Both my boyfriend and I have had previous sexual relationships with other people as well as a sexual relationship together. We've decided recently we should not engage in sex until and if we are married. We are not engaged yet and have no definate plans to marry. This is foreign territory for me. How affectionate can we remain being without tempting ourselves to indulge in sex?
2006-10-22 22:58:47 · 10 answers · asked by Carole 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yeah, you see I wasn't looking for anyone to pass judgment on my life. I know myself and the only One who can judge me knows me as well. I am making changes in my life to better my relationship with God. I am soliciting advice for my new found abstinence and a clearer definition of what exactly that should entail.
2006-10-23 03:18:49 · update #1
Hey - great question. I just saw a blog about abstinence and how far is too far - www.ampartnership.org/blog. It says that abstinence means no sexual activity till marriage, and sexual activity is any kind of sexual stimulation or genital contact. So, yeah, holding hands, kissing... sometimes even that can be too much. Way to go on making a good decision! You'll see the benefits in the future for sure.
2006-10-27 05:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are asking the wrong question. Instead of asking how far you can push the boundaries, you should be asking if your relationship is right in God's eyes.
Everyone's "line" is different. I know of people having to take it to the extreme of not kissing each other, because that would lead to sex. Everyone knows that one thing leads to another, so on and so forth. You just need to set up a definate boundary.
Do not have a rule "no sex". You will push that boundary over and over until it breaks. A good boundary could be no touching private areas...
Ephesians 5:3
"But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people."
2006-10-23 06:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first and best place to start is with Prayer. God will honor that on your part. We all fall far from his Glory. Ask him for the strength to resist temptation and lust. The next step is no contact with each other pysically. While I personally am agianst kissing before marriage as it could lead to more things. You may be able to kiss without it going anywhere as long as he doesn't start kissing on your neck. In the end though, it's on you to figure out what line you can not cross without it leading to sex.
2006-10-23 06:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Triple 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its rather admirable that you are wanting to do this. I am a yoga student and in serious practice of yoga people don't have sex before they get married. It helps you stay level headed and it helps you develop a deeper freindship.
I think you shouldn't kiss and you should stay away from each other's sensitive areas.
You will discover a whole new world of affection in this way. Talk to each other and listen to each other and play frisbee or something.
2006-10-23 06:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by Tami 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This situation may happen with any humankind. It is because humankind anytime anywhere tries to do what he likes.
Don't hesitate to discover your real face. All the same we all do like that.
2006-10-23 06:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by Emeritus 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry dear but it seems that your whole world revolves around that single word :sex. Ever tried it with love & affection ?
2006-10-23 06:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by CRAnoop 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
With all due respect, but you've already commited adultery!! Just repent for your sins and and accept Jesus as your Saviour, then you're a-ok!!
2006-10-23 06:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
the only way is to stay away from it completely
2006-10-23 06:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by trymyanswer 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yuck! yuck! yuck! yuck! yuck! yuck!
you views are totally foreign to me.
I'm glad I'm a Muslim man and glad we still have noble Muslim women to look to who can bring up our children in a chaste environment.
2006-10-23 06:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
hold hands and kiss...but thats it.
2006-10-23 06:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mystie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋