He said we can be together, but we can't be in love, cause he has 2 marry a woman from his town. I agreed to that, but i'm in love with him now. He likes me as he say, but he can't love me cause of his traditional background. He admits i made changes in his life too. What can i do? He will definately leave me in the future if i go on with him, i leave now, i will be devastated! Trapped! Pls help.
2006-10-23 01:49:34 · 15 answers · asked by Linda J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love will find a way. Even if it means he will turn against tradition. Pray hard and have faith that God will show you both your true love, even if it's not each other.
2006-10-23 01:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry you are in this situation, but any wounds are self-inflicted. You have to know by now that this was doomed and if not, your agreement to love a man who was promised to another should have been your first hint.
You have to be a big girl and let him go. The tough part for you will probably be when he calls you up in a few years...a few months....or a few days, wanting a "little on the side." Be forewarned: if you don't get free of this now, the painful pattern will just continue and YES, it does get worse as time goes on.
2006-10-23 08:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that doesn't make sense. ur worth more than having part of him. u deserve the whole lot. love hurts. and sometimes if u love someone the best thing u can ever do is to let go. and letting go may feel like the hardest thing u will ever do in ur entire life. but these circumstances leave u with pretty much nothing to work with. he has to marry someone from his background and thats wat he has to do. it is soooo god dam hard but sweety tradition is everything to some people. elope if u want. if its meant to work it happen. and thats hard to accept i noe. everything is easier said than done. im so sorry ur in this situation.
2006-10-23 08:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by pOppY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, you can end it, deal with the hurt and get over it in a little time or you can stay with him, drag it out and continuely hurt? Think about it. You are not trapped by him, you are trapped by your own mind.
2006-10-23 09:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Devastation for the coming near time is better than a life time of secondary appreciation. Drop him there are better gus outthere
2006-10-23 08:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him forget there is much much better thing in your life to come ahead .. all I can see you in is a devastating conditions begging him for some self respect in near future .. if you dont deserve it then dont go for it ...
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Sameer
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2006-10-23 08:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont leave him. you can break the rules by love. If you really love him you then you can break the rules.
Try to convince him. Im sure you will do it.
think he is yours, iy would give you enough strength to doing that.
Dont be disappointed, because this way you just will be a loser.
2006-10-23 08:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get yourself out of this mess. Find someone that
you can have a future with.
2006-10-23 08:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave now and take the good times and keep them in your heart
2006-10-23 08:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear, he's leaving you anyways
so just leave him now,and don't waste your time
2006-10-23 08:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋