and we've been spending time together. I realize he's not marriage material, he's been married 3 times but we do have fun and even more fun in bed. My question is it wrong to just have a casual relationship? He's been talking that since we're sexually active that it is wrong and we're committing a sin because we're not married but given his record, I wouldn't ever marry him. I sometimes have guilt but he is a lot of fun, what should I do?
2006-10-23 00:35:37 · 10 answers · asked by ooolala 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No he's not the reason I left and I'm not seeing more than one guy
2006-10-23 00:40:42 · update #1
I think it is good that you chose one guy to have sex with & as long as you wasn't seeing both guys at the same time & the new guy is not your reason for leaving the marriage,you are ok. Now you are the one that has to make the decission if you want to live in sin with not being married & sexually active .
2006-10-23 00:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you sound like a very emotionally healthy person who is clear about what she wants. You obviously realize that you don't want to continue in a bad marriage and are content to have a casual relationship where both of you are getting your needs met. There's nothing wrong with that. I agree that your current "beau" doesn't sound like marriage material and so you don't need to complicate the situation by making this relationship permanent. You both are adults and sound like you are being monogamous- so you are not sinning!
2006-10-23 07:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So who said you had to get married again. Just enjoy the company. Did you know there are now more single people in the US then married couples? Times have changed. If you are having fun in and out of bed, go for it.
2006-10-23 07:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, w/ no offense but you've been married for 14 yrs and you divorced ur husband without knowing it's immoral!!!
well, yes, it is bad. People get tempted, what u should do now is go to church and confess and ask for repentance, after which marry this guy you've been seeing with the permit of the church and your old husband and when it's done then u can do whatever you want with your partner
2006-10-23 07:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by Betthany G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that u r doing a sin...
In my openion, everyone has the right to be happy in their own way..
You r not cheating anyone!
U are divorsed frm ur husband and he has also done the same... You r not hiding anything frm him.....
So there is not at all a matter of sin.....
Go ahead..
Best of luck
2006-10-23 07:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by Rahul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to make fun of me or of yourself. Grab the life how it is, and be happy - not to much fun left on this earth.
2006-10-23 07:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EEWW! Shouldn't be dating til divorced.
What should you do? Get yourself frequently tested for HIV/AIDs and various STDs!!! Worth all the fun, eh?
2006-10-23 08:48:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever works for you honey.......but you sound like a hoe to me......I'm not just saying that to be mean....I think you are using men....the one your fu@king and the one you waisted fourteen years of his life with..........your just another prime example of why men should control the marriage.....the women's liberation movement fu@ked everything up in America!!!
2006-10-23 07:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by 6ft5inallman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown woman. Play the game.
2006-10-23 07:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by big_strong_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have fun as long as you are using safe sex --- and he has a strange sense of ethics -- yes stay away from a long term relationship with him i think
no its not wrong --- well as long as you think its ok its ok
2006-10-23 07:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋