2006-10-22 23:28:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sure. Both of my husbands came out of it better than I did. The divorces had little if anything to do with my disorder.
2006-10-22 23:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm bipolar. I'm not very stable mentally, even though I take my meds. I am still capable of love and I care a lot for others. Being bipolar is an illness, not a character flaw. It has nothing to do with what that person is on the inside. If they're well-medicated and well-controlled, there should be no problem. It does, however, never go away. If your friend/fiancee refuses meds and stops going to her doctor, then she will relapse. It's a chemical imbalance, it's not her fault.
Like many other bipolars, I know I'll NEVER hurt anyone. Those "patients" depicted on TV do not represent the general public. The news gives us a bad name too. Remember the guy in the Orlando airport that went "nuts" and threatened to blow up the plane? He got killed by the air marshalls. He was off his meds. Not all of us are like that. We are also shown on Law and Order, Criminal Minds, Oprah, and Dr. Phil. Only the Dr. Phil show has been close to an accurate depiction of the "real" nature of the illness. Those other shows lead the public to believe that we're a population that they should be afraid of.
Many bipolars can live normal lives, hold jobs, and be good mothers/fathers. Give your friend/fiancee a chance.
2006-10-23 12:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by kim_bp1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love the person and they are NOT abusive. Also, they should recognize and treat their disorder. Would you marry a person with cancer if they were just ignoring it? Unfortunately, in a marriage with someone who is bipolar the spouse can end up being a caretaker for periods of time. My wife is severly bipolar and we've been married 7 years. It's been tough but I wouldn't change it for the world. I knew what I was getting into and felt ready for it.
2006-10-23 07:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Clrinsight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband doesn't seem to have a problem with it. He's been married to a bi-polar for a few years now. If the person you are marrying is under treatment then you won't know the difference. Treated bi-polar patients are just the same as anyone else. Now if they are not seeking treatment and are still experiencing mood swings and dangerous behavior it's a bit tougher. But if you really love the person - you should stick by them and help them to get the help they need.
2006-10-23 06:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by Shadowtwinchaos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nowadays there are effective drugs for this condition.They make the lives of people having this disease almost normal. However, what you have to bear in mind is that you will always have to look out for your partner's taking the pills. Some bipolars may , at some point, refuse to take medication, and that is when their actions could turn against you.
2006-10-23 06:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by GothAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both my husband and I are bipolar and everything was great in our marriage. I am not saying it is easy but no marriage is. But if you love that person and can't see yourself apart then yes you should marry them. We have alot of ups and downs but it makes our marriage stronger.
2006-10-23 08:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes with some conditions. If the person is willing to stay the long course on medicine and to recognize that they have a problem that needs long term treatment
2006-10-23 08:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think it is safe,as i am bi polar and i have not harmed or killed my husband, or my kids, and my husband is a bigger man for standing by me i reckon, and i love him more for that everyday. but i was in an abbusive relationship prior to my marriage, with a man that did not suffer from any problem other than being a control freak and he bashed me stupid, so dont be so judgementle,as least most people with bi polar get help, the everyday women basher doesn't, so weigh that up!!!
2006-10-23 08:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by pineapple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Medicated or unmedicated?
Failthfully keeping in touch w/their psychiatrist or not?
How commited to recovery are they?
What is their track record?
Is this you getting married or someone else?
Your best predictoin of future behaviour will be based on thier history, their patterns and choices.
2006-10-23 06:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by It Works. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure if you enjoy a difficult life. My best friend was and she went throuh 2 divorces from 2 fine kind men before she suicided. She was not 35 when she did this. PS I moarned her but she made my life a hell when her personality turned Good luck to both of you and make sure she takes her medicine
2006-10-23 06:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by devora k 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋