I am older than my boyfriend by 15 years and my sex drive has always been high, can't get enough, but my BF will settle for about once a week, if that!! He says my sexuality intimidates him. We have been together for 2 years, and I love him because he is so sweet and kind, but I am always left frustrated because he refuses to learn anything new or use toys. He says I am perverted and won't talk about it, so what can I do to save this relationship???
2006-10-23 01:47:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's normal and if he can't keep up then move on and find someone more your speed. If he really loves you he will keep up.
2006-10-23 01:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to say that I don't see a light at the end of the tunnel for you and your boyfriend. It's a simple fact of incompatibility. Too many people believe that sex is not a significant part of a relationship, and perhaps it's not as important as factors like, love, understanding, caring, attention and communication.....but let's face it, if the sexual relationship is not up to par, and neither of you is completely satisfied....the relationship is skating on very thin ice. We all have needs, and in your particular case it involves a highly evolved libido. The fact that your bf says you're perverted shows not only that he is also frustrated, but also that he is on another level of understanding and beliefs with regards to what an acceptable sexual relationship should be. Although I personally think that the words he uttered were of a cruel nature, and should never be said to a loved one; nonetheless, I don't see that anyone is wrong in their beliefs and feelings......it's simply that you and he do not have the same sexual compatibility. I suggest you count your costs, and move on to the next phase of your life....Single Life. If the love you have for this person is stronger than the sexual needs, you might need to ask yourself "why" you need to engage in sex so frequently? Where is the need rooted? If that intropective search does not find anything significant, the only chance the relationship has is for the two of you have a serious hear to heart conversation and negotiate the amount of sex and type of sex that will be acceptable to both of you. I hope it works out for you.
Best of Luck!
2006-10-23 02:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ralph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be aroused is flawlessly typical and at your age Its typical. It is not a foul factor to get aroused plenty. Since your each every others first, you havn't fairly skilled emotions or being with the reverse intercourse earlier than. I advocate you might talk to him approximately the problem, or wait and the way the connection progresses. But severely, I advocate you wait till you like the character and you recognize the connection will paintings earlier than having intercourse or whatever. Yeah different couples have had intercourse a couple of months in to a dating, however those are humans that experience already had intercourse and such. First time could also be principal to you, or yous each. You can both experience it slow in combination after which whilst it occurs it occurs. Just make certain your able for it, and hes able for it. But do not do it since the opposite ones able. Fooling round with every different is ok I believe. I used to do those matters with my ex like two-four months right into a dating. we most effective fooled round with every different till approximately nine months into the connection once we ended up doing it. Just wait and notice how your dating is going, wait a couple of months and so. If he asks you for sexual stuff and that then say, I suppose its too early on within the dating. & if he respects that then well. your relationships excellent. wish this helped.
2016-09-01 01:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG he must be gay. He only wants it once a week if that? Beware of the closet door asd he will be coming out.
There is nothing wrong with your sex drive and nothing wrong with wanteing to try new things and introducing toys. He should be happy to have found a women as you who is open about her sexuality and willing to try and do noew things.
Sex is an important part of any relationship and I find it hard to believe that you are going to salvage it when the both of you seem so different
2006-10-23 01:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I feel bad for you, masturbating & playing with toys by yourself eventually starts getting boring & you will start getting attracted to someone. I like the answer of giving your boyfriend sex enhancing foods, sooner or later you will know what to do, don't be surprised if your relationship doesn't go too far. Let him know how important sex is to you this way he doesn't have any excuses if you decide to tell him bye bye. I'm the same way & went through the same thing.
2006-10-23 02:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by newcastle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I think your normal. I think you should find someone that can express the same needs and excitement as you do for the love of sex. Me I could have sex 5 times a day, I also love to explore new things. Ever in the California area let me know I love to experiment.
2006-10-23 01:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by losman762003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you're going through the same thing I did with my wife. However, it's the norm for men to have a higher sex drive then women. Your situation is unusual. Doesn't want to experiment sexually or try new positions? Sounds like your boyfriend is a dumb-as$ to me.
2006-10-23 01:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by Coz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I would love to help you out. Variety is the spice of life. Ask him to do more or let you invite more men in. You are an adult and if you feel you need it and want it then do it. Sex is the best.
2006-10-23 02:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by frank f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't save it, leave it... you sound like a normal person and I've never heard of an intimidated man on that front! Nothing perverted with you... what's his problem?
2006-10-23 01:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you need to be real pervy then .. show him what it is like when you really be a perv ... well I would see as an individual you are all OK .. regarding you being pervert will really need to taste how pervy you really are...:D :P
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2006-10-23 01:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋