There has always been trouble brewing but it recently came to a head when they did not turn up to my wedding. One half of my so called family (aunt/ uncle/ cousins) boycotted the wedding -only found out 2 days before the wedding that they werent coming! I have always been the ones keeping everyone together -whats the point!
2006-10-23 00:38:15 · 15 answers · asked by harry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well the only thing i can tell you is this. Cut you loses as they are and bow out respectfully. If that's they way they are then they are missing out on something. It seems they are toxic stay away from them.
2006-10-23 00:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by dee luna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That is incredibly sad. All I can say is it is their loss if they didn't want to spend such a special day with you.
Sometimes families just don't get alone and you really just have to cut your losses and move on. Somethings can be too hard to get over, while other things people are just being stubborn about.
I know I would be extremely hurt if my family had not shown up for my wedding. It would be really really hard for me to get over that.
I would suggest telling them how much it hurt you that they did not attend and tell them that if they would like to be a part of your life, then the ball is in their court now. I wouldn't do anything extra to be social with them. Leave that up to them. If they can't make time for you, then it really is their loss.
2006-10-23 02:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by totsandtwins04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people get a kick out of making others miserable, dont waste your life by holding something together that isnt worth holding on to, there has to be effort on both sides, sounds like your better off without them. if they cant make the effort to put aside differences just for one day for you then your right to ask y bother. i dont think you should, just bc they're family doesnt mean you should put up with bad behaviour.
2006-10-23 01:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie keep on dong what you do cause you are doing what was intended for you to do. You are the peace maker & every family has to have one. That just shows that you have a great heart & don't let simple ignorance from the family ruin that.
2006-10-23 00:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they wud say blood is thichker then water but i dont believe its d case now...believe me u cant help all tat's happening..may be u can go, talk n try to sort out things but if they r being this hard-hearted lot i guess its time we pay heed to the fact that blood relations in dis era r not wot they were...but always remember u not the only one going thru that phase...(of seeing ur family break apart in front o ur eyes)
2006-10-23 01:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by clairvoyance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theyre not worth the effort, just cause youre related to them doesnt mean that you should give them the time of day. I have nothing to do with my family on my mothers side, they are not nice people and if they werent related i wouldnt have had anything to do with either.
2006-10-23 00:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel.....sometimes it's just not worth it. Family can treat you like a friend never would! I recently dis-owned my family as I simply couldn't take the constant harassment to do what they expected of me.
Please do what feels right for you and your own happiness.You can not live your life for others.
2006-10-23 00:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by red260z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family what can i say? u ave to love em no matter what! every family has a feud like mine- my bro got beaten the sh*t out of by my sis bf and now pressing charges, half family want him to drop them the other half will not spk to him if he does! world war 3!!! but u av to stand by then no matter what, without them u got no-one and dats much worse!!
2006-10-23 00:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by MiZz RuBy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People in the same family are related by blood and "blood is thicker than water" says that family ("blood") relations are more important than relations with friends. Example: "When my best friend and my brother got in a fight I had to help my brother; blood is thicker than water." "Blood is thicker than water" compares the thickness of blood (family relationship) to the thickness of water (friendships) and says that our family relations are more important ("thicker") than all others. Example: "Friends will come and friends will go but your family is always there for you; blood is thicker than water." Family relations (blood) are more important (thicker) than other relations (water) so "blood is thicker than water."
2006-10-23 00:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some families are strange like that just dont contact them.
I would have the hump if they done that to me 2 days b4 my wedding.
Presumabley you still had to pay for they're meal the selfish b'stards!!!
2006-10-23 00:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by HIMSELF 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋