We had a loving relationship... we did the most romantic things.... then after one argument he states its over!!! I have tried speaking to him to get answers so i can move on... he just goes off on one saying am harassing him... My heart won't let me forget. i keep thinking id I hadn’t argued that day... I feel I have ruined my life - well he said that when we broke you ruined it for yourself you don’t get a second chance.. He was perfect everything I wanted... now what do I do??? I know his not that perfect if he is reacting like a child.., but the thing is he felt like the one my soul mate.. We met by chance. We both live in different counties. But we are in the same profession! Are parents are mates.. it just fir into place that we were made for each other… (our parents don’t know that we met)
2006-10-23 02:07:08 · 20 answers · asked by apple 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I perfectly understand how you feel. Forgetting a freshly broken relationship is the most difficult thing to do. In your case, you are the giver of the real and genuine love. Too bad, you fall victim to someone who is not sincere. There are lots of them out there preying on weak girls. Hope you're not one of them.
Its always best to think positive.
Tell that guy: "you made me stronger by breaking my heart. You ended my life and made a better one start. You thought me everything form falling in love to letting go of a lie, I am not the losing end. I will survive even when you're gone."
It won't be easy to just forget the past but it always helps to keep yourself busy with the things you love and have foregone doing because you were with an asshole.
Open your heart too to a new beginning. The world wil never run out of men------better men rightfully cut for you.
Good luck!
2006-10-23 02:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was that perfect you would not have had an argument. If it was that perfect it wouldn't be over. And as you say if he was anything close to perfect he wouldn't be acting like a child. I am sorry and I don't know you well but from my own personal experiences it seems that he wanted out and this fight was his first excuse to get out. Many times you can think you are in love with someone and since you feel that way it must mean that they love you the same way back - but unfortunately sometimes we love them so much that all we feel are our own feelings bouncing back at us. I would make one more attempt at contact, a letter or email simply explaining that you are sorry for the results of the fight, that breaking up was not your intention and that you would like to know from him honestly what his reasons for ending the relationship were so you can move on.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 02:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by mraandmisse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never said what the argument was about, some are more serious than others.
He seems a little harsh, one strike and you're out.
You live in different countries, girl , find someone closer to home and maybe he won't look so perfect when you see each other everyday.
And why don't your parents know?? Seems you're keeping it a secret for a reason. Maybe this is his excuse so he won't have to tell mummy and daddy??
How to forget--meet someone else. Involve yourself in your job and try out new things.
2006-10-23 02:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it is going to hurt for a while, but you will eventually get pass it. Have you ever considered the fact that he might have picked a fight so that he could break up with you? No man is perfect or neither is any woman for that matter. Do not call him, do not write and do not go where he is. Get busy with your life and start dating again. You have had a very lucky excape. He is not your soul mate. He is immature and wants everything his own way.
2006-10-23 02:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by bettyswestbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand this, "We had a loving relationship... we did the most romantic things.... " but then you go on to say "We both live in different counties. But we are in the same profession! " May be you should have been in the same country with different professions.
2006-10-23 02:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by god 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what on earth did you say to the man to make him not want you so badly! Was he waiting for you to do something as an excuse to get out?
If you love him, patience....let him calm down... He may very well come back and see that he was rigid about this thing...or he may not....
I don't understand the whole thing as I don't know what you argued about...
about him being perfect...NO one is perfect...we all have flaws.... we are after all HUMAN..
good luck...be well...
2006-10-23 02:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget about him. He was looking for a reason to leave anyway cuz he left after ONE argument. There are plenty of better men. You may think this is the one, but honestly he's not or he would try to work it out..L.
2006-10-23 02:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by ben and lisa h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is what you do! Do things that you love to do, exercise, go out with friends or you can just chill at home and watch movies or read a book do anything that can get your mind off of him.
2006-10-23 02:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by jamaicaladydread 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop sweating it chicky. You have to get over it. There are some things in life that we just don't understand and this is one of them. He obviously doesn't want to speak to you. It might have felt like true love, but it wasn't. I am, however, truly sorry that your feelings were hurt like. It shouldn't happen to anyone.
2006-10-23 02:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is well bit I simply forgive and unwell by no means act the equal round them my mother used to hit ne while I was once three and I do not believe her I do some thing at the back of her again so I simply forgive however I additionally put out of your mind!
2016-09-01 01:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋