I am 17 years old and my entire life no girls have liked me. The only girl that did became a lesbian but thats a different story entirely. But literally within 5 minutes of each other 2 of my friends told me they have a crush on me. I don't live near any of them so I can't go by location, I really like both of them, and I just don't know what to do. I've never had to deal with anything like this in my entire life and probably never will again but I just need some advice... and since I don't want to pay for a therapist I thought i'd turn to complete strangers, they always seem to have better advice anyway
2006-10-23 00:11:10 · 12 answers · asked by Absinthe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't really say which one I like more because they're both so different. One makes me laugh more which is good, and one makes me smile whenever i'm down. They've both done stuff of course to tell me they're interested and they were both very sweet, thats whats making this such a hard thing to deal with
2006-10-23 00:19:05 · update #1
this is a difficult situation to be in, sit down and right a list of what it means to you for these girls to like you, what you like in each of them, do you like one girl more then the other? Do you think you can risk your friendship with them for a relationship? These are all the things you have to think about... But otherwise date these woman causally and see how you go!
Good Luck
2006-10-23 00:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I would keep both going for as long as I could. That sounds mean but you are 17 and looking at your first relationship. Now you know that you are '' ok '' and other girls will come along. There are no rules that say you have to be exclusive. I would wait. I would see what happens next. See how they act now that you know they are interested. High school romances are so fickle, ON one day and gone by lunch. It's still fun though. Of course if both girls are in a same class with you, this could blow up quickly. That might just add top your REP, and then all the girls will want you. The less said the better. Keep them wondering. GOOD LUCK !!
2006-10-23 00:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by randband4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nature, and time, have a way of equalizing the negative forces.
I felt seperate and alone at your age, with three younger sisters, two girlfriends, a job, and a private yard with 18 cars in it! It is part of the hormones forcing us to change.
You have to do the toughest thing ever, be patient.
In a couple years, you will be totally focused on totally other universes of existance! So, don't hassle it now. Everyone you think likes you, might like you for their own fantasies, not for the reality of who you are. Some who don't know you now, will grow to admire you later.
There is something like 15 million females for you to choose from, in the four states surrounding your home, in all age brackets.
Sheesh, you'll be my age (60 this December!) before you've even met more than about 0.0001 % of them!!!
So, all that queasy feeling in the gut is just normal nature, getting you ready for fight or flight, from the nest!
2006-10-23 00:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so serious about it. You are 17. Date them both casually and see where it goes. There is no requirement to monogamous for casual dating. As there is no requirement to be with only one there is no requirement to go and tell each one that you are dating someone else, just yet. What is important is honesty.
If one asks you if you are seeing someone else, just tell her that you are dating another just like her.
Be wary of a girl who wants to get too serious ( monogamous)too fast. You are still way young take your time and see whats out there.
2006-10-23 00:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls don't like to show guys that they are interested. They want to feel comfortable first, knowing that you are interested. Don't go with a girl if you don't like her, you'll just break her heart in the end, and believe me it will come back to you. Try meet more girls, and if you're interested, casually let them know, and see what happens.
2006-10-23 00:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if the friends are girls or guys but hey nowadays I don't suppose it really matters... Give them both a try - Maybe even all together.
2006-10-23 00:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by mark leshark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has got to be something you like more about one then the other. Base your decision on that. Who lives closer? Who is hotter? Who can you see yourself with years from now?
2006-10-23 00:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont believe that strangers are perfect advisors. you have to meet them.. but what's the crush they have on you? can u find it? if its simple in sense, walk through it for fun.. if not, have a good time.
2006-10-23 00:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From nothing to something and is not good.
Wait which one make the first step to you.
2006-10-23 00:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha. well hon, you need to give us more to go on than "two friends have a crush on me". One is like THIS and one is like THAT, would be good
But Go team!
2006-10-23 00:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by Black Parade Billie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋