Cutting....HELP FOR MY FRIEND.?

Question

My friend, Cuts, really bad.
And she's always emailing me saying like "Im at it again, HELP"
And I try.
But she wont stop.
And I dont wanna like tell a teacher.
But she needs to get help.
And she says she doesnt need help.
But she does.
Really bad.
So wat should I do?

Answer 1

Well, speaking from experience. If she's cutting herself, there is something major going on in her life. Something she doesn't know how to deal with. What I would do if I were you, is to go to a counselor and just ask them some ways to help someone in that situation, but of couse, don't tell them anything about her. Just get general information. If that doesn't help, you have to tell someone. No matter hard it may be. You're not being a bad friend if you do. She'll thank you in the long run.

Answer 2

Your friend is cutting herself in an effort to rid herself of some sort of emotional pain. This you already know. But what people often do not recognize is that it can be very dangerous, and is usually a precursor to a suicide attempt. Your friend may seem fine some of the time, even completely 'normal', but there will come a time for her when cutting is not enough to ease the pain, and she may do something more harmful. My question is, why wouldn't you want to tell a teacher to help your friend? Or a school counselor, or a trusted parent, maybe yours or a mutual friend's parents? Even an older sibling? She has chosen you to reach out to and talk to about this. If you can't do anything to help her, then as her friend, you must help her before she does something so harmful that she can't come back from it.

Answer 3

She has been forced to like what she wasn't ready for. She went into psychosis after depression and that started the lower brain reversing signals to the upper brain. Now the pain of cutting feels good for a second or two. Another type of Depression from being shunned as an outcast is different and never goes away but a cutter after twenty years will live. Cutters do struggle with depression later on as expectations almost never become true to life . Note... the Russian girls dont cut. They pull their hair out.

Answer 4

Let me tell you this she needs help. I used to cut also and when I ended up in the hospital i had over 200 cuts on my body. Luckily most of the physical scars have healed. Cutters cut for 2 reasons either 1 attention or 2 they can't deal with the pain and this is the release. If you don't get her help she could cut to deep or get infections. She really needs to get the help so she can stop and find other solutions for the cutting.

Answer 5

This may sound a little cruel, but I'm speaking as someone who worked in mental health for 4 years. If she isn't making cuts that will actually harm her (excessive bleeding) and/or she is putting them on visible places on her body - ignore her. She's wanting attention and by giving it to her, you are just encouraging her behavior. True cutters will inflict a lot of pain on themselves and in places not visible to others.

Don't freak and don't baby her. She will come out better for it.

Answer 6

Your friend appears to be in a lot of pain. It is not normal under any circumstances to hurt yourself. If you are cool with her mother speak to her mom, if not speak to a counselor at school. She needs a medical professional. I know that you are concerned about your friend but she is hurting you too, because she is involving you in something that is painful and making you sort of responsible for her. Please I urge you to seek professional help. Take Care. Be strong. And tell her whatever is bothering her that she needs to talk about it. She may experience relief from cutting herself, but she could end up causing herself serious damage or even DEATH.

Answer 7

You MUST tell someone!

Cutters say that cutting is a "release" and granted, it may well be for them. HOWEVER, it is obviously not a good way to handle stress/pressures, etc.

You need to tell someone. Whether it be a teacher, guidance counsellor or a parent. Obviously you are reluctant to tell a teacher, so maybe you should talk to your parents for guidance.

Your friend calls you for "HELP" - telling someone will HELP her get the PROFESSIONAL help she needs.

Answer 8

Listen, you have to tell someone.

I have been cutting for almost 9 years now. I wish I had gotten help sooner.
The longer she goes without help - the harder it will be to stop in the future.

Be there for her, and tell her you care. Read up on the disorder and how her you know what's going on. You need to find her help before things get worse. Trust me, they can.

Good luck.
If you have any questions, please email me - I'd love to help out. <3

Answer 9

http://www.selfinjury.com/


They know what they are talking about at this site. You must tell someone. You sound like you are probably in your teens and you dont want to be the one to "tell on" your friend. But you MUST. You need to get this information to someone who knows how to handle these situations. A teacher, school nurse, counsler or principal. Good luck and get her help.

Answer 10

You have to tell someone before it gets worse.

I can see the problem is one of loyalty - you don't want to tell on your friend and maybe get her in trouble. She won't get in trouble. Sometimes being a friend means saying or doing something they don't want you to. In the long run, she'll probably thank you.