shes 18 and has a 7 week old son by someone else
2006-10-23 00:52:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Nice to see your daughters comments to your question.
To your Daughter Sami. My advice would be to be yourself that way they will see the person that love's their son. Your journey as a parent is just begining. They should understand that at least. If they for some reason decide that your not good enough for thier son. Remeber your boyfriend already choose to be with you already knowing you have a baby. That is what counts. For all you know they might like you and you cant stand them it works both ways. Just be true to your self and that way no one can take it away from you. Here is something to think about just how many hours are they going to spend in your life I mean face to face. Not many at a guess its not like you going to be with them 24/7.
2006-10-26 09:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by wandera1970 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you become a Mum for the first time it takes a while for you to adjust to the new role - the new you! It sounds as if your daughter needs a boost to her self esteem and self confidence. She should be feeling like the bees knees and if not, why not? There are a lot of pressures on a new mum - especially pressures to 'perform' socially.
Am I good enough?
Am I doing everything right?
Will I be a good mum? Etc. etc.
It's a lot to cope with especially at such a young age. Putting even more presuure on her when she's not feeling up to it can make matters worse. Try and be sensitive to her needs. She's much more important than the other parents, eh?
Sometimes your confidence can take a terrible knock and many new mums get depressed as having a new baby can be overwhelming.
With some love, support and understanding her confidence will improve naturally. This is what the real issue is so make her feel special. Make her feel like the best mum in the whole world because that's exactly what she is to her new baby.
Maybe she would like you to be there when she meets these people for support. There's nothing wrong with that and neither is it unusual. Please don't push her. She's the important one - not them!
Congratulations on the baby by the way and may many blessings come her way.
Brona
2006-10-23 01:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by lynch 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hiya! im lorraine d's daughter i just wanted to tell you all that i asked mum to ask the question for me as i wasnt logged on to yahoo at the time. she has been great for both me and my little boy jack since having him in september, the reson why im not with the father is because he wasnt good for me and i found out i was pregnant with jack after we split i no how it must look baing a single mum at 18 but i wouldnt change my life in any way shape or form. i have been with my new boyfriend now for over 9months and am really happy im just abit nervous bout meeting his parents im worried they will think wrong of our relationship because im a young single mum with their loving son what should i do he does reasure me theyre nice?
2006-10-23 01:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by sami d 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why on Earth should she meet anyone's parents?
She's a grown woman with a very young baby to take care of. She probably has other things on her mind right now, rather than concentrating on making small talk with strangers.
Once you're no longer living at home there's no reason for anyone to meet your parents, and absolutely no reason for you to meet theirs Stop forcing her into someone elses family when she has a new one of her own to deal with..
2006-10-23 01:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not wishing to sound offensive but she doesn't seem that shy to me..she managed to have a child to another person at 18 and is now contemplating marriage...if shes so shy how did she get pregnant or meet the new guy?
2006-10-23 00:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by geordie.lady 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Can you invite them over for a relaxed dinner in your home? It might be easier for her to be in familiar surroundings when she meets them for the first time if she's this shy.
2006-10-23 00:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by IC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite them to your home so that she will have the support of her family. Presumably the new boyfriend will pave the way with his parents too,.
2006-10-23 01:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by Izzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is she shy ? are they royalties ?
if not there is no reason ..to be .
to have a baby is not a sin ..life happens...
she is a mother now,
and shy or not she has to step forward ....
altough I think it is not shyness rather embarrassement or fear to be jugded ..
best of luck ..
2006-10-23 00:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by angelica 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you,re gonna have to walk her threw it, im fortytwo and shy as well but I force my self to meet new people couse i hate being alone
2006-10-23 01:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by outlaw64 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋