Cherish your kids when they are young because they grow up so fast!My kids are rotten, and they drive mr crazy!I want them to get older so thet can mellow out.At least then there will be peace and and quiet!Am i the only one that honestly feels this way?Don't write about how i shouldn't have had kids,because i love them,but sometimes i feel overwelmed.
2006-10-23 01:11:13 · 21 answers · asked by No Name Joe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have a 12 month old and 3 1/2 yr old girl,and a 13 yr old boy!So i hit all the whiney ages for kids ,and then there is puberty,Lord help me!
2006-10-23 01:34:32 · update #1
lol...being overwhelmed by children is a very normal occurrence, and any honest parent will admit that at times there kids can be hand fulls...
My only suggestion is to make sure the good outweighs the bad and try to think of every smile and hug they give you as a gift sent from god...hopefully that will make up for them smashing your great grandmothers crystal bowl...but if not...then take a deep breath and count to ten...and pray to god that someone out there has it worse than you...and if that doesn't reassure you then try setting up a slave labour camp in your back garden...every time they stress you or peeve you off make them do yard work...lets face it...even if it doesn't get done at least they are out of your hair for an hour...take some time out and dump them with the hubbie or an unsuspecting friend...then run as fast as you can and dont come back for 3 hours...go pamper yourself and come back a fresh woman ready to face the battle...
Hope this helps.
2006-10-23 01:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No kid can be exactly rotten. Remember they are kids not eggs so first of all learn to believe that there is something good in every human being. U love ur kids but u feel they're rotten because they don't listen 2 u or perhaps they're not good 2 u. If u want them 2 be ur "dream kids" first try and analyze what they want from u. Learn 2 give them happiness come close 2 them, understand their problems and give them advice as to how they should solve it. Try and be friendly with them, especially if they're teenagers. Don't act like a know it all and never ever underestimate them or shun them away. Do something to make them love u and the best way of doing that is to take care of their small happiness. But do not give them everything they want if they do not need it. Just strike a balance, don't ever be rude because that creates a distance between a parent- child relationship. Make them fell happy in ur presence, show ur affection by little gestures of love or whatever. Try and talk to them politely. If they make a mistake then explain to them what went wrong and whatever u do HOLD ON TO UR TEMPER. Don't nag ur children and bother them always cause they do need some space.
P.S.: Don't trust anyone who tells u that u should't have had kids
because they're the loviest things on Earth and they're God's most precious gifts. Trust me.
2006-10-23 08:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is the down side to motherhood, and then there is the pay-off side...which makes it all worth while. Yeah, kids are definately hard to deal with every single day. I have 3 young children all under 5. Some days are better than others. Some days my kids are screaming and arguing and wrestling, which drives me crazy. Then there are those days when they look up at you with their innocent little face and ask the cutest question, or just tell you they love you. To hear my kids say, "I love you, mommy" is the best pay-off. I guess they say it b/c before you know it, they are adults, and you are wondering how their childhood blew by so quickly.
2006-10-23 09:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would honestly never say that you shouldn't have had kids!!
I know that my mother is the same way... she had 4... I left home 2 years ago and now the second one is out next year... but still two young ones... even though my mother loves us all, she does get annoyed sometimes, and that was the same thing that had happened when I was young, but she just kept going because she loved having us around... here is what she did tell me though, she said that even though we drove her nuts, and she wanted us to grow up and get out, she misses the headaches and stuff that we caused her... she also always calls me up and tells me to come back because she misses me too much and wishes that I was young again... Overwelming feeling is natural... but I am pretty sure that every mom feels this way and then misses it when they grow up... good luck and get a baby sitter to watch them one night, just so then you can have "your time..."
2006-10-23 08:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 1 year old and 4 year old boys, and somedays I feel like they're out to get me. lol, but then I remember that they're just little kids and on top of that, they're curious little boys. They want to know how everything works and why.. and they're so active.. They never sit down, they're never quiet, they don't do anything they're told.. and at the end of the day, I always wonder why I'm still alive.
I want them to grow up and mellow out a little bit too.. calm down, chill out.. get a girlfriend and leave me alone. Cherish your kids because they grow so fast my ***..
But then I think that when they are 15 and mellowed out a little bit, it's only going to be a few short years until they're gone. And I'm going to miss all those things that drive me crazy.. like being the one to tell them why catepillars have all those legs and that they turn into butterflies, picking up the pieces of the radio they just tore apart because they wanted to see how it worked and thinking " They may have just broke ANOTHER radio, but they're learning, and they're so smart."
And when they do grow up a little bit, to the age where they've chilled out a little bit.. they're not going to let me cuddle with them when they're sick anymore, they're not going to let me kiss them, they're not going to hold my hand when they cross the street.. I'm not going to have my little boys anymore.
So, yeah, I feel the way you feel.. all the time, but I also know that there are so many things I love about them at this age that I don't want to see go away. And that's what keeps me from giving them to the highest bidder.
2006-10-23 08:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by Imani 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have an 11 yr old, a 2 1/2 yr old and a 6 month old. There are times when I just want to rip my hair out too!!! It seems like they get together and plan on being the biggest pains all at the same time!! Sounds like you need some "Mommy time"!! When you feel like that, try the old "count to ten, deep breathing" method, and regroup. Sometimes it helps, other times not. Just try not to take it out on them!
2006-10-23 08:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by twopeas03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say it to me a lot also. I always felt the same way you did. They're right though. My kids are now 9,7 &5 and I miss them being babies. I can't have that back. I didn't care about it then. So now I embrace the ages they are now. Yes, it drives one crazy and is overwhelming... but so were we as kids. :) I am an impatient person who NEEDS peace and quiet because of my work, it's a rarity that I get any, so I do understand that also. Take some deep breaths. You can't escape parenting. haha
2006-10-23 08:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by dellamonster 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had my first yet (but will in a few weeks) but I know the feeling...I've had roommates with little kids...and of course got stuck on baby duty, and had to deal with them even though they weren't mine. I think you probably just need a break for a day or two...see if grandma or grandpa will take them for a day. But if you have a roommate and decide to take a break, don't put it off on them. When you come home you'll have cranky kids and a cranky roommate...same goes with a husband. Kids are rotten most of the time, and taking a break lets you appreciate the not-rotten parts a little better.
2006-10-23 08:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mandi R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would agree that you should cherish your kids while they are young. With the wide range of ages you have, you haven't had time to cherish them. I have a teenager, one going thru puberty and 4 yr old foster child. I know what you are going thru, I try to cherish them...but sometimes I find myself saying...is it 8 o'clock yet...( 4 yr olds bedtime )...at least a little piece and quiet before we go to bed.!
2006-10-23 09:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart being moma is the hardest job in the world, and the pay and benefits are not always the best.It is very stressful when they don't seem to appreciate the things you do for them.Talk to a family member such as your mom if possible and let them know that you need a break, you need some me time. Time to change your ways before you crack-up. Make a schedule for your kids and reward them when they follow it, be sure and include some me time for youself.
p.s. pat yourself on the back for hanging in there, for without you they will not survive
2006-10-23 08:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by jessica jones 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋