It would be our first time (we're both virgins) and I want it to be really special, but not pressure him. Any romantic ideas?
2006-10-23 01:23:48 · 36 answers · asked by jowigley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would suggest you stay in - somewhere you are both comfortable and won't be disturbed. Have a nice meal- few- not too many glasses of wine. And the let him know you want to get intimate- do something fun - like shower each other - or have a bath together. The rest should follow- If not it will happen soon . Don't get too romantic- it might stress him out - take your time. It should be a fun night for you both.
2006-10-23 01:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by hugh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't drink and follow Kim Y's advice. Candles are great because they are calming and you can use different scents, they make everyone look amazing, and they are very romantic. A nice nightie/lingerie is good, but won't stay on for very long. To minimize discomfort, tease each other a lot before you actually have sex, it won't hurt as much (or at all) if you are really excited, honestly!
DO NOT DRINK. The last thing you want to do is puke all over him, or have to run to the bathroom. It won't help to calm your nerves, you can do that just by kissing a lot beforehand.
DON'T RUSH either. The actual sex may be over quickly, but the build up should be slow, so you are really ready.
HAVE FUN! If anything embarrassing happens, laugh it off. Neither of you will really focus on it then.
2006-10-23 01:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! What's with the chloroform and ropes? Not all guys are into S&M. Some of us are romantic too and may enjoy normalcy in our seduction. Surely you can come up with better scenarios.
Don't rule out the raincoat trick (nothing underneath), I think it is the greatest if paired with a secluded outdoor location on a lake or river, weather permitting. Kind of like Adam and Eve. He will never forget it, I never have. Enjoy.
P.S. A rainy day at a rural lake will work fine. Don't forget a nice bottle of wine and some warm towels for later.
2006-10-23 01:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by Puppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A home cooked meal and a few glasses of wine. Soft lighting and low music. How about a real fire (if possible) too... Wear something sexy but not too ott. Do you want him to know if advance or it to be a surprise? Be prepared with condoms as if you get in the mood you won't want to stop! Good luck and just remember - there is no pressure - when you are BOTH ready it will happen. Hope it goes well for you and you enjoy.
2006-10-23 01:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not know your age and my answers will differ depending on age. If you are a teen---WAIT. There is no rush. If you are an adult----good for you for waiting. Don't worry about seducing him--he should be doing the work and making sure YOU feel special. What is with all you women so worried about giving yourself away. It doesn't work...HE has to want YOU. Maybe, since you are so worried about making this special, he is just not into you. Good Luck
2006-10-23 01:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by laughterisbettertogether 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the best massage in the world. Run your hand thru is hair and paly with it. Kiss him gently but don't give him a long passionate kiss yet. Keep him longing for more. Bet ya..he will come asking for more when you are done.And also always remember that a way through a man's heart is thru is stomach. Therefore, cook him a good meal before doing the above. Try it and good luck and i bet you won't regret it :)
2006-10-23 01:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by annaliza_257 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you can use you imagination! Just take you time and make sure it is what you both want - and if it does not all go according to some great romantic plan - then just laugh - because that is life and sex, and it is sometimes not predictable. If yo make too much effort I bet he will feel pressured - just be natural and yourselves.
2006-10-23 01:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first time was good No candles or music though. But if it with someone you care about and trust then you wont remember the little details. Just the intimate stuff.
Why not think of things to make YOU comfortable and horny, Im sure he'l get the idea: )
have fun: )
2006-10-23 02:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by nycgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect much for the first time. I would say that spontaneity is the best solution for first time seduction - make it something he'll remember because it was risque and unexpected. You can do the whole candles and lingerie thing later when you're both comfortable with the whole thing.
2006-10-23 01:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by gromitski 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly make sure you both are old enough. Remember that men are visual. The more revealing you look without being naked will suduce him. Smell good, touch him lightly and let nature take it's course. Again men loe to look. For sexual ideas go to Ivillage.com and there is alot of good info for women.
2006-10-23 01:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by proof1958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋