i have tried for YEARS to treat everyone equally in our home. we to promote doing things as a family and supporting one another BUT, the 15 year old is driving me painfully insane. the 15 year old purposely hurts the 7 year olds feelings. it is VERY obvious that she is jealous... how do i make this stop... how do i make her understand how badly she is hurting her little sister's feelings? i've explained it 100 times (or so it feels) but it doesn't stop!
2006-10-23 00:51:01 · 9 answers · asked by JayneDoe 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
These things happen even between siblings.The parents need to be patient. Continue to show the love to both of them equally, as is your wont. Either things Willl settle down, as time passes or these girls wil charter their own course in life, the elder one being already 15 and before long, she will have her own home.
2006-10-23 01:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like the 15 year old thinks you favor the 7 year old more because of the fact the 7 year old is your own daughter and she is just your step daughter, so here is what you do: get the 15 year old and the 7 year old together have them sit in-front of each other and tell them now..."i want both of you too take turns and tell each other what you like the most about each other, after you are finished i want each of you to sit down and write a letter to one another and tell each other what is upsetting you." you may have to help the 7 year old if she cant word thinks correctly because she is just 7. then what you do is write down what you like the most about both of your daughters and what you see in them, that way you are showing you do love BOTH of them and your not taking one over the other. You might even plan some fun time with the 3 of you that you can all do together, say like a movie night, or a game night. I hope this helps some. good luck!
2006-10-25 11:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have younger sisters that are the same way. The 17 year old hurts the 10 year old's feelings... just tell the younger one that she needs to not worry about what the older one says and that she is just jealous... that way the 7 year old doesn't take it the wrong way or think that it is her fault. Then have a talk with the older one and ask her why she is doing it. I am sure you have all ready told her that "she wouldn't like it if someone was doing it to her..." but if none of this works, tell your youngest what I told my 10 year old sis.... Tell her to start making fun of her back... not too viciously or anything, but then when the 15 year old comes up to you and tattles on her sis, tell her that you dont wanna hear it because that is what she is doing to the other one.... I know this may sound mean or wrong to some mothers, but my sister finally stopped picking on my younger sister.... sometimes tough love works out for the better!!! Good luck!!!
2006-10-23 00:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
All I got to say we do things in this life cuz we want to. I'm not going to post on your question as a stranger and say you have no right to be a mother. But maybe you are in some ways. Down the road the teens are going to mess up when a family tragic situation happenes thats what goes. I'm trying to tell you in the end if you stay you will be there mother..As going for the motherly role you are going to be pracaticing that allot when being around these kids. I just would view your options. My father left, my sister and I were really bad towards my mother..Sometimes kids can be nasty but in the end I felt gulit for what i had done. IT made my relationship with my mother better. Good luck I hoped I helped.
2016-05-22 00:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem almost i have a daughter from a previous marriage and so does my husband and my daughter is very jealous of his.She doesn't want her stepsister around at all but i feel the same i have a very distaste for my stepdaughter plus we have a new baby together,they dont seem to be jealous of the baby just each other.They fight almost constantly they are four years and six years old.It is a constant battle when they are together we just keep talking to them and explaining that they are sisters now and they are gonna have to learn to get along and be role models for their new little sister thats really all you can do.If the fifteen year old doesn't cut it out send her to her mom's and tell her when she can act better she can come back.IF it gets to out of hand here thats what i plan to do.
2006-10-23 02:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one! Maybe if you approach it from a different angle.
The 15 year old should be looking out for the 7 year old and "protecting" her. The 7 year old should be looking up to the 15 year old for guidance.
Maybe the 15 year old isn't getting enough attention??
Why don't you try spending time with both of them? "just the girls"...it probably wouldn't hurt to try and spend time with just your stepdaughter. She probably feels like an outsider.
2006-10-23 00:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by Agent99 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how it feel's to have sister like that Maybe if you all set down and let your seven year old tell her how she feel's it might change. And you guy's will be right there to tell her there are NO favorite's.
Hope it help's I really know what it's like I've been there.
God Bless
2006-10-23 01:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Somone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look hurt and let the 15 year old know u r hurt, and leave it at that, but b firm on things that are important for her, like her performance in her studies.
2006-10-23 01:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by maynze2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick the crap out of both of them (equally of course) and then leave them alone for the Whole evening. They will bond and learn to hate you equally. finally they see the same picture
2006-10-23 01:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by The Shell Answer Man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋