Im twenty, and well I have had a problem with sex since I started engaging. I physically can have sex, and have no problems gettin horny or wet, but when it comes to actually havin sex, it is not a great experience. And its not the guys, but for me its very mechanical. I get no pleasure from it, but it does not hurt or anything either. So, I talked to a therapists and we explores some possible some reasons why, there were some issues in my childhood(i wasnt raped or anything like that), but now that I know why, I dont know how to fix the problem. I cant very well go and have sex with just some random guy to see if my problem is fixed now that I know the underlying cause, so what do I do? How do I know if i like sex now? And, if I dont, what are the odds of me have a healthy relationship, or any relationship at all, if I dont have sex, at all?
2006-10-23 02:08:38 · 7 answers · asked by ImAGoodGirl0605 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would suggest you masterbate, i think you need to experience a orgasm. The way i see it if your problem is due to childhood problems you need to stop thinking about it and think about your body being tuned in sexually, i mean what would be the purpose of having sex if you don't enjoy it or get what are supposed to get out of it. Look up or ask friends of ways of masterbating and see how it makes you feel. Sometimes you just make yourself feel better than anyone else can. Hope my answere helped.
2006-10-23 02:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ankit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find someone to release those hormones in you and the sex part will follow...
and random sex can be fun...no need to worry about "next" time... just go play and have fun....
sex is awesome under the right conditions....please find them and look for them....I would hate to think you missed out..
enjoy!!
be well...
2006-10-23 02:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to go to an adult shop and get toys to use when you are with your partner and try out new potitions and way that would help tons
2006-10-23 02:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do we tell you how to fix the problem if we don't know what it is?
2006-10-23 02:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you find the right guy, you will know it
2006-10-23 02:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will be the not so random guy
2006-10-23 02:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by tbear 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have sex more often.
2006-10-23 02:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋