We see each other about every two weeks (one on one), (live in seperate towns), txt each other practically everyday, tell each other everything, says shes not interested in anyone at all or on the pull, would rather meet me, even though made plans with mates etc...
Where/when does the 'friendship line' start to be crossed (without kissing)?
Any signs she would give that she's starting to feel uncomfortable?
Any signs she has feelings?
How can I tell if I'm being used by her?
2006-10-23 00:58:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is there any way to find out if there is the potential for the friendship to develop into something more? (without talking to her,scared of ruining friendship!)
2006-10-23 01:04:54 · update #1
I have spoken to her about it possibly going further, but she says we'll just remain close friends, but yet she does everything I've mentioned above. Any explanations?
2006-10-23 01:19:45 · update #2
What are differences between friendship feelings and romantic feelings?
p.s. she does get annoyed when I mention girls that have caught my attention....
2006-10-23 01:28:32 · update #3
be careful that you dont read too much into this friendship!
I have a male friend and we help each other out quite alot. We go out drinking together, he visits me most nights when i'm not seeing my fella, we text each other regularly, etc. But he knows its only as friends and nothing else will develop between us although he would like it to.
He knows how far he can go, i.e. with comments and remarks!!!
Basically, if you're still in touch with her and she's still happy to meet up with you then she obviously aint uncomfortable with situation. As for feelings, as i said dont get friendship feelings mixed up with romantic feelings, you have to judge whether she acts differently with you know than before! As for, is she using you, depends if she only wants to meet up when she wants something. Only you can answer this unless you give more information on why you think she may be using you! You're obviously questioning this and think she maybe otherwise you wouldnt have asked the question!
2006-10-23 01:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mizz Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I guess you only cross over the friendship line if you two kiss or get intimate.
my best friend is a guy and like you - we text every day chatting and catching up on the news.
Ive never felt uncomfortable around him so not sure what the signs are.
Signs she has feelings I guess would be if she gets jealous or odd when you mention other women. Is she over possessive of you?
As for the being used - I dont think shes using you if she'd be prepared to blow out her mates in favour of meeting you and stuff.
however - unless she has made it blatantly obvious that she is into you as more than a friend I wouldnt worry about it - you could just be stressing over nothing! xx
2006-10-23 01:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry mate! I can't answer that for you! You'll need a female to answer that one 'cos I don't understand the buggers! I had a female friend like that once! She was gorgeous and we'd been friends for ages and the signals etc were exactly as you and your female buddy! We went for a few drinks and she came back to mine for coffee! We chatted for hours and it got reaslly late. I asked her if she wanted to stay and she agree. She went to the loo and then went into my room - I went to brush me teeth and knocked on my bedroom door to get my clock. I said I'd sleep on the sofa. She said "don't be silly! We're mates!" I thought that was fair enough. I pulled the quilt back to find she was totally naked. We had a little bit of a cuddle and I started kissing her neck - and caressing her! She noticed that I was enjoying this - if ye know what I mean!!!! OOOOOPS!! I haven't seen her for two years! It's caused me so much anguish! Be careful mate! You might lose a good friend - or gain a great lover! It's risky! Just ask her and see how she responds!
2016-03-28 04:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to generalize. Each couple will have a different shade of behavior. Only if there is some degree of interest, will the partners mutually agree to meet. It will start with formal platitudes. Meaningless talk about weather, local problems and finally international political situation are likely discussion subjects if both are educated and well-informed.Over co fee mutual likes, dislikes,family backgrounds are likely to be discussed. Holding of hands is next during stroll or walk in the park. If she does not accept any favor from you and insists on sharing expenses repeatedly you can be sure she does not want to use you. It is possible to discern her feelings for you if look in to her eyes.
2006-10-23 01:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all the signs are there that this goes a little further than a friendship on her part but how do you feel about her, you didn't mention that once and as relationships are a two way street it doesn't count on her feelings alone!
2006-10-23 01:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by punkyboygirl_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
USED FOR WHAT? She is being your friend. The only problem I see is if YOU are wanting more then friendship and if that is the case you should make it known now before you are left in the friend zone and she starts telling you about the wonderful guy she meet.
2006-10-23 01:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by Label Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to start a relationship with this girl (which sounds like), just tell her that you like her, and want to know her more.
Or be more clear and tell her that you want to be with her.
I think just guessing on signs are waste of your presious time. I'm not sure when did you meet her first, but if this was going on for months, you should start to make the move, cuz it's mostly the guys job to do so.
2006-10-23 01:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever tried asking her if you two are as close as you say?
Only you can read her body language.Do you want things to go further,and are hopeing she feels the same, or are you uncomfortable with the idea? Talk to her!! If she is such a good friend, she'll tell you the truth.good luck
2006-10-23 01:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly child. She has feelings or she wouldn't be investing so much time communicating with you.
Trouble is, she is communicating with her fantasy boy. If you were being used, you would be going out of your way to accomadate her needs. That is not happening.
Just meet her, and quit wasting all our time... let us know that you two are good friends, now...
2006-10-23 01:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u a guy, do u fancy her?, sounds like she might like you, depends if you feel the same way, let her know either way how you feel, and im sure she will tell you too, if yu do get serious make sure you dont ruin a good friendship
2006-10-23 01:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋