Should i go to the Hospital. My mum of cancer died 10 days ago at the hosp. She was in & out of hosp since feb

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this yr. But she stayed there4 at least 2 mths till she die. I wanted to return back some injections instead of disposing them and at the same time meet her doc and the nurses, thanking them..Now that time is approaching i'm nt sure like some apprehension. Her death was hard 4 me. cudn't accept it. Instead of thinking her dead, i try to think she's still in the hosp. Now going back to the hosp and nt seeing her there. Shud i go now or wait.

Answer 1

i think you should, it may help you come to terms with what has happened.
Dont bottle it all up, its a terrible thing that has happened, but at least she is no longer in pain.
i think you should go and thank the docs for doing everything they can to have kept you mum comfortable. :o)
xXx

Answer 2

My mother died quite suddenly from cancer in january this year.
A few days after she died, I too was afraid to go back into the hospital but a few days later I took a card and sweets to thank the nurses. I felt that if I did not face going to the hospital, then it may give me a fear of going into hospitals at all.
I am sure you already know that its not healthy to think of your mum still being in the hospital and its not allowing you to accept that she is dead which you need to do in order for you to move on with your life.
I would advise going to the hospital and thanking the nurses then you will be able to lay to rest the idea that she is still in hospital and begin to accept her death.
Your mother would want you to keep living your life and be happy. Things do get easier after a few months so dont give up.

Answer 3

my mum died of cancer nearly 2 years ago. my dad is in the grip of advanced alzheimers and he`s in and out of hospital now and unfortunately it`s the same hospital my mum died in. i can sooo understand how u feel. maybe it`d be a good idea as someone else suggested by writing a note to the doctors and nurses thanking them or maybe putting off going there for a while. my mum was ill for years wiv various things and wen she died it didn`t come as a shock to me. i kind of accepted it a long time before she went. i think it would be a very good idea for u to get some bereavement councelling and i hope u`ve got some good people around u to help u through this very difficult time. things will get better for u it just takes time. i just don`t think nows a good time for u to go back there wiv it still being so soon after. my thoughts are wiv u

Answer 4

If you cant face going dont. Take the injections to the local surgery and write a thank you letter to the hospital. I wrote a letter when the same happened to my mum, as I couldnt face going back there. You do whatever feels right to you. Grieving takes a long time, many years so dont feel pressured by anyone to get over this quickly.

Answer 5

Sorry to here about your Mom, i lost mine 4 years come Dec. It's hard till this day. Go only if you feel like it's right for you. Thanking the nurses and the doctor is a good thing to do, but if you go thinking she is still there is not good for you. Maybe you should go talk to someone like a pastor of your church. Or they have groups that could be of help. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Poor thing. I think you should go to give yourself some sort of closure so you can start grieving. Then you can start to try and remember her as she was when well and healthy and happy - even better then thinking of her sick in hospital. Can you take a friend or relative with you for support? Or just think of it as taking the meds back, and while you are there chat to the staff and tell them how you are feeling. Then you can decide whether to see her or not.

Lots of best wishes to you whatever you do xxx

Answer 7

My father died of cancer a year ago and i was asked if i would like to speak at his funeral but i declined, i now wish i had said just a few words. the point i am getting at is you will probably only get one chance to do this and if you did not want to you would not be asking the question. be brave and go with your heart im sure the doctors and nurses will be very gratefull for your thanks and support as despite them seing illness and death everyday it affects them as well. Good Luck and try to remember your mother when she had good times the memory of her will never go away but the pain will fade in time.

Answer 8

I think that you should go back to the hospital even though it might be hard 4 u. Have one of your good friends to go with you in case you need a shoulder, but sometimes u just need to face your fears. Sometime or another you are going to have to step foot in a hospital. It might as well be now!!

I'm really sorry bout your mom I feel 4 u!
Whit

Answer 9

sorry to hear that

my mum died of cancer in a hospoice this summer
i took my family to see where "granny" died a fortnight later
yes, it will bring back the memories, and it will hurt
i would still advise "do it"
the injections etc you can take to any dispensing chemists or doctors surgery, but you can't see the nurses/doctors anywhere else

get it over with, you'll probably find relief...i wish you luck

Answer 10

I*m soo sorry! I think you definitly should thank the doctors and nurses. If you go to the hosp. you can finally except her death and move on. just remember she*s in a better place.