal with it, but I only recommend this if you are VERY strong-willed and not too easily confused... because it can completely rearrange your life:
Attitude rearrangement.
That is to say... if you can identify things which regularly cause you stress... you can forcefully convince yourself that this is a good thing, and that you're better off with these "issues"... You can make yourself feel better because these "issues" are happening. If engrained strongly enough, this can result in a counterbalancing positive mental boost when otherwise negative things happen...... a kind of enforced psychological masochism.
I partake of this last form myself... and it has worked, but there is a rather twisted side-effect: If you connect too strongly in this way, you can begin to lose any desire to achieve "genuine" positive influences and will gladly accept harmful influences instead. Of course, I personally don't mind or I would never have taken this route.... but some people might...
In any case... there aren't many ways you can effectively change your mind-state from a resounding negative to a positive. Often enough it will change on its own with time... But if you do wish to change it, your options lie essentially one of three ways:
#1. Enforced willpower... i.e. attitude readjustment... as I personally advocate.
#2. Drugs.
#3. Indirect willpower... i.e. participation in activities which will typically cheer you up. THIS is what most people would suggest, but it doesn't work half as efficiently as option 1.... and sometimes it can actually put you off doing those things.
Ultimately... the choice is yours.
Oh.... and one last thing:
Don't turn to religion. Its like taking out a loan... It gives short-term gratification, but messes you up in the long term.
2006-10-23 02:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt this way about 2 months ago.... I was thinking about ending it all ..... I would feel that inner sadness so deep that I can not shake it.... So I made appointment with a therapist... she recommended Anti-depressant..... It's already been a month that I have been taken Lexapro.... it help me tremendously..... Don't wait a long time before you take an action...... Depression is an illness and has nothing to do with will power....Get help before it's too late!
2006-10-23 03:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been like that for no reason at all. It could be harmonal or it could be because you are getting older and things dont seem as exciting as they were.
In any case, try not to harp on it, dont think about it all day long because the old you wont come back.
2006-10-23 03:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by chiara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My birthday was just last week and I too got very depressed right before my birthday. I think that birthdays remind us that time is passing and that maybe we are not accomplishing what we thought we would. Wait and see if your low moods improve after your birthday is over. Mine have. If not, go see your doctor about it.
2006-10-23 02:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope that your friends and familly will do their best to cheer you up! But - I understand you very well. I feel the same. Additionally, I have a lot of work to do and I just... sit doing nothing, I just can't , I'm hopeless...
In spite of all that : HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
(maybe you're just getting old?;)
2006-10-23 03:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lady G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be with people that u relay truly like,read some good books and meditate,pray when ever u can,find something that u really wanted to do for sometime and didn't have time for it.take professional help if need be their is no shame in it.
2006-10-23 02:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by knu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋