Hi I had a baby last year and I said it was my boyfriends baby but it turns out to be my one night stands baby. What I want to know is how do I tell him he is not a father afte rall the pain an totuor me and my family put him thru regarding child support?
2006-10-22 23:24:55 · 8 answers · asked by Mabong 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
the best thing to do is be completely honest....the further this goes with the truth in hiding, the more difficult it will be....just be calm, rational, do not let it turn into a three ring circus...if need be get a mediator to sit down with you and your boyfriend, no one else needs to be present...who knows? maybe he will still want the role as daddy....just remember, you are doing this for your baby, not yourself, and not him...the baby is the most important right now, it is all about him/her.....just get it out before he finds out some other way....just keep your cool...
2006-10-22 23:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by Ice Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him. If you don't and he finds out you can be held liable for what you've put him through and also the child support he's been paying. He shouldn't suffer because you're embarrassed to tell him after all this. Child support from a father's point of view is not fun ( I can vouch for that ) So if it's not his you are being totally unfair and in most respects.. you're stealing.
Good Luck
2006-10-26 06:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Y knot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it's going to be a hard thing to do no matter what. No one can really tell you the BEST way for you to tell him, because no one really knows the whole situation or the man himself. All we can tell you to do is do it the way you feel is best. If you feel that he could get angry and violent, then be sure to notify the proper authorities, or even get a few friends to come along to ensure your protection. But, the truth must be told, because it would be unfair to him if you didn't tell him the truth. I am sorry that this had to happen... I hope things work out
2006-10-22 23:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by abercrombie2177 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no choice but to tell him! It isn't fair that he be forced to raise a baby / financially / mentally /emotionally that isn't even his.
You just need to be blunt and tell him the truth, if he doesn't stick around is besides the point...this is so not fair to him and the other (one night stand guy) hopefully you can find him and get the support you need for your child.
2006-10-23 03:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should come out and tell him immediately that he is not the father because he should not have to pay for a child he did not create unless he chooses to. You would want your brother or father to know if that was them so the fact that you asked this was unneccesary, you know you should tell him.
2006-10-26 10:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by misnudad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him!!! Mistakes happen and you would be better to fix it now than waiting any longer things could be bad from having to pay lots of money back to later in life hurting your child and the man emotionally. good luck
2006-10-22 23:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by tami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no choice but to tell him the truth.
2006-10-22 23:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to bite the bullet and tell him he is bound to be mad and annoyed and even upset...
2006-10-22 23:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋