I am IN-Love with a woman who thinks I am a guy. I am a woman myself and we have been having an online relationship for a few months and as well as the phone. Last night we were talking and I said if I found out you were a guy Id still love you just to see her reaction and she kinda said the same thing. She did say she couldn't be with me because I had lied...but please note she had busted me before I showing her picture that she thought wasn't "me". I am just so in love but she is married and if she can't be with me because she is a woman she is willing to end her marriage for me as a guy but Im so confused because I don't know to tell her now or fly out to see her and tell her...Please help and please understand that I am so IN-Love with her we spend about 15000 minutes a month on the phone...what should I do??
2006-10-23 01:57:29 · 12 answers · asked by Just me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ouch.
She has already made her feelings clear. She no longer trusts you, she won't leave her husband for you, and she's not interested in a same-sex relationship.
It's done, it's over, and you can't change it. Sorry, but you will have to get over her. I know it feels impossible right now since you love her so much, but there isn't anything you can do. She feels pretty betrayed right now, and you can't fix that since you did lie to her about something that is a plain fact. You can't turn yourself into a man, and she won't turn into a lesbian for you either. You can't change what happened, all you can do is go on with your life. I just suggest that you are be smarter about the next relationship.
The next time you begin an on line relationship, be honest about your gender. Lying is never a good way to start things off. You will also have a better chance of finding true love if the woman feels the same as you about sexuality. There is nothing wrong with homosexuals, so don't be ashamed to try lesbian dating sites or chat rooms. There is a whole world of women who feel the same as you, and they won't shun you for who you are.
http://dir.yahoo.com/Society_and_Culture/Cultures_and_Groups/Lesbian__Gay__Bisexual__and_Transgendered/Lesbians/
2006-10-23 02:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....you started this relationship off with a lie. Your really a girl
and she thinks your a guy. And now you find out she is married, not single. Both of you should quit while your ahead. Everything
should change now because she has a husband. Stay away from
her. Move on .
2006-10-23 09:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Crap. You lying, cheating, miserable person. She's married, obviously not a nice person since she's chatting it up with you, guess that makes you guys even.
You are a woman pretending to be a guy. I would have one word for you, ok, maybe that would be two. FO
Tell her over the phone or internet, who cares. You're both liers, be sure and mention that, it aughta help.
2006-10-23 09:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things here I see as wrong. One you lied and you cant really expect to have a solid relationship that was started on a lie. Two the lady is married. Stop now.
2006-10-23 09:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two Problems
1. Shes married you need to respect peoples marriage if not when you find that some one they will end up cheating because you get what you give
2. are you ashamed of who you are it sounds like it to me because if you weren't you would have been upfront about yourself.
I believe that everyone deserves to be happy and no one has ever been happy building on a lie. try honesty yes its hard but that's what makes the reward soo precious
2006-10-23 09:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is too messed up. Your relationship is online, so if you lied about something like your gender, what is real between you?
She is also married...
I think you should try. But understand the odds of she being with you are very very low.
2006-10-23 09:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by Cass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is obvious that you two get along great, that is not the issue.
She is attracted to men, you are not a man. You can't ask her to be gay, and she can't ask you to be a man.
Plus, how would you feel if she lied about being a woman?
2006-10-23 09:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its youre choice to take advice or not but my advice to you is this
if you are really in love with her as they are you then tell her now it might end it it might not you wont know unless you act on it i guess but it would save youre heart a lot of ache if ya just come clean trust me it really does help to be honest about things like this
2006-10-23 09:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by mustang_rws 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was into chicks she wouldn't be chatting to what she thought was a guy. No matter how much you love her, she likes d*cks.
2006-10-23 09:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, you shouldn't have lied. Hind sight is 20/20.
2006-10-23 09:02:13 · answer #10 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋