my boyfriend is doing alot he watchs the baby when i am working but their are time he gets so up set at time for well beening a baby he has never done anything to me but i still worrie about my son. And i work 3rd shift sometime i get off of work at 7am i get home and when our son wakes up he wants me to watch him after i get home and he has been home he could of slept but he stays up all night till like 4:30am and i all ways says he is tired and i worked 8 hr. and he don't even work. What should i do?
2006-10-23 00:11:25 · 7 answers · asked by ASHLEY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are the one making the money while he is home watching the baby then it is his responsibility to look after that child and the home while you are away. Just like it would be yours if he was working and you were at home.
I don't think pawning the baby off on you immediately after you get home from work is a great idea. Yes, you should spend time with your child, but you need sleep as well. Otherwise you become sleep deprived and that can lead to some serious problems. Especially when left alone with a child.
My nephews mother is the same way. She would leave my brother with my nephew after he got home from work. He would spend the entire day watching him while she was off doing who knows what. Meanwhile, my brother would have no time to sleep in between working. Not a good thing. He actually dozed off once from lack of sleep, and woke up to the miniblind cord around my nephews neck. (He was fine, but scared the hell out of him). Not to mention is was extremely unfair that he had to work and watch the baby while she did whatever she wanted.
IMO if you are in a relationship then it needs to be two parted. You both need to be splitting the responsibilities of parenthood. It sounds like he is just being lazy and irresponsible. Staying up all night and then relying on you to deal with the baby when you get home from work. I could see maybe helping with the baby every now and then before getting some rest yourself, but every day. No way. Sounds to me like he is taking advantage of you.
2006-10-23 03:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by totsandtwins04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it does no good for your bf's ego to be the one at home with the baby while your at work. You seem a bit unappreciative of him. Who knows why he stays up until 4:30, but he does, and you certainlly can't control what time he sleeps. He has been with the baby all night, so of course he would want you to spend some time with your son. Its not easy being cooped up all night or day in the house with a baby. I say give the guy a break. it could be worse, he might just decide to get a job and you'll have to find a babysitter. Give the guy a break, and a thankyou while your at it
2006-10-23 07:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It almost sounds like you have 2 babies. You are right that he could sleep while you are at work. You should put your child's interest and well being first. Unless you like to be the breadwinner...at least have him get a part time job to help you out with the bills. If he doesn't want to do that....well there are many fish in the sea.
2006-10-23 07:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the middle finger!
You never allow anyone to treat you that way.
That is disrespectful.
You need a supportive mate not someone that lacks appreciation.
I will say a prayer for you and your child
Godbless
2006-10-23 07:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you expect? Women should be the ones taking care of babies and the man should be the one working. You guys have it all backwards.
2006-10-23 07:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by sandstorm222 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and find someone that is compatible with you. Oil and water don't mix. Your getting taken advantage of.
2006-10-23 07:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask your mom or your aunty if you can live with them and keep working.
tell your boyfriend to come back when he has a job.
2006-10-23 07:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋