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I have a few questions concerning this. Do people think that only the religious abstain from sex before marriage? This user states “i mean think about it, sleeping wiv every guy u go out with" In my answer I said;
"I don't know if I should be offended by your comment. I'm an Atheist and I do NOT sleep with every guy I meet. It's called having self respect and morals.
I know PLENTY of Christians that sleep around and many non-christians that choose to wait til marriage. Religion has nothing to do with it!!!!"
Why is it that non religious people are viewed with less morals because they don't believe in God? I know many MANY Christians that sleep around and I know many MANY Non-Christians that are saving themselves for marriage!
Why do people make this distinction? How does having faith in God automatically give you better morals than others?
2006-10-23 01:20:38 · 18 answers · asked by ηιgнт ѕтαя 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
what george?
I agree whole heartedly Sharon
2006-10-23 01:25:43 · update #1
Steph, I thank you for your comment. It was very nice. Truth be told I have only slept with one person and I have been with that one person for almost 5 years. I believe in sharing something like that with someone you TRUELY love and not Joe Schmoe you met in a bar.
2006-10-23 01:41:10 · update #2
I'll be perfectly honest with you, you are the first non-Christian I've met who believed in saving oneself for marriage. Maybe I don't hang out with very moralistic people. I say, good for you. It's a very hard thing with today's pressures to remain true to such a vow.
Don't get too angry with people who ask about Christianity and sex before marriage. More often then not, they are trying to find a way to excuse themselves for a desire they want to repress. The pressure to please the person you are with is normally high. THe current guy I"m seeing wants to have sex. THough he swears he respects my choices, he always starts talking about going with my feelings and just doing it.
For some, chastity until marriage is a religious decision. For you, it seems to be more of a moral decision. OUr society pushes sex. Sex sells. We, as a people, want to be sexy and desirable and give in to the pressure. We think that (as a woman) he won't love us if we say no. For people like you or me, saying no and waiting until marriage is a dying breed. Religion or no.
2006-10-23 01:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by sister steph 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian and I have met people who are Christians who sleep around and people who are not who don't sleep around. I think that the difference here is commitment to abstain from sex until marriage. Some people are commited to that and some are not. Morality doesn't automatically come with Christianity any more than it is automatic in the non-Christian world. However, if a Christian is sincere in their commitment to God and His Word, they will be moral. But many people are moral who are not Christian....because they see the benefits of leading a moral life.
2006-10-23 01:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by mynickname 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Religion has something to do with it, if only because they perpetuate that arbitrary standard. And, I agree, there are people on both sides of the religious fence who either abstain or not.
However, religious people that do abstain tend to do so because someone spoon-fed that belief to them. And religious people who don't probably feel some guilt for going against their spoon-feeding. They frequently can't even tell you what is good and bad about having sex before marriage without resorting to "God said so" as a default.
Atheists, on the other hand, tend to actually think about the pros and cons of doing something. Sure, many still succumb to the passion of the moment. However, they are still more used to figuring out their reasons for what they should do or not do.
2006-10-23 01:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by nondescript 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I wasn't raised with Christian beliefs by any means, but both my parents taught me that it was wrong to hurt others, and to be kind to everyone I met and not judge others.. morals have nothing to do with religion. I was taught your basic moral beliefs and teachings without having religion involved. My parents said it was just moral sense. As for sex before marriage, it's completely up to the person. Kudos to those who choose that, but don't condemn those who do (not saying you do, that was just a general statement). Sex is a very natural act that we humans keep forgetting about. If anything, sex is THE most natural act we can endure. Anywho, back to your question, having faith in God doesn't automatically give you better morals than others. As long as you're kinda to others and help others and whatnot, who cares what you believe in?
2006-10-24 10:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by chicyuna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think too many people who say they're Christians think they can ignore the "big picture" of what they say they believe and just bend the rules a little bit so they can get away with a tiny little sin. Does that make it right or make them any better? Or to ask this another way, can someone call themselves a Christian but not live the way God asks them to live and still be considered a Christian? I think the answer is an obvious, resounding NO.
I'm sorry that you've seen some bad examples of people claiming to follow Jesus but whose actions haven't followed their words. Even though you don't believe in God, please understand that there are plenty of people out there who are true Christians and who are truly seeking to know the God they (and I) believe exists. The ones who are really seeking Him will stand out as stellar examples of the way Jesus called us to live. And as for the ones just pretending to follow Jesus, don't waste your time with them. Feel free to drop me a line at chad@jesusfreak.com if you'd like.
2006-10-23 01:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by Pastor Chad from JesusFreak.com 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it is not just those who are religious who choose not to have sex before marraige. It just so happens that the majority who do choose such an absurd thing are religious in some-way.
In answer to your question...
This belief is perpetuated by those who are already religious. The kind of 'bible bashers' who try to make us believe that without God we are damned to hell. It exists because of religious propeganda. For many many hundreds of years we have been taught to fear God, and that to live without him is to live in Sin.
Attitudes today are obviously different, but the stain of that belief is still around. Just like racism and sexism, it takes along time for stigma like this to wash away. We are only just beggining to move away from Religion, the majority still follow some diety or another...So long as there is a God, there will be those who feel the need to damn others, if only to make themselves feel better because they "KNOW" they've earned their place in heaven.
2006-10-23 01:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by dirty_class 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You make an excellent point. I would ask where morals actually come from. Is it a product of evolution or from God, the highest authority?
2006-10-23 01:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by RB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I know many people that claim to be religious and are morally disgusting. I see that here on Yahoo Answers as well.
2006-10-23 01:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
everyone has morals no matter what they believe or do not believe. many of these decisions depend upon an individuals personal view point and not necessarily a religious one.
2006-10-23 01:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No of course I do not believe that only Christians abstain from sex before marriage, I also do not believe that all Christians do this.I do however believe that we Christians should wait. ANyone can have morals.
2006-10-23 01:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋