I have always had to complete with my sister on everything. When it comes to her and my parents I cant do anything better than her. And unfortunately last year I proved them right when I fell pregnant and I made a mistake of saying the baby was someones while it wasn't. It has just recently come to my mother and sisters ears but still they havent told my dad. What do you think I should do when the truth comes out? We as South Africans have a cultural thing that a guy does when he gets a girl pregnant. He has to pay damages. Do you think I should wait until the baby's father comes to pay damages before I tell my dad or what?
2006-10-22 23:44:41 · 9 answers · asked by Mabong 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tell your dad, and the guy has to take up the responsibility for the child. By lying, you are only making it easier for him to get out of the responsibility, and unnecessarily putting an innocent person in an awkward position. You are also messing up your life.
Hope things work well with you.
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2006-10-23 00:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Starreply 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of the situation in your family dynamic, you should above all things be honest. I'm not sure I understand if you named some one else as being the father than the man who is actually responsible, but I think you owe it to everyone involved to tell the honest truth. It should come from your mouth- no one elses. It doesn't matter what else your parents or sister might think about you, then at least they can't say you are a liar as well.
I don't think having the baby proves anything except that you made a mistake. The baby is now a reality, and you are now the parent. It's time to quit worrying about what everyone else is thinking, and do what is right because it is right. That much you already know how to do. You are a parent now, and the baby will think you are the best person in the world. It won't matter what anyone else thinks. Now you have the chance to be the person your baby knows you are, and become the best person you can be. If your parents and sister recognize that, wonderful. If they don't, well- it's the baby's opinion that counts the most.
2006-10-22 23:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by The mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you need to tell you dad now - you put your mother in a bad predicament by having to keep something from your father. This is your issue and you were obviously old enough to have sex and get pregnant so now deal with it like an adult.
I don't know how old you are but have you considered adoption? Good luck to you.
2006-10-22 23:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you are honest and open. The truth is always the best way to go forward, that way the right man pays the traditional "damages" and the other one doesnt get angry.
2006-10-22 23:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the question ??
You should tell the father, then tell your father.
About your sister.. get over it you have more important things to worry about now apart from who your parents like the best...
2006-10-22 23:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you should never have to compete for attention from your parents...you are just as special and deserving of positive attention as your sister is...mistakes are mistakes and they cannot be changed, you have to steer another direction...just be honest with everyone involved, keeping secrets destroys families horribly....just sit down with your father and discuss it...naturally he will be upset, but just keep a cool head and everything will work itself out in the end.....
2006-10-22 23:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by Ice Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by mathison 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stick to your question.....what to do about favoritism........well, the best thing to do is make a mental note....the problem isn't you!!!! it is something wrong with the person who is showing this favoritism....don't let this person ruin your life......be yourself and as far as the baby....do what is right.....tell the truth!
2006-10-23 00:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by 6ft5inallman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that will be depending on the culture you have...
but for the mean time, enjoy your pregnancy.
2006-10-22 23:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by johannea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋