where do i start? I'm like 5mnths preg.. nd we dont use cd's with him. Just over the weekend i found a pack of condoms in his trouser pockets.. How does one explain this, he claims he meant for us to use them which i know is a pure lie.. gosh this is crazy!!
2006-10-23 02:14:33 · 26 answers · asked by nqosh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how old are you? 5 months pregnant and he's got condoms in his pockets? Not good...You don't need condoms when you are pregnant...
Perhaps he's busy trying out others....to notice what's going on around him...Tell him to be real and to stop lying....before your baby gets here....
That child will need 2 parents to thrive......
good luck.... be well...
2006-10-23 02:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe that he would leave condoms where you could find them if he was cheating, let alone an entire box! Was there any missing from the packet? have you found anymore? Time to have a bit of a search, car,draws and so on. He may have meant for you to use them after the baby is born? But I suppose at 5 months he is a little keen. Don't jump to conclusions, keep your eyes open and see if there are any changes to his routine. Good luck and best wishes for the baby.
2006-10-23 02:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by god 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with by making him a nice dinner. Then get out a photo album of you two together doing all the things you both love to do. Show him your happiness together. Show him real love.
Then tell him that you beleive he was planning to mess around and if he wants to do that then you and the baby won't be there with him. Remind him that child support and hardly ever seeing his baby will be a pain in the ___.
Tell him this is his one get out of divorce free card. If he wants to blow everything you have then he might as well sign the papers now and get it over with. If not, then keep it in his pants and wait for you to have that baby and get your fat body back to normal as soon as possible. Then once you are looking hot again, reward him for making a good decision. Be a good wife and hopefully he will be a good husband.
For the sake of your marriage and baby don't listen to all these women who just want to cut his testicles off and ruin the guy. We (men) are stupid about sex and are easily tempted. Give us a break once in a while and be cool about it. Just let him know where you stand and show him you can be forgiving but serious too.
Take it from a ex-husband and father who messed up everything for a hot young girl. Worth it? Nope... not at all.
2006-10-23 02:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by Roger S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess that your's not a marriage but friendship. The person will never feel any legal responsibility. Its the biggest mistake to start without proper marraige. Look, for him you are done, now he may be repeating same drama with an other one, after her preg. he will move to 3rd one and so on ~ the chain will continue. You came to know from condoms, if these were not there you will never know the truth.
2006-10-23 02:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy must think you were born yesterday...So ask him why has he kept a pack of condoms in his pants pockets for 5 months...and when did he intend on using them ? Since obviously he didn't use them with you! I guess now, he doesn't want to get anyone else pregnant. The answer is right in front of you...I'd think about a paternity test and move on and then have him for child support.
2006-10-23 02:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he has not worn those pants in over 5 months it means he is doing something with his penis that requires covering it in a rubber. You don't mention if the pack of condoms was opened or not, if it was opened it definitely shows he used them - if it is closed he may just have decided not to use a condom as he did with you. You need to take care of you and the baby and insure you are getting support from him. I would recommend not having sex with him again until you can both be tested, VD can be very harmful to your baby. Good Luck.
2006-10-23 02:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by mraandmisse 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say, he sounds like he wants to be a player. Any man carrying condoms is looking for action - or getting action. I'm so sorry you had to find this out while you're carrying your baby; you don't need any additional stress. But my take on the situation is that he's getting busy (or looking to) somewhere else. You may need to ditch him - if you can't trust him, then what have you got?
Good luck darlin - & congrats on your baby - that is one really great thing you have to look forward to!!! Focus on that - & take care of YOU.
p.s. - throw away the condoms; he doesn't need them with you, so why should you keep them around so he can use them with someone else? Make it difficult for him, why don'tcha?? lol
2006-10-23 02:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest to him and tell him that we don't use condoms so why do you have them. Ask him to his face and tell him how you feel, don't take lame excuses and tell him you wanna know the truth. Keep tabs and search for more dirt. Count the number of condoms he has in the box, research and ask him questions and maybe their is something to it.
2006-10-23 02:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
number one ,,,,,,,,,,keep count of the condoms if they dribble away start asking questions because it can mean he is hanky panking around
number two ,,,,,,,,, he caould be keeping them for after you had the baby and using them on you because maybe after the baby is born you and him maybe not be able to aforward t get condoms but I DOUBT IT
number three ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, talk to him about it and keep count of those condoms if you cant talk to him about it if the condoms dissapierce dissapier him because you deserve somone alot better than him if he tells you that he has hanky panky or you found out that the condoms are vanishing remember one thing once they hanky panky once they eill keep on doing it
GOOD LUCK I PE YOU CAN SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM
2006-10-23 02:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever stop to think that maybe he likes to use them as water balloons and drop them out the window at work? God, you people are all so damn suspicious.
2006-10-23 02:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋