This is the six month since we started our relationship. But this lady is too demanding. Everytime we meet or she calls, she just ask for money. She just like please but me this......... buy me that.........
She has just sent me a tex in my mobile phone "I dont love her because I dont take the responsibility"
I have stopped giving her money since September.I really dont like this sort of relationship. THAT IS EXCHANGING LOVE FOR MONEY!
I just ask my self, this is just a very beginning step in our relationship!, how about when we get married?? what if a guy with more money that I have comes? Does she really love me ??
Please advise me, what further step should I take to deal with this. I really love her, but her habits makes me really uncomrotable and feel like she is using me as an ATM.
Please advice me!! Please
2006-10-23 00:34:05 · 28 answers · asked by imma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she give love a bad name!
next, men will be generalizing us again...that we only need men for money..that's not true...i will love my man more than my peanut butter! lol
seriously, she don't deserve you...leave before you turn into an ATM offline...(got it?)
2006-10-23 00:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that you have to hear everyone here tell you to give up and leave her... But that's the best for you. Yes, you may love her, but based on your description of what she does, she doesn't reciprocate your love for her. She only love your money. Leave her before you sink deeper into the relationship maintained by your money. I mean I would rather you to feel all the hurt now when you break up with her (even tho you love her) than letting her slowly suck out all your money and your love for her and leave you more hurt afterwards. Are you a rich guy/have a wealthy background? If you are, you should be really careful from now on when dating girls. I know this is not a drama series but do note that materialistic girls like those in the dramas do exist in real life too. I'm not trying to tell you to suspect every girl you date of whether their feelings are genuine or not, but at least be cautious of the materialistic ones. You may want to give her another chance, talk to her about
2016-03-28 04:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question you should ask is does she loves me as much as I love her.
If you're confident about that than she has a problem with money. I presume she works, if so you should help her manage her money and organize her spending.
I hate asking my husband for money and often times I need too because I'm horrible with managing my spending.
Honestly some women have horrible habits of asking money or making men buy them things and that is the materialistic side of these women.
I hope your girlfriend is honest with you about her feelings and I think you should explain the situation and make her understand the importance of a relationship. However that does not mean you should become stingy.
If you get married one day you'd have a real problems on your hand if she is spending more than what you're earning.
2006-10-23 01:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by uma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what to do, do it. Since when love depends on how much money a person have or give? Perhaps is this's now that you are just bf and gf, What's gonna once you 2 are married?
She doesn't love you, she'll go with the 1st one who shows her a nice saving account. Stop doing this to your self, you deserve something a lot better, a person who respect you for who you are and not for what you have or how much money you are caring in that moment.
2006-10-23 00:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Javy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very good for you for putting a stop to it.Explain to her that you will buy her gifts for special accations and you might even buy her something if it is a severly needed item but you will no longer but her stuff or give her money on demand.I`ve been married almost 4 years and I have 6 kids,(all boys)Only one of them is by my husband.I still have a hard time asking my husband for money to buy his baby something.Or if I need cigarettes or a soda it takes me all day to build up the courage to ask him to get me some.Your girlfriend is a gold digger.Send her a text saying she dont love you because all she wants is your money.Reverse the roles on her.
2006-10-23 00:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, shes just using u.If she did love u, she wouldnt be manipulating u by saying that u dint love her just coz u dont give her money.Get out of this relationship as soon as u can. I have a girlfriend who faces the same problem with her guy, if she doesnt give him the money, he wont talk to her.She finally wised up and broke up wid him.
2006-10-23 00:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sunrise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it man, but DROP HER! If she's going to accuse you of not loving her and crap like that when you tell her no, you don't need her in your life. Where does all her money go? Why does she constantly need money from you? I can't go so far as to say whether she loves you or not, but if she does, it's not a healthy form of love, and really not the kind you want to spend the rest of your life wondering about. Good luck making your decision.
2006-10-23 00:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her. She obviously doesn't give a damn about you, only your income. If you cant get rid of her just make little changes like... when you are going to meet her only take a small amount of cash and no credit cards. If she gets into a fit because of it then you will see that she is a moneyhungry hag. Or foget your wallet completely. Then you could try asking her to buy you something, and if she doesnt buy it tell her it just goes to show that she doesn't love or care about you.
2006-10-23 00:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by bonfireheat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, you are one hundred percent correct.
In my relationship, my boyfriend normally pays when we go out, but I never ask him to buy me things, and I don't expect it. The thing is that he gives me things when he wants to and I give him things when I want to.
A relationship should not be base on need. She needs you for financial support, and if that is the case she obviously needs you for emotional support too. A relationship should be based on wanting that person in your life for mutual reasons.
If you feel like an ATM, get out now, it has only been 6 months.
2006-10-23 00:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by cyber chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have seen the light, she is using you for the money, it's not you she wants, you are just an open wallet for her, thnkfully you have started to refuse, now she is resorting to emotional blackmail, dump her, because she will probably leave you if someone with more money comes aong, find someone who will love you for you and not your money, get rid of her.
2006-10-23 00:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the wisest thing to do is to part from her and don't get a new one for at least one month becuz you are emotionally provoked. then look for a fair girl not one who is in love with your pocket and money but one who loves your personality. Moreover you are not suppose to give your gf money
2006-10-23 00:41:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋